Having a small-ish penis didn't really bother me until...

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  1. skizmata

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    I fell in love.

    I never really gave a second thought to the size of my tool (6" long x 4" girth). I lost my virginity to a very small gal when I was 15 (she was 16). Her pussy was so tight that I doubt a bigger cock could have fit in her. It took some work to actually get in there! I screwed a couple more girls fairly soon after. None of which commented either way about my size. I then met another very small girl that became my girlfriend for about 5 years. She too was a virgin and never once commented on my size. She was also very tight so I never gave the smallness of my unit a second thought. Matter of fact, I didn't think I was small at all. I knew I wasn't hung like a horse, but I wasn't concerned at all.

    The first time I heard a negative comment about my size was when i was 18. I worked at a local gym and I talked one of the girls that worked there into having casual sex with me (she ended up falling for me which soon complicated stuff). Basically, one night after work we went over to a co-worker's apartment and got a tad drunk. She was kind of out of it but I fucked her anyway. The next day at work she mentioned that my penis felt small in her. That was the first time in my life that I felt the sting of insecurity about my size. It bothered me a little, but later that day I fucked her again and she had her first vaginal orgasm. She also said that my penis didn't seem as small so I felt a little better but the spark of penis size obsession was flamed . Apparently her ex long-time boyfriend had a short but fat dick. She said that it was difficult for him to get it in her because it was so thick and short. She loved my length but it was obvious that my penis was skinnier than average. I fucked her another couple of times but eventually she got kind of weird and we stopped.

    I met and fucked a couple of other girls and none of them ever really commented on my size. One girl did say it was "cute" once, but I was so gullible that I didn't realize at the time that was not exactly a good thing. One girl, while were going at it, kept moaning in my ear what a big dick I had and so on and so forth. That distracted me more than anything else!

    When I was first at college I met a girl that I really fell for. She never mentioned anything about my size, but I knew that she had been with 4 or 5 guys before me (we were 20 years old) and she used to date a black football player. I asked her once if he was super big like they say and she said, quite matter-of-factly, "you are bigger than him." She was most likely just being sweet to me. Nonetheless, I found myself doing something I had really never done before... ruminating a little bit about my penis size! :frown1: At first, I thought it was crazy to worry about something that I had zero control over. I was getting laid regularly. My girlfriend was gorgeous, smart, etc. and I never had any problem making any girl cum (typically via oral). I put it out of my head and kept banging away.

    Then one day, a guy friend of mine and I were watching porn and before you know it he pulls out his unit and starts wacking off. So I pull out mine. His unit was shorter that mine, maybe 5" long or a tad longer. But he had more girth. Not a lot more, but probably a little over 5" girth. He made kind of a deal about how long and skinny my dick was and called it a "pencil dick." He was just giving me shit and I played it off like it didn't bother me, but it did. A LOT. Somehow, after some misery, I was able to put it out of mind.

    A few years after I graduated from college I met another girl that I fell OFF OF A CLIFF in love with. Never had I felt this way about anyone. She was very small and her area was amazingly snug. Tightest yet. However, something caught my attention... The first time we had sex and I slipped my cock in her, there was no reaction whatsoever. Like she didn't really feel it or something, or that she was surprised that it was so skinny. She didn't say anything, but I could tell. I plundered her as many times a day as I could and she never said anything either way about my unit. The only way I could make her cum was by tweaking or licking her bean. She was 28 when we met and had been fucked about 50 times total by 15 or so guys... so she was kind of a slut but I didn't know that (because she told me she had only had sex with around 5 guys and had only done the act maybe 10 times total in her life. LIES do damage, ladies! Don't lie. Always tell the TRUTH about this particular subject!). She had also told me that none of the guys that she had been with had big dicks. For those guys that start down this obsessive path, you know you are really losing it when you start asking your lady about every possible detail of her past sexual experiences. Which leads to more lies from her. :mad: Well after some divine intervention she finally tells me that when she was in college she got fucked by some guy with a "freak of nature" dick. She said that it hurt so bad that she had to make him stop. BUT... but... she tried to fuck him again. Now why would she do that? If it hurt so bad the first time, why try again? I never did get a straight answer on that one, but I digress. So out of 15 guys, only 1 of em' had a huge dick? That's her story, but I don't think that is true.

    Having a small penis is a test. I would love to have a huge dick like some of the guys around here. 9" long x 7" girth. It's amazing what an affect having a little penis can have on a guy's whole mojo.

