It's not illegal so what's the problem.
Generally, on a biological level 16 years olds should be attractive, they are in their prime.
Its a recent notion that 18 is a mature age.
Romeo and juliet, by Shakespeare; he was about 16-20 she was 13.
....just say.
yea, cuz those two crazy kids really made it work
It's not illegal so what's the problem.
Generally, on a biological level 16 years olds should be attractive, they are in their prime.
Its a recent notion that 18 is a mature age.
Romeo and juliet, by Shakespeare; he was about 16-20 she was 13.
Why you straight men do it all the time, what's the differance?You really have to have us tell you to stay away from him for 24 months before you make a move on him sexually? What, you wanna go to jail for statutory rape of a minor? Or worse be branded a short eyed bastard?
And if this is really all about a hook-up rather than a long-term relationship, then the OP is a predator.
I'll start by admitting that I did not read this entire thread (just the first two pages) so it's probable that my point below has already been made, but just in case it wasn't said so explicitly, I'll do it now.
There is a world of difference between being physically able to have sex and having the emotional maturity required to be fully consensual to responsible sex. I'm certain that there are certain 16-year olds who have the level of maturity required to give informed consent to another 16-, 17- or 18-year old. But many, if not most, are not.
There is a world of difference and life experiences between a sophomore in high school and someone old enough to be a grad student. If someone who is 22 years old thinks that s/he can relate on an emotional and intellectual level with a 16-year old enough to consider engaging that person in a sexual relationship, then the 22-year old really hasn't matured him/herself to be able to trust his/her feelings in the matter.
They live in completely different universes of reality. A 16-year old is financially dependent upon a parent for everything, even if s/he has a job it wouldn't pay rent or feed him/her entirely on his/her own. A 16-year old's social life revolves around high school which may have similarities to real life but really not so much. Even the most aware, educated and engaging 16-year old is still a sheltered kid.
A 22-year old is (or at least should be) financial independent with a wide range of responsibilities that makes up his/her life; these responsibilities are incomprehensible to a 16-year old on an actual, real-life level. There's a huge difference between the rituals and obligations of a work-life and the social realities of high school, which is the only experience available to a 16-year old in contemporary American society.
A high schooler would undoubtedly be both enormously flattered and sexually attracted to a 22-year old, and though I never would, I can at least understand how a 22-year old would find a 16-year old endearing and sexually attractive, too. But that does not make such a relationship justifiable.
Examples from history or fiction (Romeo & Juliette: really?) or from other cultures do not apply here, because of the great social changes that have taken place in the US over the last 30-40 years, even more so over the last 15. Kids are kids: leave them alone.
And if this is really all about a hook-up rather than a long-term relationship, then the OP is a predator.
I wasn't saying it was ok, and I understand the complexities of the subject. Im just stating the fact that 16yrs is legal, 18yrs is a recent notion that that is mature.
The age of consent for gay men was reduced to 16 a while ago in the UK Bbuck, to be inline with hets. It was a cause celebre for equal rights. Would that make a difference to your opinion?
To be open, I have always had a problem with the thought that men my age are allowed to fuck 16 year olds.
7"24;2882323 said:Figured I'd follow up with you guys he is 17 now, we have done nothing together so please ease off me I was simpy asking If my thoughts were ok I feel like I was molested at a young age I love women but jerk to gay porn and always seem
Like younger guys, but feel ashamed of these thoughts, I never have attractions to prepubescent boys so don't even go there, The difference is I would never act on it because i know it's wrong please don't get get the wrong idea about me just wanted a little advice.
That is the second time you said this. And you're still wrong. It isn't right when adults meddle too much in the sexual development of children. They are meant t be protected and guided, and any practical experimentation should be done with their peers, not grown-ass men and women. If the OP's love interest had been a young lady, we'd probably have been even more harsh with him, by my estimation. In my eyes it's all the same. He's wrong, he knows he's wrong, and your two-wrongs-make-it-right mentality is just gross.Why you straight men do it all the time, what's the differance?
Yeah.
Like big brother/kid brother.
Father/son.
Pastor/altar boy.
Oh, I've gone too far. :biggrin1:
7"24;2716087 said:... Anyways I really like this kid and he fliers with me a little sometimes lol but don't know why I am Always attracted to younger 16-19 y/o guys .
7"24;2882323 said:Figured I'd follow up with you guys he is 17 now, we have done nothing together .[/QUOTE,]
Well, we now know the argument is theoretical, but there has been many interesting and often very strong opinions expressed. I suppose our opinions are formed by our own experiences.
It's amazing how prudish this world has become lately...
The one thing nobody has asked is how the 16 year old young man feels about all this. To be honest a 6 year age difference isn't that much, if they were 26 and 32 nobody would think twice about it.
If the 16 year old wants a relationship with a 22 year old I see nothing wrong with it, as long as it's kept within what's legal for that juristiction. Now if the 22 year old is actively persuing a 16 year old that doesn't want a reltionship, then that is messed up. In a word the 16 year old's opinion and veiws are the only ones that matter.
I think this post probably comes closest to my own feelings on this thread.
I'd like to know what others think about a 22 year old and 16 year old dating. That is going to the movies, meeting at a coffee shop, going to the beach, kissing cuddling and making out on the lounge. Sharing common interests like sports, fishing, camping. Is it OK to fondle each other so long as there is no penetration?
I know he is wrong, and that is not what i am saying at all, i think he too knows he's wrong, but then again you can't control who you have feelings for, all i am saing is that MOST hetero males, at least the ones i know, and have known over the years, like the fact of chasing "young meat", however, society, as a whole, often turns the other cheek when a hetero male goes after a younger girl, say for instance, a teen, under 18, both are VERY WRONG...That is the second time you said this. And you're still wrong. It isn't right when adults meddle too much in the sexual development of children. They are meant t be protected and guided, and any practical experimentation should be done with their peers, not grown-ass men and women. If the OP's love interest had been a young lady, we'd probably have been even more harsh with him, by my estimation. In my eyes it's all the same. He's wrong, he knows he's wrong, and your two-wrongs-make-it-right mentality is just gross.