AlteredEgo, do you think most people end up meeting what they call the "man/woman of their dreams"?
Of course not. Just because you find short(er) guys not appealing, that does not mean the probability of you feeling attracted to one in the future is ZERO.
Most people are willing to settle. I have not yet found this to be necessary. I have been able to attract whatever type I was looking for, without fail since I started dating when I was 15. At the moment I am not single. I am not looking. I have not settled on any less than precisely what I wanted.
As for what the future holds the odds of me having a romance with a man shorter than what I'm used to are exactly zero, unless something happens to me where I cannot have sex at all. End of story. I am not sexually attracted to short men. You guys are not trying to fuck me anyway, so why is that so hard to accept?
I have lived most of my life in NYC, a city full of amazingly attractive people. I have seen many,many extraordinarily beautiful men who are short in stature. While I can see that they are attractive, I am not attracted to them. They do nothing for me sexually. I am exclusively sexually attracted to not just tall men, but
very tall men. This was not always the case, but that's how it is now.
Also, I tend not to feel attracted to girls who are taller than me. Not that I find them not attractive (that's clearly not the case), but I just don't feel much attracted to them...
This is not the same set of feelings. I do not "tend not to be attracted" to short men. I experience a complete lack of sexual response. I do not have sex with short men because their shortness is a turn-off to me sexually speaking. The feeling you describe of a tendency not to be attracted to taller women is how I feel about men of roughly average height. I'm not turned off to them, but they're really not my thing. They'd have to be otherwise spectacular to get my attention. Listen: I do not date men that I do not consider to be exquisite, and I hope no one who doesn't think as highly of me would date me either. When I was single I was looking for one who I thought was a "10" all around who also thought I was a "10" all around. My man is not perfect, but he's perfect for me, and I've been honestly able to say that about everyone I've ever had a long-term relationship with. This includes some short men, but I was still attracted to short men at the time.
My first SERIOUS girlfriend was a blonde with small breasts, underweight, 2,5 inches taller than me. Although she was far from the previous description (not a brunette, not in shape, no big firm breasts, no firm round butt, taller than me...), I felt incredibly attracted to her and I was always looking forward to making love to her (I know it was reciprocate, as we continued having sex until almost 1 year after the end of our relationship).
That is because you are not exclusively attracted to the woman you previously described. Also (I could be wrong, however,) I feel it possible that you were attracted to her DESPITE features you generally dislike, as opposed to being specifically attracted to those features. I don't do "despite". While I'm busy doing "despite", my partner is busy missing out on amazing people who would celebrate them BECAUSE as opposed to DESPITE.
If someone asks me if I would feel physically attracted to a tall, underweight blonde with small breasts, I would probably say exactly what you are saying about short men.
I know several short men who would otherwise be good or in some cases excellent matches for me. There are a lot of traits and features I look for in a man. Some of them are flexible. Height, for me, is not.
Sexual attraction is a LOT more than just physical attraction.
It starts with physical attraction, unless you meet on the internet, or through a penpal program, a blind matching service, or phone personals. in other words, absent of technology, physical attraction is the very first type.
Are you suggesting that a short guy (in your standards) who is perfect in every other aspect has absolutely no chance of making you feel attracted to him? If so, that's incredibly shallow... it's like saying I would NEVER feel attracted to a girl who is at least 10 pounds heavier than her perfect weight. I would be a shallow jerk if I really thought like that (I obviously don't).
Do you have a fetish for women at optimum weight? If not, your comparison is invalid. I do not date short men because, I do not go crazy with lust for them. I feel everyone deserves to be with someone who finds them to be perfect. Someone who could make them feel sexy and young even as they age together. I can't do that for a short guy, and he can't excite me the way an unusually tall guy could. Maybe if he was slightly above average there would be other things to change the balance for me, but I do not see this happening with a short guy. Believe me, I've had ample opportunity. I'd much rather be friends.