Having to choose. [Warning: Ridiculously long post.]

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OK this is getting a little out of hand. Sorry Meg if you feel ganged up on but it's hard for people to see this situation clearly and not be able to convey that to you because you don't see it. You ask for advice but you're not really taking the advise given to you. I am sorry that this is turning into kind of a mean thread but I think people are frustrated when people ask for help but don't actually want it. I dont have a problem with you discussing your relationship here if it helps you but I dont think it did help. I think you're going to do what you want to do, which is fine because its YOUR life. Its just that if you bring an issue to the table we're going to discuss it (though a bit harshly). You seem like a sincerely nice person and I hope that you can make a logical decision about this.

I want to point out when you keep saying how great this guy (SP) is the title of your post is "having to choose". That does not sound like innocent flirtation. Your post was about choosing one man over another and that is reason enough for me to say maybe this (SP) isnt the right guy for you.
 

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Internet relationships are the bestest thing ever because you never get to see the flaws and character defects of the one you love.

Meg, you're trying to make a man love your child the way you do and that isn't going to happen. You've been given great advice and have chosen to follow your own train of thought that has led you to the place you are to begin with.

Enjoy the continued nagging of a mother to a 27 yr old man who isn't going to do what you want just because you had a talk with him. The fact that you had to have a talk to him about it in the first place should be screaming at you that things are majorly wrong.

Yes you love each other but love isn't enough. In a few weeks or months you'll be right back where you are and wondering how the hell you got there...yet again.

Good luck, you're gonna need it.
 

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I stand by my assessment and pat myself on the back for providing solid analysis

I also don't think you came here for help, you were seeking validation. Someone that looks for help is not going to be contrary in every response
 

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I truly hope you find yourself in all this Meg. It's all about this man or that man and your child in-between. You spoke of a timeline for your boyfriend. Remember that's a timeline for you as well. Honestly, the only person you are responsible for in the end is your child.