HELP! i want oral!

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  1. sweetnsassy

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    so this question is for the ladies but guys feel free to jump in with advice as well. How to I get my boyfriend to give oral? im really curious about it but i don't know how to bring the subject up to my bf. i give him oral sex quite frequently and he loves it but has only offered to go down on me once and i was drunk at the time and had trouble getting off and since then he hasnt ever brought it up. he has mentioned to me that he has never really given oral because his only previous girlfriend wasnt interested. so i dont know if he doesnt want to give me oral cuze he doesnt like it or if he thinks i dont like it. i have hinted that i would like him to but have never really come out and said anything. so what should i do?
     
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    Stop hinting around and tell him. Turnabout is fair play.
     
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    i don`t like oral sex, i better choose anal :D
     
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    I agree with the other ladies, what you're wanting isn't some lesser known perversion, it's considered a part of everyone's normal sex life. Tell him what you want.
     
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    Definitely tell him what you want. It's only right, plus you'll probably find that he gets turned on by hearing you express your desires. You might try to give him some positive feedback on his technique as well (or make suggestions if necessary).
     
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    The guy will have a whole lot of things going on in his head - including a fear that he will be no good at it. So I wouldn't "demand" it. Play the male psychology.

    I would advise the following to allay any male fears/inhibitions.

    Make sure you are very clean - he may like your natural odour, but you don't know yet, so don't risk it.

    Get rid of pubic hair around your vulva - if guys don't know their way around down there - pubes are like booby-trapped camouflage.

    Choose your moment. If it was me, I would already be in bed naked making out - hopefully he kisses you - hold his head and move his kisses to your breasts - keep hold of his head and gently guide him down. I hope that you would be feeling really hot at this stage and make sure he gets these vibes from you - us guys can't resist a woman who is reacting to what we are doing. Throw in a "kiss me baby" and as he gets going overdo the appreciation noises when he gets things right for you. I'd even advise faking an orgasm if you need to and ask him to give you another one.

    If you let your man know that he can do something special for you, you will have converted him to your private muffjunkie. :wink:
     
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    I agree with all of this except for the faking orgasm part. When he's comfortable down there, you're guiding him, whispering to him what you want, you'll eventually get a real orgasm. Be vocal when expressing your pleasure the entire time he's exploring down below and be EXTREMELY vocal when he hits the right spots. He'll find your reactions erotic and it should give him impetus to continue until you do have an orgasm. :smile:
     
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    Ha - I only added the fake at the end and wasn't sure. You must keep his interest though - if we feel we are not good at something we tend to avoid it.

    Without giving away too many of the boys' secrets, I would also imagine that his hard on will be raging if he has succeeded in satisfying you. :biggrin1:
     
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    The next time you are giving him the blow job of his life and he is on his back, just get into a 69 position. If he is smart he will follow your lead.
     
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    You mentioned that his one previous girlfriend didn't like it, and then the time he did go down on you, you were unable to orgasm.

    Perhaps he is inexperienced, and his experiences he HAS had have been less than fruitful.

    I wouldn't demand it certainly, but I suggest that you guide him and show him how to get it done. Encouragement will get this ball rolling.

    ...OB
     
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    sounds like he might be worried that he isnt doing it right since his previous gf didnt like it and you didnt get off the first time. Dont ask straight out as even guys get intimidated, id say the easiest lead in to it (same for any sexual want) is to put on a porn and say "That looks soooo good".

    If he is your typical male he will already be turned on by watching it and will happily try and do it for you too.
     
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    I hate to inject the unthinkable, but I'm fairly certain that some guys just aren't that enthusiastic about it.

    If that's the case here, the usual conjectures (it must be misogyny, or selfishness, or he "can't really be all that straight", etc) may or may not be true, but are beside the point. Anything which isn't a turn-on is perilously close to a turn-off.

    Just a possibility.
     
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    Another avenue would to buy one of the many books on how to give oral. Read it first yourself to be sure that is what you want him to be doing then explore the book together. Once he starts trying let him know what feels good and what you really like. Hope this helps.
     
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    Big Fat Duh.
     
  18. Mr. Snakey

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    50/50 That's what its about. You do me and i do you. The sad fact is i know there are men out there who want a blow job and wont eat pussy. Then they are pissing and moaning when the woman left them for another man with a long tounge:cool: :tongue:
     
  19. No_Strings

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    Really?! Why wouldn't any man want to give oral, I find this hard to believe.
    It's not like this is something odd or extravagant, it's fundamental
     
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    i have to agree with No_strings. why wouldn't any man want to go down on a woman i love giving females oral, the only thing i can suggest is possibly food sex decorate yourself as an ice cream sundae and call him over might be a little cold though.........
     
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