Have You Ever Had Someone Come On To Your S.o. In Front Of You?

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If so..
Where was it?
How did you respond?
How did your S.O. respond?

This happened to my cousin last night while she and her husband were at a formal event,a woman who my cousin said had a little too much to drink came at my cousin's husband twice right in front of my cousin.
My cousin kept her cool only because it was a formal event(the company she works for)but she was really pissed off.
Her husband ultimately got security to handle things after he made sure my cousin wasn't going to flip out.
 

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My fella gets flirted with and hit on in front of me from time to time. I think people assume we're siblings because we don't display affection publicly and we do actually look similar enough that we could be closely related even though we're not at all.

I just let him handle it himself, I don't say anything. It doesn't bother me either. It would if we were the kind of couple that is obviously a couple just by looking at us, but we don't hold hands or kiss in public, we really don't come off as a couple. So if someone assumes that we're just friends or even possibly related I have no ground to be upset about it.

As a matter of fact, he's been flirted with in front of me far more often than I get flirted with in front of him.
 
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If I’m confident about my significant other, doesn’t really bother me. He can probably handle it himself. If I think my S.O. Is a lying cheat, then I’m getting ready to dump his ass, but then I may act in a more possessive way.
 
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Doesn't really happen. If we're out somewhere together, we're likely holding hands or touching in some way. He gets hit on when we aren't together, but I know and trust him to handle it appropriately.
 
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Doesn't really happen. If we're out somewhere together, we're likely holding hands or touching in some way. He gets hit on when we aren't together, but I know and trust him to handle it appropriately.
It’s weird, but all my exes got hit on when I was with them. I’m not into PDA, so maybe that’s why. But sometimes I’d think, “um, I’m standing right here, bitch”. I never really worried, though. Except with my jerk of an ex. He was always cheating on me. Pretty sure he was getting their numbers behind my back when I was in the washroom. It’s the only time I got clingy and insecure. Never again, I tell you. I didn’t know for sure, he made me feel like I was going crazy. But I know now, that if I ever feel that way again, it’s my gut telling me something. Believe it. Don’t wait for proof.
 
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We don't really kiss in public, but we hold hands a lot, or I'll lean against his side kind of thing. I don't love seeing PDA from others and I'm not much of an exhibitionist anymore, so chaste is all people ever see.
 
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Anytime my significant other isn't black it happens from time to time. It's usually a white woman who I would guess assumed we were not together. My husband doesn't notice women, even when they notice him. It would have to be extremely blatant flirting. This has never happened. Apparently, some lady at work recently hit on him a few times then finally realized it was all over his head and asked him for a date. They do not work for the same department, and she is a civillian. Due to the nature of his work he never wears his wedding band. This was not inappropriate. I think I met her. I was in the little store attached and the clerk was chatting with some women. She told them my name and to whom I was married. They all knew who she meant right away. Most said he was the sweetest, most competent one in his Department, and therefore their favorite. One said he was cute and then blushed furiously. Might have been her.

Nobody ever thinks I'm part of the group when I'm with him or his family. I get separated from them by strangers who squeeze between us because they have no sense of personal space and think I'm by myself. I hate going anywhere with them in Puerto Rico. Too hot to hold hands, and always getting isolated. Rather be by myself if I'm going to be by myself.

Last I remember anyone hitting on "my" dude in front of me was a long time ago. He was white. We went to a historic inn someplace. The front desk lady leaned over and told him he smelled good. He thanked her, turned pink, and then looked at the floor. She wasn't moving the transaction along, just asking about his fragrance and and what color his eyes were, so I asked to see an itemized version of the bill. Surprise made a fleeting visit to her face, and then she got her shit together.
 

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Yes, they do it all the time. And sometimes I'm bothered, and sometimes not. I get worried sometimes because he's so absolutely clueless. I worry that I'll find him with his pants around his knees and he'll say "she seemed nice."

