Have you been cheated ON? How did it make you feel?

[tito21]

Yep - my ex cheated. My perspective - he didn't cheat ON ME - he cheated on himself. He lost the best thing he will ever have. I loved and supported him - unconditionally. I was there for him 100%. He lost my friends and family who loved him. His life imploded and he is now all alone and has to live with his actions and tell everyone going forward why our relationship ended - because he is a liar and a cheater. Most of his friends have left him and many of them want to be friends with me. And as a parting gift from the person he cheated with - he's now HIV+. (I've tested a couple of times and I'm fine) He has to live the rest of his life knowing what his actions did to our relationship and to his own life. I feel sorry for him. He is a very damaged man and all alone in the world.

How did you find out that your Ex was cheating on you? What were the clues??

 

[DiamondJoe]

And yet there is a marked difference between a mugged liberal and someone whom takes a tragic event as an excuse to screw people over.
I got mugged, learned how to defend myself, and became more interested in bettering the neighborhood that got me instead of erasing it.

Fair enough - and noted that you still had time for a liberal dig - but the point still stands: one man's misfortune does not speak volumes of female behaviour, even if it does mark him.

 

[tolsty17cm]

How did you find out that your Ex was cheating on you? What were the clues??

He felt that he had to tell me - he had unsafe sex became HIV+ and felt that he had to tell the truth - so while his action was very selfish - he had some consideration for me.

 

[Cecil56]

I was cheated on in 1999 with a lady I was in love with...very much! Never been the same since.

Hard to trust again and really open up your heart. Still single and will remain that way. It sucks ass!

 

[Infernal]

I discovered I was in an open relationship and didn't know it. He said he wanted a relationship but wasn't ready to give up casual sex. When I discovered his profile online that said he was single, I told him that if he's telling people that he's single, then he might as well be single so it was one less lie to keep track of.

 

[HorseHung40's]

I am no saint. I have had sex for money, and, felt nothing emotional about it. I would likely feel no emotion, if I were to learn that a loved one has cheated on me.

 

[pengucat]

Got cheated on, and I was absolutely furious. He tried to basically dodge any conversation afterwards but we had a lot of mutual friends and if I'm honest I made it a point to make his life hell for a while as I processed.

 

[DavidAlmeria]

Cheated on in my 20s and was devastated. Later in life I’d encourage it and I find it incredibly exciting.

I cheat as often as possible but BF and I haven’t had sex in 10 years so I’m not sure if it counts