Have you been sexually harassed? have you sexually harassesd someone?

[cockydude2018]

I have lots of stories.... as a harassed man and as as a harasser. What constitutes "harassment"?

 

[twoton]

I haven't been. There were a couple times when women in the work place made remarks either to me or about me that maybe would've been considered unprofessional.
So far as I am aware, I have never harassed anyone. I've certainly never done anything intentional--and absolutely never touched anyone.

 

[cockydude2018]

I haven't been. There were a couple times when women in the work place made remarks either to me or about me that maybe would've been considered unprofessional.
So far as I am aware, I have never harassed anyone. I've certainly never done anything intentional--and absolutely never touched anyone.

I don't question those who consider unwanted comments or physical contact to be sexual harassment. But... I was in a jam-packed body-to-body straight music club in Atlanta, and there was a cute guy with his girlfriend in front of me. Pulsing, throbbing music. I began to stroke his inner thigh with my hand.... throughout the whole concert. When house lights came up at 2am, he turned to leave and grabbed my crotch. Left without a word. He obviously enjoyed it.

 

[693987]

I've been sexually harassed. I've never sexually harassed anyone. I'm huge on consent, am not pushy when I've flirted or approached someone, and do not touch people without permission (excluding extremely crowded environments where everyone is bumping into everybody, etc.).

I've had a boss consistently schedule me to work shifts alone with him while he alternated between hovering around me or being in the back blatantly viewing pornography (so anytime I had to go to the back I was around him while he did that shit). I got his ass fired, too. No regrets. I've had men who couldn't accept my disinterest drag my name through mud and tell people in a mutual social circle I was a slut because I wouldn't sleep with them. I've been groped/felt up. On and on and on over the majority of my life span.

 

[cockydude2018]

I've been sexually harassed. I've never sexually harassed anyone. I'm huge on consent, am not pushy when I've flirted or approached someone, and do not touch people without permission (excluding extremely crowded environments where everyone is bumping into everybody, etc.).

I've had a boss consistently schedule me to work shifts alone with him while he alternated between hovering around me or being in the back blatantly viewing pornography (so anytime I had to go to the back I was around him while he did that shit). I got his ass fired, too. No regrets. I've had men who couldn't accept my disinterest drag my name through mud and tell people in a mutual social circle I was a slut because I wouldn't sleep with them. I've been groped/felt up. On and on and on over the majority of my life span.

I'm glad you got him fired. The guy I "groped" in the club could easily have turned and punched me in the crotch. You didn't appreciate the "attention"... my guy obviously did.

 

[palakaorion]

I've never intentionally harrassed anyone sexually. I've never had anyone tell me my actions or words made them feel sexually uncomfortable. I try very hard to stay well this side of that line.

I have had women who were in a position of authority or influence say or do things towards me that were awfully close to crossing that line.

 

[ExtraSausage]

I've experienced a lot of stuff in the "grey area".

Despite the fact that most people on LPSG treat me like I must be an alpha-male, I have pretty beta tendencies. I'm nervous when approached, I frequently talk myself out of approaching those I'm really interested in, and typically I ask for consent about multiple things multiple times to ensure everyone is comfortable. That being said, I've probably crossed a line once or twice, but I back off real quick when somebody expresses unease. And I definitely overshare about personal/sexual experiences from time to time.

In a past relationship involving a lot of hard drugs and multiple partners, the lines got real blurry a few times. I wouldn't classify anything as blatant assault, but I definitely felt coerced into sex I didn't want to have on occasion.

Probably the most upsetting incident was about a year ago. I went out on a date with this guy who was pretty handsome and pretty fun to be around. We had some food and drinks. I met some of his friends and had more drinks. He asked to come back to my place and I obliged. We fooled around for a bit but I made it clear that I was not prepared to get fucked. Nonetheless, he tried to force his way in about 3 or 4 times before I got pissed off and threatened to kick him out. We took a break, smoked a doobie, and went back at it. I straddled his torso, and he was just bucking against me so I figured fuck it, and I just let it happen. I still feel conflicted about it. In the end I kinda chose to let him fuck me but it definitely wasn't for the right reasons. Not exactly assault but I can tell you this much - I would never do to anyone what he did to me and I wish I had kicked him out when I got pissed off the first time.

