Have you ever had this happen?

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  1. Jonesy98

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    sometimes when i'm really drunk.... i just roll ovr and fall asleep
     
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    you're asking this on the woman's issues forum so i'll give you this woman's view. i think you should try to hang out with girls who care about you because they're not going to be so concerned about your "performance". after all it's not all about winning some race or beating the competition. it's about pleasure. so if you're more relaxed with your partner, and feel good about yourself, nature will just take it's course. try to get more comfortable with your own body.
     
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    I sent you a pm and I hope it helps a little bit. :smile:
     
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    Bumping just in case... been active for 2 years now in just a few days, and I still haven't been taken over the edge by intercourse of any kind with my significant other. Thread is linked in earlier post.

    Any help is appreciated greatly.

    Thanks.
     
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    I read the other thread, and most reasons I can think of have been discussed. Condoms are awful and mask most sensation, but you don't use them. Go lightly with any masturbation so that your penis gets used to the lighter and more gentle caress of a woman's vagina. Consider any psychological issues, although for me sex is a beautiful and pleasurable thing, and you can share sex in a variety of ways: married, loving relationship, friendship or just casual.
     
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    double post
     
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    will report back in about a month... thanks... looks uber promising!
     
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    There's a similar thread where I just posted yesterday ... see my comments there, as I definitely think they also apply to your situation.

    Having read your previous thread, I think your GF's pressure on you to reach orgasm is a big part of the problem here. Encouraging her to chill out a bit on this matter, and not to take this situation as a reflection on her, would probably help tremendously.

    I agree with the comment from "Max" in your thread of last year: a bit of alcohol may actually help, as it will help cut through any inhibitions you may have.

    Good luck, and I'm happy to chat more via PM if you want.

    Steve
     
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    thanks for the great information... bumping just in case... updated in the linked thread above... the update is simply "same problem".

    Any help would be appreciated,

    J.
     
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    Have you seen a doctor and/or therapist this? Doctor to make sure there isn't something medically wrong. And therapist, because if there isn't something medically wrong, then it's all in your head.
     
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    i had an ex with this.
    no big deal as far as i'm concerned, though i'm sure it pissed him off.

    but shit, i don't cum from sex either.
    it's quite common in women.
     
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    Clearly you've only been with lesser men with small cocks who have no idea what they're doing. If you were fortunate enough to do it with me, [insert wild, egotistical claim here.]

    That sums up about every response I've ever seen on this site in reply to a woman stating, "I don't cum from sex."
     
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    ahahahahaha! so very true.

    ty for the giggle.
     
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    My pleasure :smile:
     
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    Bumping just in case. Thanks to all for the help.
     
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    Hmm... I sometimes see a guy who has this problem. He reckons it's because he's used to wanking, i.e. used to his own touch and ability to stimulate the right area at the right moment.

    Things that have helped:
    - Making sure he's really really horny beforehand
    - Squeezing his dick with my 'lady muscles'
    - If I get too sore and he seems close-but-not-quite-there I get him to pull out and wank on my boobies...
     
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    Thanks again for all the responses. To address the last post:

    SUCCESS: I've found that a TON of foreplay (30 minutes+) really helps me out. In the end I'm still nowhere near close to orgasm, but I am closer than normal.

    FRUSTRATIONS: The "lady squeeze" is fun, but it doesn't excite me any more than without. Just feels a different kind of good for a bit until the squeeze wears off.

    Right now, and for the past 3 or so years, the only way I can climax is to pull out and masturbate (back, tummy, wherever), but even then it's not like doing it alone. I still have to move mountains to get my rocks off. To be honest, it's really starting to wear on me.

    Every bit of info helps. I know this is an old thread, but I'm glad people are still responding every so often.

    Thanks for contributing.
     
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    I have the same problem as a female, i have tried what i can. Nothing has worked. It sucks.
     
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    The fact that you keep multiple posting and bumping the thread says to me that you are thinking about this far too much. There is more to sex than coming. In fact, it is wonderful that youare able to refrain, from a population control standpoint!

    Concentrate on giving your partner enjoyment and the sight of her really digging your touch and presence. Thank the powers that be for every second of pleasure you yourself experience, and don't hold yourself to some artificial concept of how sex should go. Have more fun.
     
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    Ma'am... I have been sexually active for 3 years now with a woman I want to marry. I have prepped myself since middle school to be a man that focuses on a woman's pleasure, but it gets really hard to look at the possibility of a lifetime of not knowing what it's like to function properly.

    She wants nothing more than to be a loving mother and wife. As it stands right now, I would be unable to make the former of those wishes come true. I personally find the thought of beating off into my love's vagina to create with her absolutely pathetic. I don't mean to attack you, but do you have any clue the questions that arise from this? What kind of a man am I that my body won't show it's affection for her when she bares her soul to me? How will we ever raise a family? How long can I keep fighting the desire for a "normal" sexual experience before it consumes me and ruins my relationship? etc etc etc

    I am not over-thinking this. Nor am I elated from some overpopulation stand point. I am completely shocked that a human being would even wish that on another... but that discussion is outside the scope of this thread.

    And as a disclaimer, I know all about adoption firsthand, and while I'm personally grateful for it, it's not for me.

    I have a problem that doesn't appear to be going away on its own, and I need to find answers. My relationship and my future may be at stake.
     
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    Beating off into a turkey baster is not illegal and also kinda kinky. :p
     
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