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    My thinking - you've got an average penis, a little on thin side - but big deal.

    Mind you wanting a 9x7er will give you FAR more problems - women will be curious - but many will be hesitant (more than by your present size). You just need to be happy with what you have
     
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    u neednt worry about ur size, most of us normal blokes worry, worry n worry some more, but eventually it will get to the point where u think, fuck it, who cares anyway. fuck as much as u can, if they dont like it so what, u already fucked them. sorry everyone to sound horrible but to u women out there, if u care about huge dicks that much, u deserve to be treated that way. to those of u women where size isnt an issue (HA!) or u dont mind normal guys, then that comment isnt aimed at u
     
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    I'm not happy with what I have. I've done some PE stuff and now my size is almost 7" long (over 7" if I measure from my pubic bone) and my girth is 5". I seriously looked into having the surgery done, but the rewards just don't seem that great unless a person does several dermal grafts and I don't have the $ for that. If I did I would, though.
     
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    Be happy that you are healthy enough to use your dick...be proud of what you have. If you are always wanting what someone else has, you will never be happy in life....there are always going to be smaller dicks and bigger dicks...that is life!

    Wow, was that Oprah enough for you??? (hah).
     
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    Man, there is nothing wrong with what you have. You are average or a bit above average....maybe a bit slim in girth but that can be changed by Jelqing and vacumm pumping. Man, some guys would kill for what you have...!!! So, forget about being on "the small sidew", because you aren't!

    I know this is a site for large cocks, but it's how you use what you have that really counts....so work on techniques that will make what you have give her thrills that larger ones can never give. And, using your cock isn't the only way to pleasure a girl......but I think you already know that. Use everthing in that arsenal of yours......

    Good Luck.....remember....you are NOT SMALL....YOU ARE A STUD!.....say it over and over until you believe it.....because it is TRUE!
     
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    Thanks. I can see what you're saying. The issue is that when a guy falls in love for real for the very first time, this particular insecurity (if there is potential for it) rears its ugly head in a big way. If I was just looking to go out and fuck a bunch of chicks, then I don't think it would bother me as much. Oh, it would bother me. But, you see, the woman that I am ga ga over has had a huge cock (most likely more than just one) in her. Once a gal has been fucked by a guy with a big dick she is tainted forever. For most women, the size of a guy's tool isn't a total deal-breaker (there are obvious exceptions), but a girl will always desire to be fucked by a big cock again once it has happened. Any girl that says that size doesn't matter is either (1) lying, or (2) hasn't been fucked by a nice big dick that stretches her pussy in a good way and taps her CDS until she experiences physical pleasure that up until that point hasn't even crossed her synapses as a fathomable reality.

    Size does matter. Now, of course, too big is not good. There are a few size queen freaks out there that want the 10"x8" and bigger, but they are few and far between. And frankly, those chicks freak me out. But, if you show any girl a true 8"x6" you will soon see the proof of what I am saying.
     
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    welcome to lpsg first of all. Personally I feel you are not alone. Unless your a dude walking around with a double digit dick in your pants you may always have insecuritys. And even then there may be something that bothers them. I used to be consumed as well and often still am that my now wife has had
    better, bigger lovers in her past. However she is a very honest outspoken person so when she does tell me things compliments etc. I except them. But there are times where I still dwell. I'm not trying to be a hippocrite by no means. I do feel that when I feel confident I feel secure and proud of myself and my manhood. I think I've learned that's what i need to feel most, confident and secure and oddly enough since joining lpsg I have gained a lot of that.
     
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    What in the hell are you talking about....surgery! You are another that is well over average....on the large size....and you are complaining? What a waste of time and energy! You say you have done PE....but did you really stick with it? did you expect to to happen over night? You can indeed gain in length and girth with PE, and especially in girth with pumping. Don't give up so easily.....Give it another chance..

    Forget the surgery. I have never read or heard of anyone who feels the cost and pain was worth it..... You should do a lot of research before you do it....check out the threads on Thunder's Place and diaries of those who have had it done and are VERY SORRY they have done it. Some even bringing charges against the doctors...
     
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    Thanks for the pep talk :smile:
     
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    Thanks for sharing, but you have a huge dick, so I'm not sure you can really relate. Just saying...
     
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    my relating to the subject are the feelings of insecurity. I apologize if I came off as a hippocrite. Point is I sometimes feel the same even if I have a quote, unquote huge cock.
     
