hello,sex problem fucked up psychology.

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  1. desperateguy21

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    first of all let me introduce my self.my name is desperateguy21 and i am 21 years old.i have been with almost 20 different women but never in a long term realtionship.

    first of all.my size is quite decent 7.15" length 5" midshaft 4.75" head,5.5" base.these are very honest meaurements.if you could see i picture of my penis here i could say that ut was 8"*6" probably with out having doubts from anyone.size is not my case.i know that i will get it.length is plenty.i could bottom 85% of the girls i was with and for the rest there was probably a half an inch that i couldn't reach,so i am very happy with my length.also i am a new PEr and i am trying to get that girth of 6",six real inches,not internet inches!well,i know that i will do it.i am quite young.even if it takes 3 years of manual PE ,or a surgery enhancement i will make it no problem.but for now,i am in deep love with my girl.i am her first guy,first time i wanted to have realtionship for a long time and i adore her!snif snif!
    sex was great.although she was a church girl and doesn't masturbate at all,she doesn't know how to reach orgasm etc.one month now i can't make her orgasm.i tried oral,possition with clitoral stimulation,fingers with G-SPOT stimulation everything+ combined clitoral stimulation with the other hand.everything..
    i am very openminded in sex and i can last for as long as i want,like 1 hour for sure.i am passionate and kinky and have great attitude for sex.and my size is above average in terms of length for sure.i am bigger of most of my friends.in fact,only one friend of mine out of 10 is bigger than me in length and not so much bigger at about 7.5".the others are at about 5.5"-7".
    we made love last month and we do it every other day for like an hour.sex was intense.the length hurted her after 10 minutes of deep penetrations and we ussually stop.she felt the girth she loved the feeling.


    here the story becomes sad..

    i was so obsessed to make her cum that i put 4 fingers inside of her with my hands and a lot of KY three days ago which equals with 7" girth as i measured afterwards.

    today we had sex..she couldn't feel me during missionary position and she enjoyed when she was on top and when i was doing her doggy style(in which she hurt like 5 days ago.)...

    whats the deal man?????she said that she could feel the length but she couldn't feel the girth.well she was quite horny today but i think that a made a permanent mistake by giving her 7" girth.what do you think?tell me..i feel less than a man,although i have great stamina and i can keep fucking after i cum without loosing an erection.i can do it like 3 times in a raw.thats my record.but guys..i really really don't enjoy Small penis humiliation when thinking that my girl is permanent stretched i feel so angry that i want to break a wall with my hands.i knew about this site beforehand.i drunk 3 beers and smoked som cigarretes and decided to log here.

    now tell me...there are 3 days from that event.she couldn't feel me tight..is she going to be normal again??after how many days??i told her to do some kegels.my mind is so fucked up at this time.help me please.
     
  2. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I can't imagine the effects are permanent.. just wait it out. Kegels should help.
     
  3. dolfette

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    funny...i've had fists in me, babies out of me and never had that issue.

    have you considered that maybe you're just fucking her badly?
     
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    If he fucks as badly as he types the poor girl is in deep trouble.
    sorry im in a bad mood that was harsh
    i`m sure its just a temporary side effect of shoving unexpected fingers inside her
     
  5. dolfette

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    yes, it hurt to read it.
     
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    I with 9" Canadian (whoa, dude!), it's probably just temporary.

    Listen, I grew up in a ultra-religious setting. It messes with your head big time. Still have issues today even though I'm an exhibitionistic tri-sexual.

    My recommendation is to get her to talk more about sex -- anything about sex! -- and help develop her very repressed sexual brain. The brain is the biggest sex organ in the body, and many uber-religions try to squeeze it out of your brain.
     
  7. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    dolfette I don't believe you. I must have first 'hand' evidence :tongue:

    And girls shrink back
     
  8. dolfette

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    you should try it!

    i love playing glove puppet.
     
  9. wldhoney

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    Arrrgh......It showed that it didn't go thru, wiped me out,then I had to retype,trying to remember what I said. *Angry face here
     
  10. psidom

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    my 3rd girlfriend was from switzerland and when i came inside her
    i asked if it was ok...and i will never forget her saying..."oh it stretches"

    so to answer your question no i doubt you "broke" her vagina
    or stretched it out.

    and as far as the religious upbringing and the repression.
    try bdsm,porn or "glass" toys...you can put them in warm water.
    warm not HOT,and masturbate her.
    she may not know how to dance by herself.
     
  11. psidom

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    i personally like women with roomier vaginas.
    :rolleyes:
     
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    well...guys you don't help me much.for my size,i believe that i can fuck ultimate good.i have had several women to tell me that,by their own and i had lots of one night stands in which women could orgasm only through intercouse.i admit that if i had 6" girth it would take about 5 minutes to make them cum and not 20 minutes but i could do it anyway.i am really sure about my abilities and i want more to please and then be pleased so thats my main concern here,but i want to know if i made her permanent stretched.we discussed about it.i could use a cockring to gain that 0.25" in order to feel tight again for her,but that isn't a solution.we decide not to have sex for like 20 days and to do some kegels.you can't understand how i feel.you all have more than 5.35" girth so you can't imagine.i believe god made a mistake and build average girth at 5".it should be 5.5".well,i am not so wise to speak for that but i want your help.

