I know this is long but I'm giving you the back story. My wife and I have been in a relationship since I was 18 (I am now 25) and she was 21 (now 28) & we got married five years ago. I was young and just out of high school and just starting my real estate business. When we decided to buy a house we moved to a exclusive area off Newport Coast. She was working in an upscale salon and I was doing really well in the real estate market. This it where it begins... Once my business took off she quit the salon and I helped her open her own and it quickly became very successful. Meanwhile I felt that I was maxed out in the Orange County real estate market decided to venture in to the upscale neighborhoods of Los Angeles. After about a year of driving back & forth I decided it would be best if we moved to LA & and she agreed that she would also like to open a salon in that area as well. We purchased our current home and I opened another of my offices in Beverly Hills. I then helped her get established in opening a new salon and it was doing very well. My office in LA was doing much better than the one in Orange county and many of my clients urged me to open a office in NY since they either were looking to purchase or sell. I agreed & did what I had to do to start an office in NY and when I left to NY and came back things started to change... Now that we live in Los Angeles I think my wife feels the constant pressure to "Keep up the Joneses". When we lived back in Orange County it wasn't really like that with us. She first wanted a new car, not just any car but one that made heads turn. I bought her a white convertable. Next she wanted a bigger diamond ring. I quadrupled the size of her previous one. Then she started shopping at all the high-end designers. To me it was all materialistic so it didn't matter, but now she's talking about getting botox & breast implants & liposuction and all this other plastic surgery stuff that I don't agree with. I fell in lover with her the way she was and I don't want her to change. I feel like moving to LA I created a "monster" & I feel extremely guily that I turned her into it. I've tried to tell her how I feel and we end up arguing and fighting about it. She tells me that it's her body and she can do whatever she wants. She always says "this person's husband was all for it and this person's husband was all for that ect ect.." Can anyone please give me maybe a different approach on how I can handle this "monster" that my wife has turned into?