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Discussion in 'New Member Introductions' started by lizard721, Oct 19, 2011.

  1. lizard721

    lizard721 New Member

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    I've been checking out the site for a while, and finally decided to make an account, so I just wanted to say "Hello."

    It seems that a lot of people here are friendly and understanding, so I'd like to ask for some advice regarding sexuality. Right now, I feel like I've been walking the fence between either side, and I really have no idea where I'm going. I was picked on in school, called gay because my two closest friends were girls, and that continued from fourth grade through eleventh.

    I've had relationships with girls, but not having sex. Two years ago, I met a guy through an online dating site. We got together and fooled around a bit, which I enjoyed. Since then, I've had an everlasting struggle with myself. A few months ago, I got fed up with holding it in, and came out to a few close friends, but I think I did so prematurely. Since then, I've decided I don't know what I am, and I really don't know how to go about finding out.

    I suppose my biggest fear has been proving those bullies right, from which I've always been worried that it would come back to hit me. I've contemplated suicide, going so far as to beginning to compose a "farewell" letter, but I never finished that, and have since strayed from that direction.

    I really have no idea what I'm doing, so can anyone please help me?
     
  2. parchissi

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    Glad you did - and Hello back to you.

    Warm welcome to you and good to see you have arrived. Take it easy and enjoy the journey. Cheers.
     
  3. davethefox

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    No suicide, OK?

    You are a good guy dealing with an emormous burden. But you are certainly not alone out there.

    Your nearest city should have a counseling center for men (and women) in the same situation. Go to it; these places are wonderful. I've been there. And let us know how you are doing.

    --dave fox














    Pls let us know how you are doing.
     
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    welcome and enjoy
     
  5. davethefox

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    I have to post again (I can be a real nuisance!:smile:)

    Your user name intrigues me.

    When I was in college a hundred years ago I had a fraternity brother who referred to his dick as his "lizard." He's say "I have to go drain my lizard."

    Funny thing is that it did resemble a lizard, without legs. He was uncut, probably 5 inches soft.

    Take care, man,

    --dave
     
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    Please read all the messages sent to you, there is help there, just reach out for it.
     
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    Welcome! Well, I sit on that same fence and have only recently realized to just have fun with it! And with whomever you want to! I guess its because I have a very open mind and have accepted who I am. Suicide is not a solution. Why rush the inevitable anyway. Enjoy your life and your sexuality. It is who you are!
     
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    Welcome
     
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    Hi, take your time to find out who you are (what you want). it took me 55 years to find out, so when it happens to you, it will be WELL worth it. don't rush into anything..
     
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    Please reach out. Please be you. Please grow into whoever it is you are going to become, because whomever it is, he will be wonderful.

    Welcome.
     
  11. lizard721

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    Ha, that's quite a story. I think it's a little weird when guys do that. I actually used to be afraid of reptiles when I was young. (Still am of most!) Just something that came easy to me to remember. :wink:
     
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    welcome to the site. you are among friends here.
     
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    Welcome and take care
     
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    You sound like a young fellow who's struggling quite a bit. You probably feel pressured to explain yourself to others. That's hard enough when you do know who you are, but when you're still figuring yourself out - man, that's hard. Nobody here is going to have all the answers for you, but most of us are eager and willing to listen, and to offer our honest advice.

    You can PM me anytime. I'm here a lot. I like to listen.

    Welcome to LPSG!
     
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