He had a big ass dick for nothing!

[Notaguru2]

Growers, only. We rule.

 

[the_reverend]

Lol, I've gotten the same thing before. One girl actually said, "Yeah I never thought you had a big dick because you were so nice!"

I told her she had it wrong, the mean guys have the small dicks and the nice guys have the big dicks... that's why they're so mean and we're so nice! :tongue:

amen to that! lol!

 

[Closet Donkey]

A few things: First, some women prefer a certain type of men because of previous experience. I had a black girlfriend who swore off black men because every one them treated her wrong/bad. Its bad that a few dozen guys of a certain ethnicity can leave a bad taste in a girl's mouth, it just happens. I know of women who were totally into black men because of the way they were treated. Maybe she just picked the wrong ones. Of course, when a women chose 20 to 30 black guys and they were all the wrong ones, maybe it was her.
Second, maybe the guy was on drugs and that is why he couldn't get hard. I know that some guys take drugs to "relax" and they take too much and preform horribly. I know that when I have sex, I like to do it totally straight without any drugs in my system because I want to feel everything.
Don't let one guy turn you off to other guys whom you might pick up on the Internet. I've used the Internet to pick up dozens of girl, guys and couples and had some good and bad experiences.

I'm a black guy, and though I'll be bashed till the end of time for stating my opinions I honestly think that a lot of black guys are extremely arrogant and think that they are the best thing since sliced bread. A lot of black guys love to state that they have a big black dick even when they are swinging 6 inches; I've never understood this personally.

Now not all black men are douche bags, though there probably is a fairly high percentage, but I have found that this has a lot to do with the environment in which they live more so than anything. The level of ignorance of some black men is astounding to say the least, and this is often reflected in the way they treat women.

It is the same here in England, though not as pronounced as in the U.S, as the ghetto street culture that is so often mistaken for black culture is more prevalent in the U.S than it is in England, though I fear that many of the young black men in Britain aspire to be the UK equivalent of their U.S brethren. Surprisingly many of the women can't seem to get enough of these guys, and unfortunately believe that all black men are this way. While some of us have fought our way through education and hard work on our journey to where we want to be in live, we often find that we are grouped together with these same douche bags regardless.

In my experience many of the educated black women only date white men because they are firstly open to dating other races, and secondly given up on finding a decent black man, as we seem to be in less abundance. I don't blame the OP, and have heard similar views from black women on other forums. The interesting thing is that the guys who try to defend black men (I'm not referring to anyone here) are usually the same douche bags that the women are complaining about, and often while trying to defend us only make things worse by their inability to string a proper sentence together in standard english.

 

[Daisy]

OK so my opinion will not be popular but here goes anyway...of course it sucked!! It was a cold, impersonal meeting in hotel room. You have no history with the guy, no intimacy, no connection. I'm sorry but I'm not surprised the sex sucked. You need a boyfriend, not a random fuck. I'm not saying that in a judgmental way, just sayin...there is no replacement for real intimacy.

 

[Drifterwood]

Carry a cockring or at least a rubber band.

 

[ripvanwinkle]

some guys (like most women) need a emotional connection or else their pecker won't live up to its potential. do you like the guy? give it another chance. maybe he was just nervous

 

[VoyeurEx]

WOO WOO WOO...WOO WOO WOO!!!!

Well THESE THING HAPPEN in life!!!! It JUST goes to show ya' that EVERYthing that LOOKS GOOD to you ISN'T good for you!!!! It's just DISAPPOINTING to FINALLY get what you'd been DREAMING and CREAMING for and get LET DOWN like that!!!!

I can remember a time when I came across someone I had previously HOOKED UP with!!!! He could stay COMPLETELY ERECT for AS LONG as I needed (AND he was 40!) Well, ONE night we found each other and I TRIED to work with it, but no matter WHAT I did his DICK just WOULDN'T GET HARD!!!!

HE had one of those LONG, FAT DICKS that can STRETCH your MOUTH and ANY OTHER HOLE!!!!

THEN after we STOPPED, he HUGGED me talkin' about how he wanted to FUCK me and give me AS MANY ORGASMS AS I COULD HAVE!!!! ""If you can have 20 ORGASMS, I wanna' give you 21!" NOT with Mr. SOFTEE you won't!!!!

