belcurv: [quote author=dable_wi link=board=meetgreet;num=1070496781;start=0#5 date=12/04/03 at 18:36:38]One of the things that has always puzzled me is the hot guy who is very obvious about checking out my cock, but then, when given the chance to take it to the next step acts like it is the furthest thing from his mind. That one, I will never understand.[/quote]
NOW HEAR THIS:
You guys just don't get it.
I'll explain it to you.
I've been in this situation.
What happens is, simply, we are "star struck." In my line of work I've met a number of major stars, rock stars, movie stars... including the Clash and the Rolling Stones when they were still at their peaks in the early 80s... I met the entire NY Yankees team including a really funny ride with Billy Martin...
And the funny thing, I never felt the least bit intimidated by their fame or in awe of it. I just saw them as people who happened to have great talents and jobs that called for being famous.
But when I met super-hung porn star Scott O'Hara I went dumb. I was totally tongue-tied. I could hardly put together a half sentence. I felt like a 1963 school girl meeting her favorite Beatle.
The same kind of thing has happened in the showers, when a super hung dude cruised me. I was often TOO impressed, too nervous, too in awe, wanted him too much, to follow through.
This same thing happened the first time I had sex with the most well endowed partners I was with. I was too preoccupied with worrying about whether I would be "good enough for them" to relax and enjoy it. There was usually a second time, and things went quite a bit better, but it would have taken a couple more times to really hit it and be totally myself. I never thought of the large penis as a mere object to grab and use and get off on selfishly. I thought of the man who was so gifted as someone I was intrigued by and wanted to know and hopefully develop something with FIRST and then move into a hot, longlasting thing.
I've always wished I could tell this to the super-hung! I could tell they had no idea but couldn't find any way to bring it up. What I wanted to say more than this was:
1) "size queens" who are so vocal or blatant about expressing their appreciation of size may actually appreciate you in the least romantic, least sophisticated, most superficial way, and those of us who experience my kind of response DO think of you as special people with an incredible gift, so can't imagine treating you so rudely, and may go overboard in overcompensating for this, meaning the exact people you would have the deepest most fun time with are exactly the ones you will never meet;
2) if someone seems standoffish or even has a strange expression on his face but your instinct is that he is attracted to you, consider cautiously making an extra effort to be friendly and open up a dialogue with them... try putting them at ease and see if they light up. They may just be too wowed by you and too worried about offending you to be direct on that first contact. And if I am any example, then we would make some of the most devoted, tuned in lovers you might ever find. I quite often saw well hung men I liked being spirited off by the easiest catch of the day, falling into pretty shallow relationships. Some of the best romances are those in which the other is hard to get.