My wife and I have a beautiful life, are very much in love, and until the last two or three years an electric love life. We are both and find each other very attractive and when we were young before we had kids would have sex all the time. Athletic, vigorous, and spontaneous, but we never did any fantasy or role play. Honestly we were so hot for each other it really never came up. As we've gotten older I'm more open about what gets me real hot where she is never the one bringing up any spicy ideas but usually very, very happy to play along. She knows that big cocks in porn or fantasy play really turn me on, I'm 6'4 250lbs athletically built and have a nice 6in cock, she also knows that I used to be real insecure about it. Around two years ago we started using some larger dildos for my kink and some submissive me dominating her stuff for her kink. We've had really high highs and preformed on cam before and we've had the lowest of lows with raised voices and tears. I know physically she loves it and in the right mind can be real hot about her fantasies and what not. I'm 36 and and we usually don't fool around till after a late night of drinking selzers together and sometimes its hard for me to preform physically under those conditions but I still want the intimate time. Rally want help on how to get her to feel more comfortable using the larger toys more frequently as an erotic journey for us as a couple.