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    What are your stats?


    I can understand the insecurity part for sure. You have a big johnson, but because the love of your life got fucked by a bigger one you feel insecure. Women have no clue. Ho hum.
     
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    So a woman who has had 15 men in 10-15 years is a slut?

    Fifteen men in 10 years of being an adult -- or perhaps in 15 years of being sexually active? So a woman who has, on the average, 1 man or 1 and a half men a year is a slut?

    Where do you men get off giving a man a high-five who has been with numerous partners, yet rain insults on a woman who's done the same.

    With your judging morality, is it any wonder she lied to you?

    Look at it from the other viewpoint, she was just trying to be kind by not telling you anything about your size.

    If you want truth about your size, ask a man. Most women are going to make the best of it, and really just want to be nice.

    So get over the size of your dick. It's the least of your problems when it comes to women.
     
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    For the record, 6" isnt small...
     
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    Oh and by the way, size can have very little to do with whether a woman can orgasm vaginally or not. Mental hang ups or physical problems are the usual culprits when a woman can't orgasm vaginally.

    And women who don't orgasm vaginally can get quite hung up about it.

    Your ex girlfriend was probably feeling twice as inadequate as you were.

    Yet you badgered her to death and she only fessed up because of an act of God?

    Please take some time to learn some psychology and learn how to be nice before you get into another relationship.
     
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    I'm the biggest she's had however my insecuritys lye within performance mostly because I just want to be the best lover she's had. Sometimes I doubt myself too damn much.
    my wife loves the way I make love to her she loves my cock she is always bragging and showing her friends pictures. I just need to learn to love it as much as she does 100% of the time. LOL
     
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    With regards to penis size, I found this on

    Facts about penis size

    It would appear the Kinsey graph is still fairly accurate.


    Average penis length


    A non-erect penis usually measures between 8.5cm and 10.5cm (3-4 inches) from tip to base.

    The average figure is about 9.5cm (3.75 inches), but this kind of precise measurement is rather valueless. Many factors can cause a temporary shrinkage of two inches or more, for instance cold weather or going swimming, so you needn't worry if you happen to fall short of the average figure.

    Of course, it's true that some men have big penises and some have smaller ones, just as some men have small feet and some have big feet, but the measurement is not - repeat not - an index of virility.

    Most people think that a tall man will usually have a large penis, but this is not true. The distinguished American researchers Masters and Johnson measured the penile lengths of more than 300 men.

    • The largest organ was 14 cm (5.5 inches) in the flaccid state. It belonged to a slim man who was 5' 7" tall (170 cm).
    • The smallest penis measured 6cm (2.25 inches). It belonged to a fairly heavily built man of 5' 11" (180cm).
    It's also worth pointing out that there is no correlation between penile size and race.

    Average size of erections

    We've talked about the length of the penis in its ordinary non-erect state, but how long should it be when it's erect?

    Interestingly, most penises are very much the same size when erect.

    • The man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100 per cent increase in length during sexual excitement.
    • The man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75 per cent increase.
    • This means the great majority of penises measure between 15cm and 18cm (6-7 inches) when erect, with the average figure being about 16.5cm (6.5 inches).
    So you can see that even if a man has got a 'small' penis, he's got a built-in compensating factor that will bring him up to about the same size as the guy who appears to be 'better equipped' in the shower room.
     

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    Gotta agree with HM. Your attitude towards women should concern you more than the size of your cock.

    You went to great lengths to describe your sex life which included multiple partners and then called the love of your life a slut because she bedded 15 men. I'm confused as to how the very behaviour you displayed before you met "the one" is different than hers. Feel free to explain.
     
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    Of her fifteen previous partners, 12 probably fell within the "average" range, and of the remaining three, perhaps two would have been small and one big, or vice versa. That's just the stats.

    More important is your attitude, as pointed out.

    She is not a size queen or she would have dumped you by now.

    So your attitude to making love with her is more important than you measurements.

    It doesn't sound as if you are both built such that you are going to make her pass out with your size, so you need to deal with that. It seems that she has and doesn't need to have that. It's your issue, not her's, so you deal with it and stop looking for excuses to pin on her.

    Finally, I think that it is the ultimate in male sexual maturity to get to the point where you are not jealous of a partner's previous lovers, but rather to hope that she has enjoyed a good life and not been emotionally hurt.

    Actually I quite like the fact that most women have had bad sex, it means that if you take the trouble to be good, you are appreciated.
     
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