Have you ever been raped?

Have you ever been raped?

  • Yes (I am male)

    Votes: 36 23.8%
  • Yes (I am female)

    Votes: 12 7.9%
  • No (I am male)

    Votes: 88 58.3%
  • No (I am female)

    Votes: 11 7.3%
  • I dont know (maybe as a young child, or maybe I blocked it, etc.)

    Votes: 4 2.6%

  • Total voters
    151

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i was raped numerous times by a family member, he actually had me convinced it was my fault because i was very large for my age,said i walked around hard all the time. the school showers didnt help much because the guys used to tease me and ask why i had a hardon all the time so i was petrified it was going to happen in school too,it did.
i couldnt go to therapy because the family would find out what happened, so i had to live with it. it happened a few times after that with different people thru the years but the worst was my best friend that i confessed all this to trying to get help, said he understood and seemed concerned but the first chance he got he knocked me out with either and raped me. i came real close to suicide that time, just couldnt live with it.
i was a very attractive teen and had tons of people tell me that so i figured thats was the problem. i let my body go, gained weight and some other things so i wasnt attractive anymore, i was willing to do anything to make it stop.
its been years now but its still all there in my mind, i dont date,dont go out, just sort of a recluse, never had actual sex, tried, just brought back bad memories so i quit.
i destroyed all my old pictures, everything that reminds me of that time in life, gone.
i figure this late in life just leave it alone, dont stir the memories.
sorry for the long post but it helps to talk sometimes, it also really hurts.

I felt incredibly sad reading your post. You are living with the horrible memories everyday. You should be able to be live a better life. It is never too late to do that. Things can always get better. Please get help.
 

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SassySpy is correct. This is a safe place to report what men typically don't. However, you have to look at the *total* stats (as of this writing):

24/10 men/women raped
41/7 men/women not raped

If you look at it this way, 37% of men who chose to answer this poll (a little over 1/3) were raped however, more than half, 58.8% of women who chose to answer this poll were raped.

More men than women were *not* raped.

What tripped you up was that there were more men than women responding because there are more men than women on lpsg and you did not take into consideration the "not raped" stat.

Make sense?

I flunked math. I read in awe, thinking of however you figured that out. Yet inherently I know you are correct. :smile:
 

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ok, 20 males to 10 females on this poll have been raped, that cant be right, can it?

SassySpy is correct. This is a safe place to report what men typically don't. However, you have to look at the *total* stats (as of this writing):

24/10 men/women raped
41/7 men/women not raped

If you look at it this way, 37% of men who chose to answer this poll (a little over 1/3) were raped however, more than half, 58.8% of women who chose to answer this poll were raped.

More men than women were *not* raped.

What tripped you up was that there were more men than women responding because there are more men than women on lpsg and you did not take into consideration the "not raped" stat.

Make sense?

You are absolutely right 15shooter. There is also the matter of all the women (and men) who have not voted in this poll because they don't think it's anyone's business. As some people have suggested, this is a difficult subject for most people and majority are not going to talk about their experiences to a bunch of strangers in a forum that is otherwise about fun for them. It kind of puts a cloud on everything after that...
 

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When I might be in dangerous situations like parties I tend to carry mase and a high voltage taser. Nothing say "back the fuck up" like a taser. When I'm walking alone late at night I am always on the phone with someone telling them my locations
 

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Yes. Iwas 19 and he was older but was a date rape situation and I still feel as though it was my fault in some ways so I have to think about whether I can put the story out here.

Date Rape is not you fault in any way. I also think that if you are not comfortable with talking about it then don't.

Several people do not understand that posts on blogs and boards like theses are VERY search engine friendly. Just be careful with what you say since retracting spilled conversations can not be "Cleaned-up"
 

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Great post, Sassy. I think you summed it up very well. Short of homocide it's the worst violation one person can afflict on another.

Suprdave, I would also second Wonderland's advice and seek professional help. It's out there, it's nonjudgmental and it does help. Don't live your life in misery and pain. You don't deserve it.
 

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i was. when i was 15 the guy was 18. brought me home after church. i was scare to death. couldnt scream or nothing. happened right outside my house. after it was over with went in the house and scrub myself raw. didnt tell no one till a couple of days afterwards. went to therapy a couple of times. but learn to deal with it as i got older. the guy got off free. his word against mine since i waited to long to tell anyone. took a long time for me to get over it but i did it. when this happened to me took awhile to be around guys again. now im fine but i always watch out for myself. what was the bad part after all this happened to me my mom decided she was going to tell my ex b/f and his mom. then told my hubby before we got married " if she doesnt want sex it is because she was raped." i was there when she told him. i felt betrayed right there it all came back to me. but my hubby was there for me through that time. he stuck up for me and helped me over come it again!!! or i dont think i would be here telling about it now.
 
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I flunked math. I read in awe, thinking of however you figured that out. Yet inherently I know you are correct. :smile:

You have to compare the combined rape/non-rape **totals** for each gender instead of comparing genders with just the 1 stat. The percentages today are very close to my last post. Here is how you do it:
Add the total Yes/No for each gender separately and divide the Yes answer anount by the total to arrive at the percentage:

MALE
28 Yes (33%)
57 No (67%)
85 Total (100%)

FEMALE
12 Yes (57%)
9 No (43%)
21 Total (100%)

This is why you can't take stats at "face value," especially as presented by politicians, media, and anyone else with an "agenda," as they tend to not look at the entire picture and only look at that part of the stat that supports their position.

To see why I said that all this poll shows is that there are more men voting than women:
Total Male 85 (80%)
Total Female 21 (20%)
Total both 106 (100%)

You would need a 50/50 male to female voting percentage in order to even come close to accurately comparing rape percentages between genders. Even with that, it would still be subject to only those who voted *plus* those who are on lpsg.

Finally, as has already been said, it is even impossible to get accurate stats in the "real world" as it is commonly known that men do not report incidences of rape as much as women and even many women do not report them. To complicate matters even worse, you have to distinguish between same gender (M/M, F/F) rape and different gender rape (M/F). :eek:

I hope this helps.
:smile:
 

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Male rape is I think as common as female rape but because men are conditioned to put on the macho front in everything and that their sexuality is thus a huge part of it, rape directly strikes at that and makes him doubt himself not just sexually but also as a man.
 

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Ah okay. No need to say more. I just know that a traumatic experience isn't the sort of thing that people suspect (even with partial amnesia) unless there's some indication of possibility.
Similarly, I have a friend who remembers nothing from the first 10 years of his life because of a head injury.