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Dude - the alcohol is magnifying your feelings of desperation. No answer will satisfy you tonight.

Go to sleep and log back in tomorrow when you're not drunk.
 

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Yes, she'll get tight again. It's a great thing with a regular partner to enjoy the alternation between loose and tight periods.

No offense, desperateguy, but the fact that you're this upset about one encounter and that you "want to break a wall" because someone didn't respond the way you'd hoped makes me think you're far from mature enough to handle casual sex. You say you're open-minded, but you approach sex with some pretty high (and specific) expectations, not just of yourself but of your partner too. People are different. They respond differently to things, sometimes even from day to day. You said she enjoyed it, so what's the problem?


wideone i tottaly agree with you.i have high expectations.but if you were with a girl that makes you wild..she was the first one that made me finish inside her vagina.i am a mental guy..i used to fuck fuck fuck and coming from blowjob or handjob with other girls and didn't feel so relaxed in order to let it go inside of them.that feeling she gave me was really precious and i want to give her the same feeling.if i wasn't so obssesed with her i would react differently...but now....i can't help it man..sorry i can't.she enjoyed?well..yes she did but it wasn't the same.she was really horny and wet and she couldn't feel me as tight as before inside of her she was furstarted and really anxious about the subject.she thinks that she is permanently stretched.i am trying to find an answer here to calm her and my self of course.
 

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dude, i've passed an 11 pound baby through mine and it was fine!
kegals are great but i think that's not the issue.

and if one night of loose sex has you that depressed you have way bigger issues than this board can help you with. see a doctor.

you're putting WAY too much on her cunt.
 

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I think you need to step back and relax a little. You are so focused on her having an orgasm that you may be putting too much pressure on her to have that orgasm and she is constantly thinking about it rather than on the sexual act itself. She may indeed have been brought up under very strict parents and taught that sex is bad. I think that with time and patience she will have that first orgasm you so desperately want for her. I have a slightly smaller dick than you but a 6" girth and have no problem bringing my wife to orgasm and she has had children. You did not stretch her out or damage her in any way with your hand. I have my fingers up my wifes vagina several times and every time it goes back into the tightness that she has always had. We have been married for 31 years now and its still as tight as when we first were married. Kegel's will work for tightness, but you need to relax and let upon the pressure. Good Luck
 

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*crushed by wall of text*

Tell me more of this glove play, dolfette :wink:

I have made girls cum with just my tongue, you are perhaps going about this the wrong way. I think you're taking the stretching thing too far. If you whisper sexiness in her ear and make her hornier than a Triceratops (!) she will cum easily.

If I were a girl...'channeling'...yes...I would think 'what the fuck are you doing down there?' and I would want you to stop using your hands and start using the cock. Maybe a change of tactics.
but i LIKE hands.
clenching around a wrist while those fingers wriggle inside me...feels like the universe centres in my cunt!
my brain melts and i'm just a glove puppet.

it's all shades of coolness!
 

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Frustrated, obsessed, anxious: in my experience these tend not to be words associated with enjoyable sex or the path to female orgasm.

Do yourselves a favor: give it up. Try again in a couple years when you're emotionally ready. I'm not trying to be mean. Your approach just isn't going to work.
 

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how can you tell? i want your spidy sense.:cool:

well psidom..hear this..we laid on the bed,i started speaking in her ear and i have quite deep voice and she finds that really sexy.i licked her ears and at the same time squashed her nipples with tempo and she was aroused.i told her to play a game.the losser takes of his clothes.if you made me erected in 15 seconds by rubbing it under the clothes i will take of my boxers briefs.so the game goes on...then if i lick you nicely in the nipples you will take off your shirt..and she took it off..i started to bite her pussy softly above her panties and she was wet i could feel it..and i removed them with my teeth only after that.no hands...and she wanted me inside like crazy.
we changed 4 possitions in 20 minutes and i came in missionary but she couldn't feel me in missionarry.also she didn't hurt in doggy like she used to.and we have done intense sex for 30 times so only this event 3 days ago changes the scene.....FUCK.i came inside of her with lust.i loved it.but she wanted more.what the fuck??

i would love to hear such a story of seduction!!it reminds me SPH!
 

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well psidom..hear this..we laid on the bed,i started speaking in her ear and i have quite deep voice and she finds that really sexy.i licked her ears and at the same time squashed her nipples with tempo and she was aroused.i told her to play a game.the losser takes of his clothes.if you made me erected in 15 seconds by rubbing it under the clothes i will take of my boxers briefs.so the game goes on...then if i lick you nicely in the nipples you will take off your shirt..and she took it off..i started to bite her pussy softly above her panties and she was wet i could feel it..and i removed them with my teeth only after that.no hands...and she wanted me inside like crazy.
we changed 4 possitions in 20 minutes and i came in missionary but she couldn't feel me in missionarry.also she didn't hurt in doggy like she used to.and we have done intense sex for 30 times so only this event 3 days ago changes the scene.....FUCK.i came inside of her with lust.i loved it.but she wanted more.what the fuck??

i would love to hear such a story of seduction!!it reminds me SPH!


well confused you have great fantasy.the story wasn't as kinky but you gave me a great idea right now for the future although my voice isn't so deep really.i made her wet that's for sure but this isn't my issue right now.
 

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I think you need to step back and relax a little. You are so focused on her having an orgasm that you may be putting too much pressure on her to have that orgasm and she is constantly thinking about it rather than on the sexual act itself. She may indeed have been brought up under very strict parents and taught that sex is bad. I think that with time and patience she will have that first orgasm you so desperately want for her. I have a slightly smaller dick than you but a 6" girth and have no problem bringing my wife to orgasm and she has had children. You did not stretch her out or damage her in any way with your hand. I have my fingers up my wifes vagina several times and every time it goes back into the tightness that she has always had. We have been married for 31 years now and its still as tight as when we first were married. Kegel's will work for tightness, but you need to relax and let upon the pressure. Good Luck

this was probably the best advice.how long does it take to go back to normal??
 

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Frustrated, obsessed, anxious: in my experience these tend not to be words associated with enjoyable sex or the path to female orgasm.

Do yourselves a favor: give it up. Try again in a couple years when you're emotionally ready. I'm not trying to be mean. Your approach just isn't going to work.


dude,i accept what you are saying here.maybe my approach is wrong emotionally and logically.All this love and feelings was to much for me to handle in such a little amount of time.but,i won't give up yet.this realtionship was a gift that i can't reject so easy.i am so happy and sad at the same time.so obsessed and calm at the same time.