(help) i think im in love with my best friend

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So, im gay, 24yo and i have a best friend who is also gay and 29 yo. We are friends of over 7 years. He's super good looking 10/10 (like its not even fair to other people), and im at best a 6/10. Our friendship has been complicated for a while, we used to live together for almost 2 years, then i decided to have a jealousy breakdown on new years eve of 2016 to 2017 (at the time i just thought i was a possessive friend) which caused him to leave the house. We went 2 months without speaking, but eventually he forgave me and we were back to being best friends, only now he was living by himself and so was i. All this time i was never aware of my feelings for him, until july 7th of this year. We were at a night club, both really really drunk and for some fucked up reason i said to him while we were dancing: ''lets make out, just to put an end to this sexual tension that we have'' (keep in mind he NEVER expressed any desire for me) but he was SO drunk we kissed. I dont remember the kiss very well but i dont think he enjoyed it. After that we just pretended nothing happened. I was supposed to sleep at his house that night but i was so horny for him that i decided to go home driving and almost died when i drove off the rode (i know, im a piece of shit and and could have killed someone) so that night was done, we never talked about that ever again. Now 3 months later for the past 2 weeks i have been heaving the most sexual dreams about him, jerking of thinking a bout him, and having jealousy problems again. So basically i think im in love with him, but im not sure, maybe its just me wanting his body (ive seen nudes of him cuz one time he left his macbook unlocked playing music on the kitchen and went to the grocery store to get something for us to cook, and i didnt even look for anything they were literality on hes desktop under the spotify windown). But honestly i dont see how me telling him any of this would make anything better. I need help. please help what the fuck do i do
 
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Seems like it could be infatuation to me. I’d take a step back, try to get into a relationship and focus on somebody else. See if you can see yourself with somebody else. Also see if he reaches out when you become less available. If he doesn’t reciprocate your feeling, he might not be the person you’ve built him up to be in your head
 
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You can't be his friend anymore. Go find a female.

I have a very close gay male friend who I feel we would make a good relationship but I like him so much as a friend I don't want to progress it any further and I think he feels the same way so we don't have any problems with infatuation.
 

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From what you wrote, I take it that he'd never want to be in a relationship with you?

If that is the case, the healthiest thing for you is to find someone else to fuck your brains out. You are fixated because you have no better options. Once you have other options, you'll get over him. Life is too short to waste. Friends are more important than sexual partners so be grateful you have a friend like him.

The less emotionally healthy option is to be his "last drinks" fuck buddy. Anyone is fuckable given the right timing. If you take this option, you will most likely get more emotionally attached and devastated when he moves on in the future.
 

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I guess what concerns me the most is the "we were so drunk" thing. When you're not drunk he clearly seems to like you as a friend and that's it. You, on the other hand, are interested in him and want to take your relationship to the next level. If you tell him how you feel you risk losing a friend. As others have said, go look for someone else. Good friends (no matter how hot they are) are hard to find.
 

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You're not in love. You are afraid of it and that is clear in the actions and events. You are feeling desperation and fear of loss. What you need to do is talk to him about what is going on and how you both are going to deal with it in a mature way. It's clear you both have affection for each other and that the friendship gives you things you don't get otherwise.

Acknowledge the sex and wierdness for the desire it is. You both want to see that is further on. But more communication and care as well as planning is
needed.
 
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