He's been propositioned with me on his arm. And vice versa. I get hit on sometimes when we're together.

But he definitely get's the lion's share.

We hadn't lived in Florida long when we were at the supermarket, and I left him in the checkout line so I could run to produce.

When I got back to the register the sweet young checker was leaning across the check stand with her arms crossed in front of her and the half of her G cups not exposed were straining at the few remaining buttons on her blouse.

All he could say was "She seemed nice."

Clueless. Fucking clueless.
 

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Can't believe I forgot about this. This was the singlemost aggregious time.

I had a secondary partner when I lived in Miami. He managed a wine bar. He negoriated with the hotel across the street, contracting management of their poolside bar under the wine bar he managed. So, he was responsible for staffing both.

He hired a new cocktail waitress, trained her to work the till bar at the pool, and after two weeks of training her, scheduled himself for a night off that coincided with her working the closing shift at the pool.

At last, we had a rare Friday or Saturday night together. We did it big. Went out for dinner, bar hopping, dancing, and then back to his place relatively early so we could have sex for several hours, and I could still get up early to go tonwork the next morning. Round one or two was behind us, and we lay entangled and affectionately canoodling when he said the words I dreaded.

"Sweetie. You already know that ringtone was [my boss]."

"Please don't call him back. He's probably just drunk and wants you there for some bullshit. Fuck that bar. Go to work on me some more."

I was sober and he was not, so I drove him to work. Apparently, the pool was supposed to close at 10PM, but at midnight, hotel guests were complaining that the light and music were bothering them. A homeless guy was bothering me, so I entered the lobby. When asked, I told the employees I was waiting for him to come back downstairs. After another half an hour passed, I went up to the pool to see what was taking so long.

That woman had all three sheets to the wind. He was trying to help her do inventory and count the register, but she kept messing him up. He had told her to go home so he could close the bar quickly, and arranged for a barback across the street to drive her as soon as he could.

She kept running her hands along the muscles in his arms and torso, and he kept gently peeling her off and instructing her to sit down. When he noticed my presence, he looked relieved, then apologetic. He called me over, and hugged me long enough to whisper a synopsis of the sitch into my ear. Then he introduced me to the waitress, as his girlfriend, for the second time. I met her across the street during her first shift.

She was pretty. I think she was used to fucking up at work and then offering her body in exchange for keeping her job. She kept apologizing to him, and then touching him all over, kissing his face, and looking me in the eye and telling me, "I love my boss." He was becoming increasingly irritated. So was I.

She started smoking and blowing the smoke into my face, so I kept changing seats. I was extra ticked because she had bummed that smoke from him. At some point, while he was trying to do the closing book keeping the anger vein showed up on his forehead and he asked me to light a cigarette for him. I returned to my original seat in front of him. As I lit his cigarette, she hugged him from behind, and blowing another stream of smoke in my face repeated that she loved her boss. I stood up, fully prepared to utilize her eye to extinguish the cigarette I held. He looked up in time to see my face and snatched it away. I reached for hers, but he caught my hand, kissed it, and asked me to call the bar and find out when the dude was gonna be ready to take her home. She was fired the next day.
 

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I have serious doubts that you possess any legitimate skill in the bedroom.

Hell, I’m willing to bet you couldn’t make the experience worthwhile for more than a few minutes before I lost all interest.

You know what they say, “The most boastful are often the lousiest of the bunch.”

Or at least that’s what I say.

Is this supposed to bother me? Tantric sex and karma sutra is my forte. Been studying it for a couple of decades. But some dudes are pretty basic and don't appreciate it and well, they get tossed on their ear to find more basic gals to fuck. Meanwhile, I'll ride someone else's dick into the sunset. Zero fuck's given. You must think your pathetic insults, based only on the boastful have the least abilities philosophy. Sometimes that phrase is spot on. I see confident dudes think they know how to fuck when they embarrass themselves constantly in that arena. But sometimes someone has a right to brag because they've honed a skillset that absolutely are passionate about.

