Help Ladies, how did you make it work with the guy who was "too big"?

[D_Neeson Niceone]

So being endowed I'm used to inflicting a little pain during sex, but not like this. A girl I've been dating and I had sex for the first time and found that my size is a serious obstacle for us. Despite lots of foreplay, going slow, and silicon-based lubricant, my girth is causing her a lot of discomfort. I've experienced girls having to get used to me before, but I think she'll find it especially challenging. I noticed that as she feels discomfort, she'll instinctively contract on me which only increases the pain. The result becomes a kind-of pain loop she can't get out of. Besides the usual advice of taking things slow, lots of lube, etc, do any of you have advice for how you dated someone uncomfortably big and made it work? I can't stand seeing her like that .




Threads I found of a similar nature (but sadly most of them say the same thing: lube and foreplay):
http://www.lpsg.org/184307-reducing-pain-during-sex.html
http://www.lpsg.org/184192-how-to-soothe-the-deep.html
http://www.lpsg.org/174050-so-big-it-causes-pain.html
http://www.lpsg.org/68594-pain-for-my-partner-relationship.html

 

[HazelGod]

Red wine.

 

[D_Neeson Niceone]

Red wine.

Tried. Next time I'll use more :tongue:.

 

[Hardballin]

lube .. i will never forget a girl "no matter the size, if ur wet enough u can take anything, thats what a pussy is meant for" lol

 

[Jillang]

It sounds like your doing the right things. She is obviously tensing up and making it worse. It takes time in my opinion to get comfortable and really relax anyway. Believe me when I say that you need to assure her that you really care about her and that you will work it out. If not she will keep pressuring herself and make it worse. Plus I would suggest her being on top to control everything. It can be intimidating...lol. Seriously I'm sure she is nervous too. This might sound obvious but maybe she has had this problem before? Maybe she has a solution. Hope this helps.

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

alas, never had that problem (sigh) would love to try one on tho!

 

[RawDog]

Make her want it (your cock) more than you want it (her pussy). Her fear is compounding the tightness, i.e. vaginismus.

Pot also helps.

 

[B_big_dick18]

girls always have a hard time taking it all the way

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Try incorporating a dildo or vibrator which is a little smaller then yourself as part of foreplay. This way it will be less of a 'shock' to her vaginal muscles when you do enter her because she will already be partially stretched to accommodate your size.

 

[Pendlum]

What you need to do is build a device to compress the space time continuum on your penis, thus shrinking it. This will also have the added benefit of making it seem like you are pumping faster for her, but time will flow normally for you.

 

[DasLeezard]

What you need to do is build a device to compress the space time continuum on your penis, thus shrinking it. This will also have the added benefit of making it seem like you are pumping faster for her, but time will flow normally for you.

Will you be my future ex husband?

 

[petite]

I hate to do this to you, but I've already answered this question many times. My answers have been thorough, explicit, detailed, and took a long time to write. I really don't feel like repeating myself again. Perhaps you should employ the search feature? I believe there was a similar thread just a week or two ago called something like "causing her pain" or something, right here in the women's forum.

lube .. i will never forget a girl "no matter the size, if ur wet enough u can take anything, thats what a pussy is meant for" lol

This isn't true. If you don't know what you're talking about, please don't go around offering advice.

Wetness doesn't solve the problem of a true size discrepancies. Sometimes there is NO solution. Sometimes one or both people's genitals just aren't the right size for a good fit.

 

[Incocknito]

Work up to the penis. I don't know how old or experienced your lady friend is but sometimes you have to start slow. Which is something like:

Days 1-2: One finger fingerbanging
Days 3-4: Two finger fingerbanging
Days 4-5: Try three finger fingerbanging but be prepared for failure
Days 6-7: Try a dildo of a size slightly smaller than your penis (girthwise)

Then after that (you might to spend more or less time on certain 'exercises') you can try putting your penis in.

And then you may even have to but just a bit in (<4") and hold it for as long as possible, then another 2" or so etc til it is all in. Again you might have to work at this over a few days or even weeks.

Eventually she will "take it (bitch)"

There is also an old saying:

Absence makes the vaginal canal grow longer

If you can stay away from her or if she goes on 'vacation' and you can keep her attracted/horny then when she gets home she will be mad for it. At which point you may be surprised when she rips your clothes off and shoves your cock inside her.

But that's a hypothetical. The first part of the post is the practicable part.