Have you ever Humiliated a Man?

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  1. shaguar

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    Come on girls - be honest! Have you ever in a sexual or non-sexual situation, said frankly or implied that his cock was too small? I'm really interested in this because as a certified little guy, I actually get off on hearing about larger cocks. Size queens turn me on, and even though no woman has ever seriously told me my cock is small, I think I would like hearing it if she were honest. As I said, I like size queens even if they won't like me.
     
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    Only as an insult in an arguement, but to tell a guy he is small (even if he is) is just cruel. And if i ever seriously made a guy feel like he was less than perfect id feel like a bitch.
     
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    That is a sincere and honest thought. No, I haven't/won't be with males that way, but i think that logic applies to a much larger whole of respecting people.
     
  4. Gisella

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    Trully not, but some small guys humiliate themselves because they are very insecure and the ones who kept repeting that they were too small or asking me if they were to small...almost all the time, in my personal experience.

    :rolleyes:

    I humiliated men in other areas though...
     
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    I've been there when a friend of mine said it to another friend.... but wasn't as bad as you'd think, as we'd all seen him naked via a few drunk episodes running (down the street, across the room, out of the bathroom) etc.... so it was like "yeah, and????"
     
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    I agree.
     
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    my answer is: HELL NO :-o i'm not taht cruel/stupid... plus guys with smaller cocks can be great lovers, a big size is just like the cherry on the cake, but it's nothing NECESSARY :p
     
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    As we can find on this site without looking too hard, there are a fair number of guys who get off on being humiliated by women or other guys, often for being "small."

    Naturally people who are not into that scene don't get it - "That's so mean!" and "What's in it for me?" are common responses. But some people just do get into dominating as well as being dominated, whether any of us approve or not. Is it sick? It may seem unhealthy to the outside observer, but frankly I don't see it as any more harmful than any of the other garden variety fetishes that people exhibit.
     
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    I'm answering this on a professional and personal basis.

    I enjoy humiliating a man who craves it. I enjoy hurting a man who craves pain. I have a fetish for fetish in general...and I really enjoy getting to know all the nooks and crannies (every pun intended) of a man's sexual makeup. I like to see how far I can take things...it makes for a grand adventure.

    I do have lots of limits, and there are fetishes I will not indulge - not for love or money. I just wish blackmail were legal, because so many men beg for it...I could retire in no time. :cool:

    My take on this topic is that when a man is convinced of his inferiority in this way, it is immensely relieving to have is own feelings confirmed and it becomes the basis of sexual release - sort of like that strange pleasure/pain feeling you get if you rub a splinter embedded just under your skin...
     
  10. shaguar

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    I kind of agree with that. The logic is from the "If you are getting raped and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, kick back and enjoy it" school. If there is nothing a man can do about his small cock, and he is drawn to the size issue, and he can get off on humilation, he should enjoy being told that size matters, and his doesn't cut the cake. For me, size queens are fun that way. I get off on their honesty - although I have never met one in real life. I am not someone who is susceptible to "financial domination" or that bullshit. However, I worry about vulnerable men who might be. I think televangelists and dominatrixes need to be strictly regulated by a special tax collection team.
     
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    I read about something called small penis humiliation in which the man likes to be told he is inferior. Like you said, this may be a catharsis for him, relieving him of his feelings of inadequacy for some time. After the intense emotions brought on by the humiliation, he is happy with what he has.
     
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    Yes Jovial, it is something I am familiar with, having only 4"
     
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    I've never understood why some guys seem to get off on being put down or humiliated for their supposedly small dick. I just don't get it.
    As for the question, there was one time where I put a guy down for his size but for me it wasn't really about his size. I was at a bar for a girlfriend's b-day and I was slightly drunk and more than a little horny :wink: . Anyway me and this guy were getting a little frisky and he starts making these not so subtle suggestions, and he makes some comments about his size being, well, let's just say well above average. In an uncharacteristic move, I ended up going home with him (not that I don't normally go home with guys, but I think normally I wouldn't have gone home with THIS guy). Hey guys aren't the only ones who do silly things when they get horny :wink: . Anyway when he dropped his drawers he was maybe 6 in., and I say maybe. So I told him that wasn't what I had in mind and left. For those of you who haven't figured it out though, for me it really had nothing to do with his size. The combination of his bragging and lying eventually just turned me off. :mad: I've had perfectly good sex with 6-inchers.
     