Some folks are too inept to see that not all bragging is empty words with no skill to back it up. Some people are confident because they are stellar at their crafts. I love it when a musician is in my audience and I speak with them about the numbers I'll be performing that night. They hit on me thinking I'm just merely good to look at and I'm just a bag of skin with warm holes. They don't take my musician side seriously at all. I smile and I know when I get on stage behind mic they will have their mind blown. Because I practice probably 100 hours a week between working on my song sets with my vocal instruction studio. I'm great because I have natural talent mixed with dedication.

But I digress, so yeah that musician who saw a cute pink haired snack suddenly comes up to me when I'm busy at the high end bar visiting with those who want to thank me for singing an old standard they havent heard in decades....I finally turn to them and they suddenly want to collaborate on a music piece. I find it amusing to be under estimated. I take pleasure in proving people wrong.

Keep under estimating people......hate from outside of the pussy. Hate hard. Whatever you do, do it passionately. For me, sex is the same way. I do it passionately. Like everything else I do.

But keep being basic. The world needs lemmings like you.
 

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A+ response.
I have no rebuttal.

You are the sexually proficient woman I shall bow down to. “Tantric sex and karma sutra is my forte.” My dick trembled at the very thought of this. Wow, you truly are a sex goddess. I sincerely apologize for the crude words and comments I hurled at you. Clearly you are right and I have now suffered defeat.

Whilst reading through this well-written reply, my dick had the strongest of erections in my life. You really have a special power, Tattooed Goddess.

Thanks for the entertainment. I quite enjoyed the read!

Well well, check your inbox for fun. I won't recant on my words but I do appreciate it anytime a person can admit they may have been wrong. We all underestimate people. And most times we have every reason to. People brag to me all the time in the music world. I know hundreds of musical people in the industry and honestly many have shit talent and sound like garage bands at best and still book venues. They push their stuff on everyone and think they are hot shit when they sound like the teacher from Charlie Brown on their best day. Most people arent over achievers. But in a few areas I am. And I dont mind being seen as a bragger for it from time to time. But most who do brag, especially men when it comes to eating pussy, suck at it and are mediocre at best.
 

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Oh, hey! She also likes to threaten. Very interesting development.

Do you think I posted here because I cared about the possibility of being reported in the slightest? It’s funny how in your original response you claimed to be unbothered, but these two walls of texts show otherwise.

Thanks for the screen shot. I've learned that everything I type privately could at anytime be revealed publicly so nothing I said to you I'd be afraid for the masses to see. The funny thing is, when I said no one would believe I contacted you, I thought you might screen shot it just to prove some point in your mind to embarrass me. The funny thing is, I knew youd share it and it would make you look important to everyone else, further propagating my original idea that no one would believe you if they didnt see it for themselves.

Now, with all of this in mind, you fell for a trap. But it was pretty complex of a trap so youd have to be really really smart to have come out of it unscathed. But I was prepared to fully banter with you and get to know you behind the scenes as a fellow adversary that impressed me with your 2nd public retort to mine. Few men here get that opportunity because I dont cast my pearls among the swine very often. I thought you might have more depth as you redeemed yourself quite well with your humble response to mine. Instead you showed your pink snout and curly tail. Proving you were among the swine unappreciative of pearls.

Have a good day.
 

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Sigh.

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I told this person privately he was wasting his efforts posting here. He took offense. I'll save future penis owners the butthurt from hearing about it privately and let the butthurt commence when they see their posts vanish. Then see them post about how sexist and unfair the whole rule system is.

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Bren1, are you aware that this subforum allows anyone to ask a question, but only the listed demographic may answer or comment?

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A couple years ago I goofed and posted a response in ask a man. And transgendered. One point in non expiring, so I must be a great danger to the forums.
So it applies to everyone.
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