    20 days off + kegels will help??what do you think?
     
  13. dolfette

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    because if some one night stand said it was good it must be right for every woman?

    NEWSFLASH!

    we all like completely different things.
    what one woman sees as a great fuck will leave another stone cold.
     
  14. wldhoney

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    There are several possibilities here. First, she could simply be made larger. My husband had a girlfriend in high school who was a virgin. When he fingered her, although the entrance was tight, inside she was very open. He would have to really circle his fingers to touch her vaginal walls. Women are made different, just like men, and she may be bigger than other girls. She is not going to stay stretched from your hand.

    She could also have little sensitivity within her vagina. Again, everyone is different. And, 70% of women cannot achieve orgasm thru intercourse. The need some sort of manual stimulation.

    However, I believe you need to focus on the fact that she has never masturbated or had an orgasm. Unfortunately, parents and religion often create guilt in a person when it comes to sex that follows them their entire life if they do not get past it. It is very possible that she was caught as a child touching herself and was told it was bad. She needs to learn what feels good to her, and she can only do this by touching herself, either by herself or in front of you. If she doesn’t know what works, how can you? Let her know that there is nothing to be embarrassed about, that you do it, and that you find it sexually exciting.

    Until you get past that hurdle I do not think she will achieve orgasm thru intercourse. For many women, emotions and mentality are directly related to sex. Be patient, and enjoy the adventure, learning the finer points of sexual play. It doesn’t all have to be one big f*** fest.
     
  15. dolfette

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    i think that if some guy was treating my cunt like it's faulty i'd kick him in the nuts :smile:
     
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    Yes, she'll get tight again. It's a great thing with a regular partner to enjoy the alternation between loose and tight periods.

    No offense, desperateguy, but the fact that you're this upset about one encounter and that you "want to break a wall" because someone didn't respond the way you'd hoped makes me think you're far from mature enough to handle casual sex. You say you're open-minded, but you approach sex with some pretty high (and specific) expectations, not just of yourself but of your partner too. People are different. They respond differently to things, sometimes even from day to day. You said she enjoyed it, so what's the problem?
     
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    oh..come on....this is the help i need right now??i agree with your opinion,but i can give nice performance and i can make girls feel really comfortable about themselves and relax and i can discuss about anything.my girl was a church girl indeed.i made her feel comfotable and she loves me i know that.she believed that size doesn't matter and she couldn't believe how girls look at it and now....she has different opinion.i could make every girl orgasm one way or another.i have made two girls squirt with fingers and G-spot stimulation but i have never been in a long term relationship to know how a vagina is stretched and accomodates more and becomes bigger and looser and that is what scares me like hell.the reason that she can orgasm is probably because she feels the need to pee when penetrating and i have to stop,even if i continue she stops me one way or another and when i rub her clit or lick it she feels quite uncomfortable in high arousement and starts giggle and tell me to stop..the only way is to let her masturbate and reach orgasm on her own to get used to it and then help me to do it together.if i had 7" girth i could make her.i know it.i was close to make her cum with my hands inside of her 7" girth..almost close.but i put more pressure and power in the G-SPOT with my muscles and this pressure can't be done with a cock.

    i want to know if sex will be tight again as before.....i feel really depressed right now.i haven't felt such a depression even when my mother died.maybe tonight everything is coming out and hurts more and more..
     
  18. psidom

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    yes it should be tight again...unless you do not fill her.
    look up kama sutra...there are animal comparisons for man/woman fit.
    deer...mare...elephant...bull...i dunno them all
    google it.
     
  19. desperateguy21

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    well dolfete.i am not telling its faulty.maybe this girls needs more than 5.5" to reach that full feeling maybe its her anatomy.but she loves me and i love her and i think she is perfect and she thinks i am perfect and we want to make it perfect!you know what i mean?i aksed you guys here because i see you as friends and you give great advices!so help me out!maybe i am angry because i don't have above average girth,but i know that i will achieve it some day one way or another but for now,i want to be with her.she is my other half and i want to full fell every desire she has.is this bad?there is no need to kick me in the nuts.
     
  20. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    *crushed by wall of text*

    Tell me more of this glove play, dolfette :wink:

    I have made girls cum with just my tongue, you are perhaps going about this the wrong way. I think you're taking the stretching thing too far. If you whisper sexiness in her ear and make her hornier than a Triceratops (!) she will cum easily.

    If I were a girl...'channeling'...yes...I would think 'what the fuck are you doing down there?' and I would want you to stop using your hands and start using the cock. Maybe a change of tactics.
     
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