 

[simbablk]

I have, both. Of course at the time, I didn't view it as harrassment, but that's also because I was fueled with liquor. And before anyone jumps on the "that's not an excuse train", I recognized for my behavior to the person(s) I offended. I think in this social climate we're in, people should really take stock in their past behaviors and at least try to put themselves in the shoes of the other and imagine how they might have perceived the encounter, good or bad. Sometimes we do things without really thinking about the consequences.

And NO, I didn't forcibly touch, caress, kiss, fondle, penetrate, demean, or manhandle any person in any way! It was non-tactile behavior that I was having to apologize for.

When it happened to me, I didn't recognize it as harrassment until years later. I didn't expect an apology from the persons nor did I speak of it after it happened. It doesn't seem to have affected me in any way so I simply just let it go.

 

[EllieP]

I have been harassed numerous times over the years. I don't even count the minor incidents. I don't know why it is, but some people when they see a female with a larger than average bust line think that she is oversexed and will be ready to give it a go at the drop of a hat.

I've never dressed provocatively on the job except one summer job when I was younger, and I was told what to wear. My adult self came to realize who made the rules and why.

I was literally chased by a supervisor at one job before he tired out and then apologized profusely. I never saw it go any further than HR.

And that's kind of what we were used to do. We could only report it, but there was never a hope that action would be taken. We just didn't have that power.

When I began my business over ten years ago I steeled my self against a lot of harassment. And boy did I get it. I steeled myself not to accept it but to actually fight against it. And it worked.

There was no longer an HR department to report to. I was it. Power or not I did everything I could to shut it down ASAP. I endured the calls of "bitch," "frigid," "lezbo" and a host of other names. I didn't care. I wear the bitch badge proudly.

Now, if there's a new hand working for a contractor there's always the chance that he will say something. But I grin when I overhear one of the old-timers tell him to shut up or he's gonna get it. "She's the boss lady, man. You don't wanna do that."

 

[sodominsane]

I am a guy....i can't be sexually harassed

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I may have been, depending how you view this. I was separated, and got involved with a woman who worked for a vendor of my employer. At around the same time, that vendor company pursued me, and I took a job there. So now I was working at the same company as the woman with whom I had this relationship.

I quickly saw she had some emotional issues. I kept them in perspective. As time went on, I reconsidered my marriage. I was upfront with her in this regard. But she clearly was becoming unhinged even though I had made no decision nor spent time with my wife.

One weekend I drove up to visit my daughter at my estranged wife's house. It was a day visit only. When I got there, my wife was livid. The woman had been calling her nonstop in the two hours I was on the road. Threatened her, hangups, called her a slut, etc.

I stayed the afternoon, and drove home. Got back to a phone message (this was before cell phones were too prevalent) from the woman telling me, in no uncertain terms, that if I didn't stay with her, that I could kiss my new job goodbye. She was in management, and would see to it that I would be transferred to her department, and had better knuckle under to anything she wanted.

I took the tape from the answering machine, made two copies, and went to work Monday morning. When she arrived, I put one copy on her desk, along with the written complaint to HR I had drafted. I asked whether she would like me to get my manager in the room for the conversation we were about to have. Amazingly, it still took a few moments for her to realize how stupid she was to put her threat on a recording. The color drained from her face as she realized she had sunk her own ship. I explained that any "me and you" was over, totally, and immediately. I was sending the tape to HR, and it would be their decision how to handle it. I would not request any action as long as she no longer had any interaction with me professionally. She begged me to reconsider sending the tape, apologized, etc.

She was fired 6 months later. I was with the company another 9 years. Given today's environment, her threat could be perceived as sexual harassment in the workplace. Had she not screwed up by leaving it in a recording, I would have been screwed...I had moved 150 miles to a new location where I knew nobody. I'd need to find a new job, move back to where I was, etc. just to get out of a controlling person's grasp.

 

[simbablk]

I have been harassed numerous times over the years. I don't even count the minor incidents. I don't know why it is, but some people when they see a female with a larger than average bust line think that she is oversexed and will be ready to give it a go at the drop of a hat.

I've never dressed provocatively on the job except one summer job when I was younger, and I was told what to wear. My adult self came to realize who made the rules and why.

I was literally chased by a supervisor at one job before he tired out and then apologized profusely. I never saw it go any further than HR.

And that's kind of what we were used to do. We could only report it, but there was never a hope that action would be taken. We just didn't have that power.

