Having Feelings for your Housemate

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  1. Island Club Guy CT

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    I got a new housemate this month, straight male with a girlfriend. I have now started to grow feelings for him. Last night after he told me that he broke up with his girlfriend these feelings just errupted. I went on to sniff his underwear ( my first time doing this) How can I approach him regarding my feelings ,I think he is 100% straight. Its only been 8 days we have been sharing a house, He still locks the bathroom door etc. Help & Advice needed. I am 100% gay male.
     
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    If he's 100% straight and You're 100% gay, you may want to keep these feelings to yourself.
     
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    I have to agree with Industrial on this one. I know it would mess up your friendship. If you think there is even a remote possibility that his 100% straight could start leaning toward gay, let him make the move. If you move too soon, you'll scare the bunny.
     
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    I agree with the previous 2 posts. Speaking as a straight male I would have to say the last thing I'd want after I broke up with my girlfriend would be a gay housemate telling me he has feelings for me. lemont is very wise...let him make the move.
     
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    Wait, there is a huge difference between having feelings for a guy and having sexual feelings for a guy and this is clearly sexual, otherwise you don't sniff his underwear and also because you know him for like 8 days...
    Don't do it!
     
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    Yeah, you need to get a life. Get yourself a bf. Hitting on straight guys will not get you anywhere. No interest in you whatsoever.
     
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    I'm gonna add to these excellent posts with a thought of my own.

    The idea of going into his room and "sniffing his underwear" is borderline creepy. Especially if you are just new roommates. Unless you want to make the rest of the time you spend together INCREDIBLY uncomfortable (specially when he finds out you sniffed) I suggest you just treat him like a friend and nothing more.

    Unlike the internet world, in RL, straight guys aren't all closeted Bi's, just dying for a homosexual to suck their dick.

    If you want a relationship, or a sexual companion, have you tried online dating, going to clubs, joining a Gays and lesbian group at school?
     
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    Bad bad bad bad bad situation.

    You did wrong.

    Stop it and either get out, get him out, or get some reality sensors and grasp that it's never gonna happen.
     
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    Ok just to clarify he left his washing basket in the lounge and I took the underwear to my room to sniff. However its really tough for me , i have been getting some crazy ideas in my head like giving him sleeping tablets & taking advantage of him or getting him really drunk etc. I am young and don't how to control this. Looking for advice how i can stop this & should i just confront him.
     
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    you need to move out or have him move out.
     
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    *Facepalms*
    It'd be easier to just put a bet on how many BEATINGS that will OP will get when flatmate finds out.

    30 Dollars on a double black eyes after he finds out about the pant sniffing.
     
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    Living with you sounds very frightening. Because you have feelings for him you don't have to resort to drugging and raping him. If you like each other you should be content to live happily together. Find someone else who is willing to have sex with you. Don't make your rape fantasy a reality.
     
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    oh my oh my oh my. you'll need a lot more patients. It's taken me 10 months to suck my straight roommates cock. (2 weeks ago) The first time i stopped before he came - that can change people) and told him to finish it himself. But last week I got a nice load and he's cool. He's got a few girl "friends" AND he's probably 99.9998 % straight.
    for him, it was just getting off. there was and will never be ANY reciprocation.
    I have feelings for him, but they are feelings of friendship. I don't fall for straight men. That would be idiotic. really.
    you might just be in lust. figure it out. lust or love. If he had a pussy, you wouldn't give a rats ass about what you're thinking.
    Now, go out and find available people to wallow your emotional and physical being in.
     
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    Just so you know, you're describing rape.

    I suggest you get some help.

    And can you PLEASE not listen to SEXPLEASE. That early advice is seriously going to get you into trouble.

    EDIT: the stuff about moving on was good though, so I correct myself and suggest you listen to the part about finding a new guy who is gay adn eager to be with you.
     
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    Sounds more like someone wants attention on this board.
     
  16. Island Club Guy CT

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    Guys Hold On, No one is talking about rape here ,anyway in our country Men can't get raped, I was saying if I am drunk and he is really drunk maybe i can make a move on him. I think he is very comfortable with gay people his last housemates was a gay couple and my personal view is if you comfortable with gay people generaly you are more than likely be keen on trying a gay experience just once.
     
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    Sometimes I don't blame you Island club Guy. Some of the things that the supposed "straight" guys say on here..make me think that all straight guys are ok with some gay sex lol

    Unfortunatley I think its mostly bi guys saying they are straight.
     
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    id say wait it out a bit. you're only guessing he's 100 percent straight, and it might be a good guess. but if you actually like him, there might be something else there he is unaware of. let it settle.

    hahaha, eventually get him drunk and don't try too hard. this kind of stuff has to be 'worked on'. you don't just make a straight man turn gay, but you could get some fun out of it.

    more importantly, don't loose your roomate. you'll probably need that income for rents.


    i've always been drunk when gay guys successfully hit on me. i even got a blowjob out of it once. i was disturbed slightly the next day, but whatever.
     
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    You can see how he reacts when you maybe expose a bit, or go to the shower naked. Maybe you can discuss topics like masturbation with him. Just probe a bit to get an idea. Then decide for yourself if you want to proceed. If a guy does not want to reveal or acknowledge certain characteristics, he can be very unpredictable.
     
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    As usual a lot of overreaction on here. I've lived with lots of roommates / flatmates, all apprently straight, and I've sniffed their underwear and sometimes jacked off in it or in their beds. I've fantasised about getting them drunk too but I'd never actually do it. In my experience the crushes fade with time and many of them are still close friends. No big deal really...
     
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