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Me and my gf have been together for 3 years now I have always struggled with my size and as a result of that sex has been difficult and my gf dose not want to talk about it I am feeling really down about this and keep blaming my self anyone can offer me advice and chat would be welcome
 

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Hi all

Me and my gf have been together for 3 years now I have always struggled with my size and as a result of that sex has been difficult and my gf dose not want to talk about it I am feeling really down about this and keep blaming my self anyone can offer me advice and chat would be welcome

You have a LOT of inconsistency in your posts. If your going to lie you got to keep your story straight including the details.
 

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I am only average size (just over 7") but what helped me was concentrate on lots of foreplay and take it slow. Once she is wet, try slowly with a single finger. If a women is very tight and not relaxed, how is she going to enjoy sex no matter with an average or large penis.
 

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Hi all ,

Me and my gf have been going out about 3 years and I have allways has probs with sex Due to my size but lately she dose not even want to discuss the subject as a result of that I feel really depressed and not my self any advice would be grat or a chat as someone here might have the same problem
 

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I love her and think we can get though this
Think I might have invest in foreplay techniques
 

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Well she needs to 'wan't to have sex with you. You've got 'great' size there too YUMMM. Have you tried different positions and such ? What is the problem 'exactly ? Is it that you are 'too long' ? If so changing position with her on top maybe to 'control' the depth or doggy style which also is 'easier' to take. One of those should 'help'. Anything else let me know and Yes I can take BIG ones so I know what I'm talking about......
 

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The key is communication. If she doesn't even want to discuss it, you are not going to be able to make any progress into solving the problem!

Remember, it takes two to have sex, and you are both supposed to contribute. She's not contributing if she won't even talk about it. Sounds like if you pester her she may lay herself down like a martyr, for the sake of her meal ticket or something. That is not love. It is even disrespecting herself.

There has to be some way to get you two communicating about this very important subject. If she loves you back, she'll find a way to make it work. Humans are very resourceful creatures. Together you could learn many ways to enjoy one another as you are. But you both need to be willing and creative. I hope she opens her mind.

Worst case scenario, she's just having fun blaming you for being other than she expected from the media, and you are not listening to cues she may have been giving you for Years until she is ready to just withhold and be bitter. In that case it may be time to let her go and realize she's not loving you back.