hello guys, i've been experiencing low sex drive, i really have a lot going on in my life that actually makes me feel indifferent about sex, i really want to pleasure my wife when she is turned up, i dont want to let her down but lately i struggle to get it hard, sometimes i get turned on by something she say or do and instantly get it hard but mins later i get it flacid again, it starts a chain reaction that makes me feel frustrated. it used to turn me on to touch her and feel her all wet but its not working anymore, eating her pussy wont work anymore! i dont know what to do.
i know i have to sort and work things out in order to be less stressed but i guess it woud worth to ask if any of you know how to increase libido that could actually help me get this one thing sorted out
I know I'm late to the party, but I think your question is important - for you and for the benefit of everyone who may look at it - because it's an issue that affects a hell of a lot of men of all ages. I experienced this in my early 30's and couldn't figure out why. Plus, I was simultaneously experiencing some mid-day fatigue (a symptom you haven't reported). When I went to the doctor, they checked my Testosterone Levels and they were tanked.. I was warned that if I started taking Testosterone injections, I'd be on them the rest of my life. Well, I was sick of feeling no sex drive and feeling tired - so I took the injections - and I did feel better.. And the best way for me to be motivated is to be told I have to do something - or can't do something.. So I quit the injections years ago - and I feel fine.. So that's one thought.. Have your t-levels checked.
Another thought is - and this is a rhetorical question..Are you depressed? Ya know, depression is very common.. and it's NOT something to be embarassed about. Folks who experience depression did NOTHING to earn it and it's NO different than cancer or AIDS in that it's a physical disease caused by chemicals in the body.. .. This nation has got to stop depression shaming folks.. It's especially hard on college age kids, who often choose not to get treated out of fear of stigma.. Anyhow, after I went on an SSRI (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor), my sex drive increased substantially.. another episode, but having to do with unknown and previously undiagnosed anxiety disorder and mild depression.. It took years to figure out an SSRI that worked for me, and I think that's pretty common.. I started out with Zoloft, Wellbutrin (of these drugs, it's known to have the least sexual side effects), Paxil (a nightmare), Cymbalta, then Pristiq (which I've been on for about 5 years or more).. It's been by far and away the best one. Seratonin and melatonin directly affect your happiness.. But low T levels directly affect your sex drive. As others have mentioned and I certainly endorse, there are all kinds of things you can do which will help you, which I couldn't say any better than
@vmo4 , but if your t-levels are down, or if you are depressed, NONE of those things can be helped without a doctor and perhaps therapeutic intervention. I hope this helps you and others.