They have PILLS for that, you know!!!!

 

[EboniGoddess]

I'm a black guy, and though I'll be bashed till the end of time for stating my opinions I honestly think that a lot of black guys are extremely arrogant and think that they are the best thing since sliced bread. A lot of black guys love to state that they have a big black dick even when they are swinging 6 inches; I've never understood this personally.

Now not all black men are douche bags, though there probably is a fairly high percentage......

In my experience many of the educated black women only date white men because they are firstly open to dating other races, and secondly given up on finding a decent black man, as we seem to be in less abundance. I don't blame the OP, and have heard similar views from black women on other forums. The interesting thing is that the guys who try to defend black men (I'm not referring to anyone here) are usually the same douche bags that the women are complaining about, and often while trying to defend us only make things worse by their inability to string a proper sentence together in standard english.

I totally understand what you're saying...totally. Orignally I only dated black men, after being pissed off by enough of them I decided I was going to meet men or both races and after comparing the white men I attract to the black men I attract I decided to eliminate black men all together. I got to a point where I saw dating a black man was a waste of my time. So far all the white men have been very nice to me. I'm sure I'll eventually come across a white asshole but either way I still have a much higher percentage rate with white men.

OK so my opinion will not be popular but here goes anyway...of course it sucked!! It was a cold, impersonal meeting in hotel room. You have no history with the guy, no intimacy, no connection. I'm sorry but I'm not surprised the sex sucked. You need a boyfriend, not a random fuck. I'm not saying that in a judgmental way, just sayin...there is no replacement for real intimacy.

I was still surprised the sex sucked. I told him what I wanted and he said he could fufill my needs. He didn't when he said he would so therefor I was surprised.

 

[ConstantComment]

A few things: First, some women prefer a certain type of men because of previous experience. I had a black girlfriend who swore off black men because every one them treated her wrong/bad. Its bad that a few dozen guys of a certain ethnicity can leave a bad taste in a girl's mouth, it just happens. I know of women who were totally into black men because of the way they were treated. Maybe she just picked the wrong ones. Of course, when a women chose 20 to 30 black guys and they were all the wrong ones, maybe it was her.
Second, maybe the guy was on drugs and that is why he couldn't get hard. I know that some guys take drugs to "relax" and they take too much and preform horribly. I know that when I have sex, I like to do it totally straight without any drugs in my system because I want to feel everything.
Don't let one guy turn you off to other guys whom you might pick up on the Internet. I've used the Internet to pick up dozens of girl, guys and couples and had some good and bad experiences.

Remember, women don't so much choose men as attract them. If we don't like the kind of men that we attract, we can try to change ourselves in some ways to see if we can get a new audience. But that's about it.

If we don't like the way that a guy treats us, we can choose not to play ball with him. And we encounter less of that treatment because due to experience we can see the early warning signals in the next guy.

I am black as well and my experience with the black men who choose to date me has been less than pleasant. The ones that I have dated have been too focused on what other people think; on forging competing relationships with my family members (and yes with the black guys I date (but not the white ones, not even with my (ex) white husband) my family members are willing participants in this game (therefore I give up)) ,and on using insults as a way to "keep me in line." ie "I could do it better"......well, I won't be keeping you........

Is it any wonder I would ever bother again?

 

[D_Smiley_Longhorn]

Hang in there Rommette.. sometimes shit just don't work. Don't mean anything is wrong or bad between the two of ya. Whole situation sucks though !

 

[Sergeant_Torpedo]

So its not the lady's fault. Peole who hve too high an opinion of themselves to the point of self indulgence, yet are so opinionated of others. Maybe the guy felt let down too.

 

[touque]

Ok you were dissapointed. I would imagine that the dude got the worst end of it. He too didin't have great sex and probably feels unsure and embarassed at what his body was having difficulty with.
Perhaps learning about compassion might help elieviate your ranting

 

[B_Jordan85]

maybe you should look for relationships outside of the internet. It is WAY too brave to meet people on craigslist. condoms anyone?

 

[EboniGoddess]

A lot of black guys love to state that they have a big black dick even when they are swinging 6 inches; I've never understood this personally. LOL!