When I began my business over ten years ago I steeled my self against a lot of harassment. And boy did I get it. I steeled myself not to accept it but to actually fight against it. And it worked.

There was no longer an HR department to report to. I was it. Power or not I did everything I could to shut it down ASAP. I endured the calls of "bitch," "frigid," "lezbo" and a host of other names. I didn't care. I wear the bitch badge proudly.

Now, if there's a new hand working for a contractor there's always the chance that he will say something. But I grin when I overhear one of the old-timers tell him to shut up or he's gonna get it. "She's the boss lady, man. You don't wanna do that."

I think it sucks that people assume things about women just because of her body. And dressing provocatively or not, it's still not cool. Hell, even in the days when I visited strip clubs, the woman still deserves NOT to be disrespected just because she's fully naked in front of you. And that's part of the reason I quit going, if I can't touch it, I really don't need to see it. But I digress...

I was a at a party once in college. Lots of people there, everyone drinking and seeming to have a good time. I went into a closed room and witness a few guys and two ladies in the room. One was clearly passed out drunk, while her "friend" was sitting there giggling. The problem was, there were two guys all over her - probably getting ready to assault her. I closed the door and went to get my friends (who were hosting the party). I told them what was happening in the room and that we needed to stop them and get them out. So five of us went back to the room and unceremoniously escorted the guys out of the house and told the "friend" to take her friend home. Of course the guys were angry about it, but at that point, there was about 10 of us and only four of them. They left the party and the music was turned back on and fun continued.

Assault and harrassment is never cool - and we all play a part in eradicating it from all aspects including social, interpersonal, and professional settings.

 

[1079855]

I've been accused of sexual harassment. I guess it's not appropriate these days to tell a lady you're talking to that you thought she was pretty and wanted to date her.

 

[TexanStar]

I've been accused of sexual harassment. I guess it's not appropriate these days to tell a lady you're talking to that you thought she was pretty and wanted to date her.

It's not appropriate... not when that's not the direction your conversation is naturally flowing anyways.

You have multiple posts in your history calling women bitches, not just the ones you posted tonight. You're not a nice person and women at your office aren't going to appreciate your trying to come on to them.

 

[1079855]

I used to be nice and never dare called a lady a bitch, but I got sick and tired of being taken advantage of and rejected. Now I just don't care.

 

[sizehungry]

Yeah , but i'm not making a song and dance routine out of it . If i get an unwanted approach , i just tell them " fuck off " , and they generally get the picture , but then I'm 6' 2" & 300lbs , so that probably helps .

 

[Anthony_OZ]

I was sexually harassed both verbally and physically by a much older female employee on an almost daily basis for 3 months. This was in a small office. HR used to laugh about it too...

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I used to be nice and never dare called a lady a bitch, but I got sick and tired of being taken advantage of and rejected. Now I just don't care.

Maybe all those "bitches" just saw right through the fake Nice Guy act you were putting on. That's why you kept getting rejected.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Have I been sexually harassed? Yes. Several times throughout my life.

Have I ever sexually harassed anyone? No.

 

[bigbucky]

yes, I had an office job with a female boss, 6 yrs older than myself. several times a month she would sit next to me at my work position and observe my work. it started out as a pat on the knee. then a pat on the thigh, then the hand stayed on my thigh. then the hand on my inner thigh, and finally after several weeks her hand was on my cock over the top of my pants. she also propositioned me a couple times. "let's go get a hotel room". I declined both times.

after the second time, I told her the next day, that she is married (her 2nd), that I am married and that if we were both single, I might be interested. I told her she was an attractive woman, and she was. She did not proposition me anymore after that but still felt my cock thru my pants. she never got upset or verbally/physically abusive. she told me once, "you're thick." I never complained or told anyone. most of my co-workers were women, some very attractive/hot. she got upset/jealous if I was too friendly with any of them. when I changed jobs, she tried to convince me to stay and on my last day, we had a private meeting, just the two of us, and she broke down completely. I was why she got up in the morning ... why she came to work... she thought about me all the time and fantasized about fucking me. some of my female co-workers had told me she had quite a "thing" for me but I never thought it was that big of deal. I moved onto my new position and ran into her a couple more times, just out and about. we were cordial and polite. she was with her kids and or husband. 3 years later, I moved from that area.

I never thought of reporting her. There was no physical proof or witnesses, and no real harm done. her rubbing my cock was really stroking my ego, and what guy doesn't like that.