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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by jermained, Sep 7, 2009.
(for the girls ) gay guy
(for the boys) straight guy
And how fucked up was it ?
I've had two major crushes on straight mates and it sucks.
As much as you know that its just never going to happen you still end up infatuated and helpless...or perhaps that is just specific personality types that end up like that.
I get crushes on loads of people and people get crushes on me too, it always end up messy.
A few years ago I had a major boy crush on a straight male friend of mine, he was crazy cute and we got on like a house on fire. We ended up partying like we had six months to live and we had a really intense relationship for about two years. We were always flirting and on the cusp of something more but it became really complicated and our friends were getting bored by with asking what what was going on between us and getting weird answers.
We went to a gay club one night and picked up this cute little twink who came partying with us and my straight cruch fooled around with the twink at a party that night, the next night ( we were on a bender so the party had just changed venues ) we ended up having a sort of threesome, JO's and BJ's and general fun no penetrative stuff. After that the relationship with my friend became really strained because everyone he knew was asking if he was Bi or gay and he got spooked.
We're still mates but we don't see eachother very often, it's always kind of intense whenever we do meet up.
Looking back I realised he wasn't actually that nice a person, and my crush had completely blinded me to some of his faults, but we had loads of fun so I've put it in my good experiences file and not the disasters file.
I was unfortunately infatuated with a straight male friend of mine. I spent several years lusting after him and subjecting myself to his horrible, horrible personality. He was a bad person, and it was all for the best when we finally parted ways.
It sucks immensely.
I only like str8 guys , when i like guys.. I'm doomed to unhappiness. hahaha
Will post a (painful) story later, about a str8 guy i met via the internet. DAMN, i don' even wanna think about it. Plus i hate myself for liking some guys. AAAAAAAAAGHHHHH
Doesn't it ?:frown1:
When I wasn't in the scene and a lot younger, I had crushes on straight guys. It was horrible. My sexuality was only reacting to the stimuli without regard whether the objects of my affection would return the love and admiration to me or not. I surely didn't know any better.
I needed to go where the gay guys were...at the gay bar and at the gay men support group.
Currently, I had a situation that was REALLY tricky. I first met "my crush guy" while I was out walking around town on a Friday night with the LTR boyfriend I had at the time (the one that cheated on me with three guys but didn't tell me but I found out later.). Anyway, a guy in this really old Cutlass Supreme passes my BF and I. And the crush dude looked at me like he wanted to jump out the car and give me a kiss. (I saw him smile at me.) My BF said to me..."Did you see that guy look at you? He wants you." I told him. "No, I didn't notice." And I pointed to my face indicating that I didn't have my eyeglasses on. (But I lied. I did notice the guy looking at me. He was really hot looking.)
I asked my BF what did the guy look like? He said that HE WAS HOTTT!!!. (He had to be hot if my BF got excited to say that that guy looked at me and that he was hot.) I told my BF...
"See I still got my mojo, beyotch!!!! :smile:" Hehehe.
Then I met the crush guy again...same Cutlass Supreme one Sunday morning. I was going shopping at the grocery store. He gave me the same "I want you really bad" stare. I didn't bother him.
And I didn't think much about it anymore. Until I went to an establishment...I thought that he was a total gay man. I didn't know that he was married. There was no wedding band on his finger...or anything.
I actually found out from his wife that he was indeed married and he did indeed have children. I was kinda mad. I was like "Girlfriend, how am I supposed to deduce that he was married? He didn't tell me. I didn't see any rings on his fingers." She was telling me all of this and her husband and I didn't even do anything with each other at all...other than the cruising and all. Yeah, I respect people's relationships. He was cruising me not I to him. And she had to know that her hubbie was bi for her to even mention to me that she was his wife and that he had kids. (She mentioned it really in a confrontative tone.) I wasn't going to fuck the guy anyway.
"With great power comes great responsibility."--Peter Parker's uncle
Anyway, I left the "crush" guy alone. I should've known that the handsome guy would be married or something. But I thought that the guy was gay...with all of the cruising he did towards me at those particular times. Weird.
I don't get involved with straight guys. It seems like tooo much drama.
what about str8 guys having cruches on gay gays like me tee hee!
I only like the really macho ones .... :/
They are on the endangered species list. Good luck. You have to date all the foofy gay acting straight dudes. :biggrin1:
I had a big ol crush on my straight buddy in college. The thing that was odd was that he did indeed love me with all his heart. But that was all he could do as he is 100% straight. It was painful and special and I am not sure if I ever stopped loving him to a degree.
I had a crush on a lesbian once.
It wasn't terribly fucked up.
This is a reverse story where I was the crushee. This was about the guy 25 years ago who persuaded me to allow him to give me a BJ. ALOH was involved. He ended up having a major, fatal attraction-like crush on me. This was very much not welcome and got messy with him telling my girlfriend at the time about this episode to make her jealous or break up with me so that he could think he had a chance with me. He also told other mutual friends and exaggerated my participation. Ended the friendship with he and many of the mutual friends who lived nearer to him. This is still upsetting because of the betrayal factor.
Crushes are crushes... but still a pain in the ass...
Apparently, I'm some sort of emotional masochist. So, I fall for or get a crush on lots of different straight boys.
Funny, I rarely post, but this on got me. I am in a great deal of pain right now over a "straight" guy. He is younger, thinks of me as a mentor, and we love each other deeply. i can't control my feelings, but i can control my actions. it is very difficult because we spend a good deal of time together. he flirts, but doesn't know it. watches my lips when i talk, looks at my arms when i stretch, complements me on my appearance (even my feet), rubs suntan lotion on my back at the beach with out me asking, etc... talks to me about his girlfriend issues....
all of his actions are innocent....but my interpretations are based on my wishes/fantasies.
any ideas how to break the "crush" and focus on the real love we share would be most appreciated.ideas?
Yes, I looooove gay porn. Me and my gay friend would watch it together. I wasn't attracted to him though. There was this one guy who was so fucking sexy....but gay. I said to myself he could get any fucking girl in the world. I'd love to use my vibrator while two guys fuck. That would be great
Why do you assume it had to be so "fucked up"?
I've had several relationships with women and only one or two had severe
mental problems that I considered were problematic.
I never "crushed" on anybody who was straight.
I had a crush on a straight guy that was so beautiful that still to this day, i have not met anyone that has made me speechless. Thats how he was though. He had nice blue eyes and a gorgeous smile. We actually ended up having sex after maybe two years, and when it happened, he told me he was curious and that he trusted in my and our friendship to experiment. That was it though, he told me he was straight and did not want to do anything with guys. I look for him on facebook sometimes, hoping he is on there.
it's really fucked up to some degree. especially if you are a closeted type of gay guy having a major crush with a 100 percent guy! how you wish the world will turn !
i have been harboring feelings with some of my straight friends and how i wish they fuck. good thing i can control my actions. but there are times that i somehow flirting with them. but hey, they are my best guy friends, i cannot touch them! haha