Remember, women don't so much choose men as attract them. If we don't like the kind of men that we attract, we can try to change ourselves in some ways to see if we can get a new audience. But that's about it.

If we don't like the way that a guy treats us, we can choose not to play ball with him. And we encounter less of that treatment because due to experience we can see the early warning signals in the next guy.

I am black as well and my experience with the black men who choose to date me has been less than pleasant. The ones that I have dated have been too focused on what other people think; on forging competing relationships with my family members (and yes with the black guys I date (but not the white ones, not even with my (ex) white husband) my family members are willing participants in this game (therefore I give up)) ,and on using insults as a way to "keep me in line." ie "I could do it better"......well, I won't be keeping you........

Is it any wonder I would ever bother again?

Same here...i've had black men play the "there are other fish in the sea" thing. If you feel like you want someone else then go and get them. Don't let me stop you. When I say this they say something like "girl I was just playing" or something in that line.

Hang in there Rommette.. sometimes shit just don't work. Don't mean anything is wrong or bad between the two of ya. Whole situation sucks though !

Who you telling?

Ok you were dissapointed. I would imagine that the dude got the worst end of it. He too didin't have great sex and probably feels unsure and embarassed at what his body was having difficulty with.
Perhaps learning about compassion might help elieviate your ranting

After he did get hard he came in like 7 minutes.....I was thinking "that's it?"

 

[dm7816]

W

 

[dm7816]

Same here...i've had black men play the "there are other fish in the sea" thing. If you feel like you want someone else then go and get them. Don't let me stop you. When I say this they say something like "girl I was just playing" or something in that line.

Who you telling?



After he did get hard he came in like 7 minutes.....I was thinking "that's it?"

I'm sorry you've had that experience with black guys. I'm a 22 year old black male in Tucson, AZ and I'm also going to college finishing up my degree next semester. We're really not all like that. I just wish more girls would evaluate us as individuals and not based on a few bad experiences or stereotyped portrayals of us in movies, television, rap videos, etc. I admit that sometimes I've held back approaching a girl because I don't want to come across as just another horny black guy. I hope you're able to find a black guy who can respect you so that your opinion of us can begin to change. I wish you good luck with school and everything else though.

 

[D_Bodacious Appetite]

I'm a black guy, and though I'll be bashed till the end of time for stating my opinions I honestly think that a lot of black guys are extremely arrogant and think that they are the best thing since sliced bread. A lot of black guys love to state that they have a big black dick even when they are swinging 6 inches; I've never understood this personally.

Now not all black men are douche bags, though there probably is a fairly high percentage, but I have found that this has a lot to do with the environment in which they live more so than anything. The level of ignorance of some black men is astounding to say the least, and this is often reflected in the way they treat women.

It is the same here in England, though not as pronounced as in the U.S, as the ghetto street culture that is so often mistaken for black culture is more prevalent in the U.S than it is in England, though I fear that many of the young black men in Britain aspire to be the UK equivalent of their U.S brethren. Surprisingly many of the women can't seem to get enough of these guys, and unfortunately believe that all black men are this way. While some of us have fought our way through education and hard work on our journey to where we want to be in live, we often find that we are grouped together with these same douche bags regardless.

In my experience many of the educated black women only date white men because they are firstly open to dating other races, and secondly given up on finding a decent black man, as we seem to be in less abundance. I don't blame the OP, and have heard similar views from black women on other forums. The interesting thing is that the guys who try to defend black men (I'm not referring to anyone here) are usually the same douche bags that the women are complaining about, and often while trying to defend us only make things worse by their inability to string a proper sentence together in standard english.

Born and lived in Germany and I couldn't agree more. Hope you weren't referring to me with the guys who defend black men but can't string a sentence together comment :/. Anyways I know there are a lot of black dudes who like to portray the asshole personality. But even though many women complain about the dudes and say they hate it a lot of females tend to purposely look for dudes like that despite what they say. So a lot of men (not me personally) tend to act like that so they can be what those type of females are looking for. And yea I do get tired of brotha claiming they are black so they are automatically big, cuz that's not really true I have a white friend of mine bigger than me.

And on the dating white men only part all I have to say is this. Date and be with who you want that's your decision, but don't automatically not talk to somebody just because of their race. You can be with all the white men you want but if you meet a black guy who ACTUALLY has his shit together don't ignore him just because of what some fuck ups did in the past.