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    Studhunter - 6" is above average going by many surveys and "studies". So he might have technically correct.
     
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    Except he was a lot more specific. I guess I didn't mention that but he didn't just claim to be "big", he claimed to be "eight inches." It was an outright lie.
    I should also mention this was a little over a year ago when I was just out of my divorce and more than a little pissed at the male species. I think there are a few things from that night I woulda done differently now.
     
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    Oh boy, my first post here and already such a special subject...

    Well, I thought I'd just throw in my 2 cents anyway. IMHO, you need to differentiate between the fetish and the general feeling. Let me try to explain that:

    I bet that there are men with a kind of inferiority complex. For example, a female friend of mine plays soccer and always gets teased by guys "let's take a shower together after the game, haw, haw". Dead funny when you hear it for the hundredth time, I guess. <img> However, whenever she says: "Ok, no problem", the guys chicken out. I guess they fear that she might humiliate them (although she has never even hinted at giving a damn about dick sizes), and I also bet these guys are perfectly normal in terms of penis size. They may even boast a lot and say they are big, but they actually fear being humiliated - because they have a general fear of not measuring up.

    In contrast to that, there are guys who might actually know (from a strictly rational point of view) that they are normal, but like to consider themselves small and have that fetish of being humiliated by a woman. In the situation outlined above, they would gladly accept the invitation to shower together and secretly hope she might make some humiliating comments. Those guys don't chicken out, they just have a fetish.

    It's like with S/M fetish guys: The fact that somebody likes to beg for punishment, lick a lady's boots and be told that he is a worthless piece of cr*p doesn't mean that he is a submissive loser without self-confidence in real life. In fact, many times you will find that successful people who master their lives quite well take such a fetish as a kind of balance - at least that's what I can imagine. The same goes for women, too: I've seen many, many sex ads where a successful business woman loved being treated like a cheap slut and banged by several men - just because she gets the kicks of it, not because she's a worthless person without self-confidence who is too weak to get anything done.

    Just by whipping someone's ass, you don't necessarily hurt him - it depends on his attitude and likings. Likewise, humiliating a man is not necessarily an actual humiliation of the person as a whole; it is often nothing more than enabling this person to live a particular fetish role and thus, to unfold an admittedly "strange" or unconventional part of his personality. So my advice (if I'm in a position to give any advice at my young age of 28 and far from extraordinary sexual experience) to the ladies would be: Take it easy, it's only a fetish, only an adult role play. You can play your little game, and afterwards you can have a cup of coffee with a man who is neither insulted or insecure of himself, just greatly relieved and otherwise perfectly normal.

    I hope this made sense, at least in one line or two... ;)
     
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    There are somethings that a man can do that will be a completly turn off for me: to enjoy and get turned on by being humiliated like that...its one of them. ( understand they are fetiches...)

    In my eyes i will not respect a male like that because he is not masculine to me...and i will reject a man to mate if they have hints i perceive as wickness (he wants to surrender and be dominated by me ) or hints i find feminine ( a virile man can be soft without being feminine)

    When i play power games with a man i want he always win - if not the game for me have no fun at all.
     
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    Being smaller than average I have always had a thing for erotica where a wife of a smaller man experiences her first big one.

    Now, do I get off on being humiliated or want to see my wife cheat on me? No. However, for fantasy only it is fun to imagine from a distance seeing how she would react. The initial surprise when it is revealed to her, the way he teases and eases it in and the reaction on her face as she experiences her most intence orgasm of her life.

    I like the stories where she is more seduced or "tricked into it" versus a woman that is just a "slut", since my wife is quite innocent and would never initiate anything like that.

    Part of the fascination is in part being my wife's only lover and how she is quite endowed.

    I will have to honestly say, the size of her breast have never been a thing with me, but many friends have commented (both male and female) on how attractive my wife's are.

    Interesting topic. Hope to see more women respond and have fun with the topic. I think most people that write here are speaking on behalf of fantasy, not real life.
     
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    Glutton for punishment? Guess the truth does'nt hurt.
     
  20. shaguar

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    I see that some ladies on the board decided to take the "fifth" on the question!
     
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