Having babies late

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  1. D_Tina_Ciao

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    I had all my babies later in life (have never done anything "normally") - started at 35, had my last one at 42, then had a miscarriage and went immediately into menopause, so it turned out to be a good thing that I had them when I did, or it would have been too late for me. :wink:

    Any other women here have their babies a bit later than "normal"? :confused:
     
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    Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Congratulations on the others though.

    42 is pretty young for menopause. I wonder what hormonal trigger occurred there.

    A lot of women are waiting until later in life to have children. I think primarily for stability and money reasons. Also longer life in general.
     
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    Had two miscarriages, but the last one came after my 4th live birth - I have no idea what triggered it. I was under a lot of pressure then (mother with Alzheimer's and a daughter severely handicapped with Rett Syndrome, so it might have been stress.) In any case, I'm really glad I had 'em while I could! *Love* my children, all 4 of them. :heart:
    The best thing is that the older I get, the more they show their love and appreciation for me - so it's a win-win for all. :biggrin:
     
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    The Mrs. is in her early 30's and just about to have our first. Let's just say the combination of hormonal pregnancy desires and approaching the age of peak female sexuality has proven to be a huge win all around. :wink:
     
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    I'm 31 and wanting kids but haven't found the right opportunity yet. I do worry about leaving it too late but I figure I only have to start panicking when i'm 35+. Good to hear that I've probably got even longer than that. My niece and nephew will have to suffice in the meantime.
     
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    I think it's good not to panic, and even better to have children when they're *wanted*.
    30's is a good time to start, I think. :smile:
     
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    My best friend had her 1st child at 47 her husband was 57, they couldn't happier.
     
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    I wanna wait till im atleast 30 to have children. I want my career to get established first and to save money. My family thinks thats too old cause and the fact that my mother waited till she was 27 to have me seemed long enough to everyone.

    I once saw a show of women who said the same thing I said and they waited till it was too late unfortunately. A few of them adapted though
     
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    i don't have any children but i don't think there's anything wrong with having them at a later age. we women are all different and we have different things we want to focus on in life.

    i particularly don't want to have children for a looooooooong time. call me selfish, but i want to enjoy my youth all i can and be able to go to places and do things i want whenever i feel like it. i'm only 23 and i need to enjoy my life before i don't have one anymore.
     
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    DITTO! :rolleyes:
     
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    If I ever have kids, I'll be old.
    My mother was almost 40 when I was born, so I do not feel that 'young mom' pressure.

    Congratulations!
    Mmm, finally, a sexy DILF! :09:
     
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    We can practice Queen of ice!!!!
     
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    :biggrin1: I'm good. Really good. ;)
     
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    :eek: Wow! I needed to hear that. :yup: People like that give me hope! :cool: :smile:

    I am 43 and hope to be pregnant by this time next year. If you've followed my blogs you know I have had a number of issues with uterine fibroids and now I have a blood clot in my leg which is being treated with warfarin. Can't get preggers on warfarin, as it causes wicked bad birth defects. :frown1: On the bright side, sex is still very enjoyable. :biggrin1:

    Why didn't I have children earlier? I didn't want to be another statistic. :mad: You know, just another single, black mother. It wouldn't matter that I have a masters degree. The statistics never include the education level of the single black women.

    I tend towards serial monogamy. So it's not like I didn't have a man in my life for many of the years from 21 onward. Call me old fashioned, but I really did want to be married before I had babies. About 4 years ago I realized I couldn't afford to wait for marriage and I started looking into donor sperm.
     
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    I am 30 with no kids. A lot of people think that there is something wrong with me for not having any children yet but I don't see the problem. I want to be married before I have kids. I also want to at least receive my bachelors degree ( I just returned to school) before I have kids. I have aunts who are in their 40's still having babies. One of them has 12 kids the oldest is 26 and the youngest is 2. I hope I am ready by the time I reach 35.
     
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    I had my first four, all within 5 years, in my late 20s/early 30s. That was a manic time, but enjoyable as I was young enough to cope. I then had a lovely 'surprise' when I was 39. In retrospect I think older is better. I enjoy him so much, have more time to spend with him, and am old enough not to worry about any of the crap I did before - pressure of conforming etc.

    (not that I've ever really done THAT too well anyway)

    I feel very lucky to have had it both ways :)
     
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    OMG:eek: I'm only thirty seven and had my kids young. I had to very difficult pregnancy and couldn't image the complication if I had waited. I guess I'm old school cause I feel having my kids in my twenty is better than my forties. I know both my brother's had their kids in there thirties and are happy as all get out. So I guess it comes down having kids when you feel best suited to do so. I still think your crazy to wait.
     
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    Sometimes Life doesn't give you a choice and you *have* to wait, as in my case. First husband couldn't support us, much less children, and was abusive. Had to wait until safe.
     
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    I'll be 40 at the end of the month and i'm not worried about having babies late. If they come, wonderful. If not, there's always adoption and there are plenty of children waiting for a good home. I'm more concerned about being a good parent than I am about how old I am when I bring children into my home. Seems almost every day I read in the news about unfit parents. I refuse to be one of them.
     
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    I'm not really worried about when or if I have children of my own. I will be 26 a little later this year and I'm totally unconcerned. There are so many other things I want to do with my life. Also after having worked in a group home and with foreign orphanages I am more determined than most people to make sure that I can give my children everything they need and more. I'm not so worried about marriage or having a husband as I'm pretty sure hell would have to freeze over before I got married. However, knowing all of this I have a friend who criticizes me because I don't have an marriage prospects or children yet. She does all of this while being unmarried, she and her boyfriend still live with her parents and their newborn in her childhood bedroom. Somehow she thinks that is better than the life I have chosen for myself. I say to each his own...which is why when I'm ready to help mold and enhance the life of a child(ren) I will become a foster parent, adopt, or even pursue having children of my own. I estimate I will be in my 30s.
     
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