Perfect Mother, a Vodka Bottle and 8 Lives Lost By SUSAN DOMINUS Have you ever dated an alcoholic or drug addict, yet didn't know for months or maybe even years? I did, when I was 19. :redface: None of my friends or family knew he was an alcoholic. Once I figured out that his erratic behavior was due to drinking too much, I naively thought I could change him. :lmao: I believed that my love would make him put down the bottle. :rofl: When I finally saw the light and broke up with him. Everyone lambasted me. They thought he was 'a catch' and that I was insane to break up with him. When I told them he was an alcoholic they couldn't believe it. He was so intelligent, charming, respectful, funny, often the life of the party and never violent or belligerent. Just because a drunk isn't violent doesn't mean they are any easier to live/deal with. The people who look at you increduously and ask, "how could you not know he was an alcoholic?!" As if you are a blind idiot have clearly never been involved with one. :no: Alcoholics are not morons, many are college educated and tops in their field. They know how to appear sober. In fact appearing sober almost becomes another job for them. :irked: Back in the day, we used to call them functioning alcoholics, those people who drank a lot, yet managed to hold a job and function normally. Somehow, if you could get up and go to work everyday and not screw up it was 'okay.' Well guess what? It's not okay, not anymore.