Having trouble getting hard during sex

[D_Jesse J Javelin]

Ok first, I'm 19 years old. I consider myself healthy and everything. Even though I do smoke cigarettes. Its only a pack every two weeks. Anyway I have a problem.

Last night I was making out with a girl friend of mine in my car. Eventually she got naked and I was in my boxers. We would have had sex except I could not for the life of me get fully hard. I got probably like 60% hard. This is the 2nd time its happened with her. I am able to get an erection while I masturbate. I even get hard when we kiss out in public.

I don't know what it is. I've only had sex with one other girl before back when I was 16. And even then, it took me a while to get an erection. So I'm not really experienced. Which makes me think it might be anxiety but im not sure. And I'm thinking about going to the doctor and getting checked out. Possibly asking for/buying some viagra or something as well. At least to use the first time with her. What would you guys do?

Also, is it possible for you guys to get an erection without getting a blowjob? Because I'm thinking this might help.

 

[thetramp]

Yes it is possible to get an erection without a blowjob, and i do think it is very well possible that you are just a little nervous, try to talk to her, take away the anxiety and get at ease.
There are things you can do to help taking your mind of it. There are many herbal substances that can increase the blood stream in the genitals, you can train your pc muscle which should help too, and you can of course go the drug way.
Tho any placebo would probably work because it would take your mind and the pressure of it.

And if you think a blowjob or some help from her in general would be good talk to her about it, some foreplay can also help you to get at ease.

 

[Aplus]

Not all guys are wired the same first of all. I blowjob might help. but so might other eye or bodily contact. A different place or time could change things. Being nervous or anxious is probably one of the bigger causes though. I believe the body reacts more naturally when it's at least partly relaxed. Sex in a car "might" make some anxious too. Maybe your not ready yet, maybe you are. Maybe she's not the one you really want to do it with, maybe she is. Only you can truly know. Sometimes you just have to relax and let it happen.

 

[FuzzyKen]

I would be more worried if the circumstances were in a relaxed situation where you were not under pressure. Pressure, under the right circumstances is worth more wilted or partial erections than nearly anything else.

Good Luck!

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Yeah, you just need more practice. If you can get and maintain erections by yourself when you want to, there is nothing physically wrong with you.