HiddenLacey
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I agree with the above up to a point, in that; yes, you should know how to have good relaxed sex with yourself. However, I'm sure that if I was making love with a woman and she seemed totally engrossed in her own game of sex and I was just being used as a dildo (to quote hsarg) I'd start wondering why she doesn't just use an effing dildo. It's like expecting a woman to enjoy being used as a 'cum dumpster' (delightful term gleaned from the seemier side of the internet) - a convenient hole to jack off into. Sorry, I know that 'being used' can be a turn-on, but I think the kind of sex you can have when you both want to become ONE in passion is where the best sexual highs lie: When you're fucking the person because of who they are; how much they mean to you; how much you want them to feel it...
Well that's not quite the way I meant it. I meant that she has to get herself there and she can't expect the guy to just get her there with his magic stick. She has to work for it. Yes for some it's effortless, but others have to make it happen. Seems to me that she's possibly one of those people.
Obviously when having sex with another human being you are supposed to take into account how they feel. "Supposed to" being the most important words that some people don't take into consideration.
I'm digressing from the subject. If she knows how to get herself off with a dildo or how to get herself off with a dildo and clitoral stimulation at the same time, she can use this with a partner to get herself there as well.
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