HaveI blown it with straight mate

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  1. SteveT

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    I have a mate who I know is very well hung. I finally plucked up the courage a week or so ago to email about it. He lives the other side of the world, so talk in the same time zone is not easy. Once I emailed him at work (9.30am his time), he told me wihtin minutes to email his private account and here is a selection of the things he said when I told him years ago we had shared a room and I had seen his dick and had wondered since how big he was:

    "LOL. I might have shown you :)"

    "What's average?"

    "So, the clue is, I'm above average :)"

    "Not sure. Do you want me to measure it and get back to you?"

    "That will have to wait until I'm at home. You're certainly interested in this. Tell me yours exactly, you must know :)"

    "Yep, 100%." (to my question, was he sure he was bigger than what I said was average")


    "I'll try to remember to satisfy your curiosity soon, maybe not tonight. Get some sleep !! :)"

    When I emailed him last night to remind him, jokingly that he had not satisfied my curiosity but to apologise for being so cheeky in earlier mails, he replied:

    "No need to apologise, I’ve just been really busy lately at work and at home. Too many Christmas deadlines to meet. I’m going on a holiday next week which will be nice, a chance to relax."

    Now I am confused. He had (I thought) been playing along with my emails about his size. now he is suddenly blowing cold. Should I stop? It was morning when I first caught him,so I know it was not booze talking.

    Am confused
     
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    let it rest for now
     
  3. SteveT

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    I guess you are right.

    Just felt he was giving me signs that it was safe to talk about (at a time when I knew he was sober!)
     
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    Yup. Drop it until he brings it up again even if that's never.
     
  5. SteveT

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    Thanks. Won;t be easy, but you are right!
     
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    Yup, the ball is in his court... if he want to let you know. he will find a way... you now..accidental exposure(if he visits you), accidental email or text (meant for gf/bf ;) or just plain "Hey you were asking me about my size and I never got back to you at that"
     
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    agree with the others. straight guys that flirt get to do on their terms...which is based on if they are horny. i would just wait a day or two and then send out a regular email with no mention. just get back to the regular friendship.
     
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    Received an email from him this morning, saying that he would be more comfortable if I were to go first as "that way I can see what kind of information you are interested in".

    ~~~ confused ~~~
     
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    He's testing the waters... like you he's str8, like you he's probably curios about your cock (all boys like to compare) and like you he's probably wondering if this will go further and how much further it will go.

    Gently reassure him that your not gonna start accusing him of being gay.... do so by by giving him a little information... play it step by step tit for tat.... keep it along the lines of comparison to start with becuase thats where itll be most comfortable... something along the lines of "well i know that im a little bit above average but from what i can remember i think you looked bigger than me... im x inches"

    that's safe plus your flattering him which will help him to feel a bit more relaxed about the situation
     
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    Well neither of us can afford the air fare so it will just be a numbers game really! Thanks for the comments
     
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    so glad it went well, and the friendship is intact.
     
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    He sent me the answer the other night: 6.75"

    seems very precise, but believable too!
     
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    Be careful.. I had an old high school friend start with me this way. He's straight as well and was emailing me how he remembered my cock whenever we were skinny dipping together and how horny it made it and he regrets not doing something then. He asked me for a picture and he'd send one in return. I sent something and it ended. Nothing in return, no more emails, nothing. I've written a few times asking what happened but I'm o ignore it seems.

    I'd be careful about sending him a photo of yourself naked. I regret doing this and now I have no idea where that photo might be.
     
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    Yes. I will tread carefully. It was just so exciting as the emails went backwards and forwards the first time. He was responding within seconds most times.

    I reckon I believe him when he says 6.75". Sounds impressive to me!
     
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    Glad you're back on track with your mate - good friends are worth their weight etc.

    As for his earlier reaction, perhaps he was just a bit concerned that he'd been showing too much enthusiasm for the subject and you might be getting the wrong idea about him! (Whether or not it was the "wrong idea"!)

    Us men can be very worried sometimes about revealing too much about ourselves and so can then appear standoffish or touchy. I'm sure I've done it myself and certainly had it done to me.

    But now that he has revealed all - well the stats anyway - I think it's fine.

    Who knows you may have a fun email wank buddy there. Which are also worth their weight etc
     
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    Well, i shall just see what (if anything!) happens next!
     
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    Congratulations are in order...
    Now you can life without any weirdness that the figures are out... :)
     
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    Pfft, I call BS because no one has a job right now :rolleyes:
     
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    I suppose that's one solution
     
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