 

[Pitbull]

I'm a black guy, and though I'll be bashed till the end of time for stating my opinions I honestly think that a lot of black guys are extremely arrogant and think that they are the best thing since sliced bread.

Now not all black men are douche bags, though there probably is a fairly high percentage, but I have found that this has a lot to do with the environment in which they live more so than anything. The level of ignorance of some black men is astounding to say the least, and this is often reflected in the way they treat women.

...While some of us have fought our way through education and hard work on our journey to where we want to be in live, we often find that we are grouped together with these same douche bags regardless.

I'm a 22 year old black male in Tucson, AZ and I'm also going to college finishing up my degree next semester. We're really not all like that. I just wish more girls would evaluate us as individuals and not based on a few bad experiences

And on the dating white men only part all I have to say is this. Date and be with who you want that's your decision, but don't automatically not talk to somebody just because of their race. You can be with all the white men you want but if you meet a black guy who ACTUALLY has his shit together don't ignore him just because of what some fuck ups did in the past.

A lot of truth there.

If anyone is bashing you for your opinion, Closet Donkey, it won't be me.

The problem is not someone's color or race.
Take culture, maturity (or immaturity), influences and experiences and you come up with an individual.
I believe much of the frustration Rommette is experiencing has to do first with maturity level.
Young black men often believe they will be admired if they come across as some kind of thug gangsta playa.
I know that shit works on some girls but usually fails when tried on women.

There have been many threads here regarding race and dating.
Allow me to quote myself with something I posted in another thread:

Skin color is like the paint job on a car.
You might have a preference
But would you walk away from the Mercedes and get into the Yugo
Because of color?

 

[blkbro510]

Look you just found a big dick white boy and you are going throw him away because of this one bad scene....Seriously how many horse hung men are you going to come by, even on damn craigslist (please don't mention the men on this site, cause they are into cam worshippers!).

Look he got nervous it happens! A lot more then you think. Give him a chance again. Some guys need to hang out and relax and get to know a person.

It takes skill and a high sex drive to just go in fuck someone. Not every man can do it.

Remember sex always begins in the mind! Get him in the head you will get him in the bed!

Ok, I just came back from the Hampton Inn. Finals week is coming up and i've been stressed out. I decided to place an add on craigslist and one guy I talked to who was the same age as me seemed like he would be a good fuck. For the last measure of screening I asked if he was white (i only mess with white men besides my last fuck buddy) and he said he was. He booked a room....came and picked me up from my dorm and then we headed there. When he dropped his pants staring in front of me was this long fat dick. I wad thinking to myself "this is gonna be a good fuck". Boy was I wrong. He couldn't get hard for like 20 minutes. We tried everything. Finally when he said he was hard he put it in. His hard dick isn't even hard! He struggled to put it in because it isnt hard (by my standards) and when it was in and he was pumping his dick in and out I felt just about nothing! There I was doing doggystyle thinking to myself about how horrible this experience was......and then it happened. I started thinking about the good times me and my old fuck buddy had. Don't worry.....i'm not going back to his ass but it had me thinking about him and how I could find someone with a dick like him who could fuck me like I want it. I told him I wanted a pounding. Even though he did go fast I didn't feel shit because his dick was soft. I'm so fucking mad right now and I needed to vent. My experience with craigslist was aweful.

 

[blkbro510]

What kind of black men are you getting? Or attracted to? Cause I'll tell you what I tell my two sisters, and all of 350 girl cousins.

" If he look like anyone on BET or ESPN don't bring him home!"

I know this something I shouldn't say infront of white folks but it's the truth. Black folks say there's no good blacks out there but we are picking thugs, mr.cool and the sistah who's going to be on the next round for Flava of Love or for the Love of Ray J. ROFL!:biggrin1:

Look guys if you going to date a black man, get one that keeps to himself and have clean finger nails!

If you want one with a big donkey dick, go to guy that doesn't have any friends...because he's hated on and you may want to know why!:biggrin1::wink:

it seems as though when I pick black men I always pick the wrong ones....dochebags, disrespectful, cheaters, ect. but every white guy I 've chosen has been a great guy. So i decided to just go with white guys cause I have good taste in them.