Rob you might make this a new thread cause I don't see many responding to this question.
I gave my answer; it was something like, "I have very little respect for people who lie."
Have you ever lied about yourself on the internet?
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I gave my answer; it was something like, "I have very little respect for people who lie."
B_blackkid
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I never lie.
My penis, age, ethnicity, sex, sexuality, culture, and background simply change daily.
Time paradox.
My penis, age, ethnicity, sex, sexuality, culture, and background simply change daily.
Time paradox.
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Quote:Rob you might make this a new thread cause I don't see many responding to this question.
Originally Posted by rob_just_rob
Interesting responses.
Does it bother you when you discover (or are told that) someone is lying about themselves online? If so, how much does it bother you, and why?
It doesn't bother me so much as makes me wonder why they can't just be themselves?
I can't answer for rob_just_rob, but it only bothers me if that person is being a troll, or malicious in some way. I have caught plenty of lies, and fake pics here. I haven't yet tried to out any of them publicly. If any of these people ever attack me, or turn trollish, maybe I will. The key in catching lies is to remember what they have posted before, that doesn't
quite add up to what they posted later. Fake pics are similar. It's have you seen their pics floating around the net, or on commercial sites. There have been some pics here that I KNOW I've seen on commercial sites. Nobody else ever picked up on them, or at least never said so.
I'll answer my own questions, since so many others were good enough to respond.
When I first got online (about '94), I spent way too much time in adult chatrooms and the like. I occasionally described myself as slightly different - slightly older or younger, married, shorter, etc - for variety and amusement. At one point I made up a really hot "first time" story that reeled people in quite well.
90% of the time, I was having fun on a one-off basis and pretty sure that those I was talking to were not entirely what they claimed to be, either. A couple of times, I found out that someone I was talking seriously with on an ongoing basis was not who they claimed to be. That hurt. As ironic as it sounds, I felt that because I was being serious (at that time!), they should have been serious too! :lol:
(I haven't fibbed about myself online for several years, other than basic measures to preserve a semblence of anonymity.)
As a result of those early experiences, I stopped taking the 'net seriously as a place to meet people. I've found that it's much simpler and faster to meet people in the offline world. So at this point, I'm pretty much indifferent to people who are caught lying. I'm not looking for anything from them other than online discussion, so it's immaterial to me what they represent themselves to be. So, I wondered whether the degree of one's distaste for "net fakes" was related to how seriously one takes the internet as a place to meet potential partners.
When I first got online (about '94), I spent way too much time in adult chatrooms and the like. I occasionally described myself as slightly different - slightly older or younger, married, shorter, etc - for variety and amusement. At one point I made up a really hot "first time" story that reeled people in quite well.
90% of the time, I was having fun on a one-off basis and pretty sure that those I was talking to were not entirely what they claimed to be, either. A couple of times, I found out that someone I was talking seriously with on an ongoing basis was not who they claimed to be. That hurt. As ironic as it sounds, I felt that because I was being serious (at that time!
), they should have been serious too! :lol: (I haven't fibbed about myself online for several years, other than basic measures to preserve a semblence of anonymity.)
As a result of those early experiences, I stopped taking the 'net seriously as a place to meet people. I've found that it's much simpler and faster to meet people in the offline world. So at this point, I'm pretty much indifferent to people who are caught lying. I'm not looking for anything from them other than online discussion, so it's immaterial to me what they represent themselves to be. So, I wondered whether the degree of one's distaste for "net fakes" was related to how seriously one takes the internet as a place to meet potential partners.
I'm not sure that it ties directly into your desire to meet potential partners, but I am sure it has to do with expectations. If you are naive enough to believe that everyone online (or offline, for that matter) is being straightforward with you, or if you are idealistic enough to expect honesty from everyone, then you are going to meet with disappointment when you find that you've been duped.
If you are as cynical as I am, then you won't be disappointed because you expect everyone you meet on the internet (and most of the people you meet in life) to be full of shit from the getgo. I won't accuse people of lying all the time, and for the sake of argument or to keep the conversation going I'll pretend to extend most people the benefit of the doubt, but I don't trust recklessly anymore. I'm always aware that everyone I am talking to online could be full of it, and probably is, and act accordingly. Since I've adopted this philosophy, I've never been disappointed.
Yet I still meet people online, and I still forge lasting friendships, find hot fuck buddies, and even fall in love here and there. I think the internet can be an awesome and efficacious tool for finding new friends and lovers, but I still expect most of the people I talk to are lying to me and am never surprised anymore when I find out that they are.
So... the two things (serious interest in meeting online acquaintances and disappointment in net fakes) are not necessarily connected.
This describes my view to a tee.
Perhaps not - and yet, some of the most vitriolic denunciations of net liars I've seen have come from people who are or were looking for partners online. Correlation as opposed to causation, maybe.
yeah i protect my name on line
ive gone by
Jack Zackowski
Leroy Jones
bambino
and a bunch of other random names
i used to lie about my age to get into porn websites but . . who didn't do that
other than proteting ur name and like ur age stealing pictures and stuff and seriously lying on the interent is unblelievably pathetic and pointless
feeling the need to impress people and change urself for people u don't even know is probably the saddest thing a person can do
ive gone by
Jack Zackowski
Leroy Jones
bambino
and a bunch of other random names
i used to lie about my age to get into porn websites but . . who didn't do that
other than proteting ur name and like ur age stealing pictures and stuff and seriously lying on the interent is unblelievably pathetic and pointless
feeling the need to impress people and change urself for people u don't even know is probably the saddest thing a person can do
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Back in the day before sites like this one, one logged onto a BBS or did AOL chat rooms. I was rather active on both. Different groups at times had regular informal meet and greets at local eateries to actually put a face to the screen name. Of course there was also a lot of meet and greets happening in private as well. Anyway, after one of these meet and greets I actually met someone I had been chatting with for a while and was taken aback. He was so different than he seemed online. Many people are to some degree or the other, but this guy was totally opposite from the caring and polite person I knew online, plus he lied about his age, weight, build, not to mention extremely bad dentistry that would make anyone cringe before accepting a blowjob. The pic he had posted was taken in a different decade. Unfortunately, after meeting, he was constantly hitting on me online and making pointed (albeit flattering) comments about me on posts, in chats, etc. I decided to be nice and lied to him about recently breaking up and not being ready to deal with it all yet. Of course, silly me, this only convinced him that he could be the new love of my life and rescue me from my unhappiness if I only slept with him. I finally had to fess up and tell him I thought he was a jerk. It got ugly, Sysops were involved, etc. The moral, just tell the fucking truth, it is so much easier.
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Once or twice I've created the 'perfect specimen' on a dating site - blonde hair, blue eyes, extremely athletic, etc. - but no one ever sent me a message so it doesn't really matter anyway.
Lie about my name - privacy reasons. But age, relationship, and pics allll me. Was in a chat room once on old msn and a guy was using my pic as himself...pissed me off at first and i pm'd he and he was gone real quick. Looking back i guess it really was a compliment - sort of. Imitation is the biggest form of flatery or something like that. Usually when online for porn, cyber, or chat still want to be honest just short of saying who i really am. Small town america still doesn't accept all so easily as does the internet community.
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