Help me figure out if my best friend is gay or not

[Toadst00l]

It was like he had to have a gay male craving him, but keep him 8 inches away, while he fucked girls.

I’ve known a lot of guys that are like this. It always seems to be the alpha types, military guys especially.

 

[deleted10053]

"he had told me that while we were laying there and I asked him to fuck me, (which is odd because sober me has no interest in him doing that and I am really kind of grossed out by the thought of him fucking me). and then i apparently tried to reach into his shorts to jack him off. And after being denied both I conceded and went to sleep. I still don’t remember that night."

After reading how extremely sexually flirtatious this man has been with you, my instinct is that this never happened. He TOLD you that while you were blacked out you discussed having sex with him, so the topic of the two of you having sex is now "out there."

 

[deleted10053]

RAN OUT OF EDITING TIME:
He showed you his cock almost on your first meeting, repeatedly asked you to masturbate with him and to give him handjobs (which you did), and stroked your body while watching you use a sex toy, also his idea. He is much more bi than straight and is very clearly announcing that he wants his sex life with you (and he does have a sex life with you) to go further. The mind games sound like his way of maintaining plausible deniability, like trying to convince you it is actually YOUR idea to advance.

 

[WTATennis2023]

If he's sending you dick pics like that with those emojis I think it's clear he wants you

 

[GtB70]

If he's sending you dick pics like that with those emojis I think it's clear he wants you

Well they weren’t originally sent to me they were for his gf. He just sent those to me later

 

[GtB70]

I made a poll if you guys would like to vote so I could see exactly where y’all’s consensus lies on what my course of action should be I’d appreciate it


Thread 'What should I do regarding my “straight” best friend?'
What should I do regarding my “straight” best friend?

 

[Screamaloud]

How would your friend feel if he knew that you were posting pics and vids of him here, exposing who he is, exposing what you both do together, and questioning his sexuality??

This has more potential to destroy your friendship than anything else.

 

[GtB70]

How would your friend feel if he knew that you were posting pics and vids of him here, exposing who he is, exposing what you both do together, and questioning his sexuality??

This has more potential to destroy your friendship than anything else.

I doubt he spends his time browsing this site lol I don’t see how he could find out

 

[WTATennis2023]

any of you guys doing stuff together? or more of his ass?

 

[rihrihroman]

I doubt he spends his time browsing this site lol I don’t see how he could find out

Dude come on, regardless of if he'll find out or not, exposing him like that is a pretty gross thing to do. I don't know him but I'm sure this is a friendship ending offence.

As hot as the content is, it feels a little icky now that I know it's non consensual

I don't really see how you could claim to be developing feelings for someone and then turn around and subject them to what is effectively revenge porn.

 

[adnerfascius]

Dude come on, regardless of if he'll find out or not, exposing him like that is a pretty gross thing to do. I don't know him but I'm sure this is a friendship ending offence.

As hot as the content is, it feels a little icky now that I know it's non consensual

I don't really see how you could claim to be developing feelings for someone and then turn around and subject them to what is effectively revenge porn.

revenge porn is a reach. but LPSG is an extremely extremely old and large forum with many users. revealing this kind of information about someone who identifies as straight/without their knowledge is wrong and could lead to many problems for his friend down the line in life. the internet is a crazy place- you never know where the content from LPSG might end up.. it's like a chef boyardee commercial

 

[adnerfascius]

i would say this man had interest in you (which could be for any number of reasons) but as others have previously mentioned bringing it up is a difficult path to take as compared to allowing things to happen naturally/in the moment. you really have to let them come to you. there have been men who i was good friends with that i offered head which they refused for like 3 years just to text me a random morning at 4 AM and pick me up lol. timing is crucial/patience in my opinion. if you feel sexual tension- expand on that. just pay attention to the vibes.

in terms of him being straight, bi, whatever. don't concern yourself with that. you don't need to.

also all you old heads in this thread are so damn extra talking about stop drinking alcohol go to therapy ?!? why was that necessary lol

 

[adnerfascius]

Mate... I can feel how anguished you are about this man, and how his mixed signals are driving you crazy. I do feel for you. Many, many gay or bi guys have been in a situation where they've crushed hard on a dude, sometimes a dude who has given all sorts of signals. Or we think he's given signals. To be brutally honest it just sounds like he's a straight guy who knows you and trusts you enough to be completely open about sexual stuff that he might not share with anyone else.

You're in the military, they must have a counsellor or EAP, I'd suggest using them, that's what they're paid for! You are in no danger of anything untoward happening to your career, unless you confess a crime. They are there to help you, man. You're in pain. I wish I could give you a big hug, I really do. Please, please go talk to a counsellor. The first step in the hardest.

Just know there are men who have felt like this before you, and we all got through it. You will too

pretty sure he just wants to get sexual with him... not marry him. please read the room

 

[Jenkinssteve69]

There was this one guy.. I remember it so well.. he had made comments about his dick was average sized and it loves a lot of attention. He would talk about how he’d be screwing a woman and he do her in both holes.. pussy and ass..

We had watched straight porn.. I had gay porn.. but he said he was straight and was ok with me being gay..but over time he would go from jerking off to where I can’t see his dick or see him cumming..

One night I didn’t see his dick but when he came. He shot straight upwards and I saw it and I was like damn.. but I didn’t say a word to him that I saw that as I was afraid he’d get pissed at me for seeing it ..

Then one night few weeks later.. we were watching a porn .. and he stripped completely naked .. saw his ass for a few minutes but he made sure I didn’t see his penis at the time.. I wonder if he doesn’t realize that as a gay man I enjoy seeing that bare ass as much as I would love seeing his dick..

This was the time he kind of started being a jerk and a tease .. he’d cover his cock and raise his legs and ask me if his asshole was too hairy or just right .. I didn’t even look to much all I said looked at it few seconds was it looked perfect to me..


this also became the first time he lets me see his erection.. asked me if it was ok for being average.. I told him I never consider a person average or big.. I consider him perfect no matter what size is..

He said he wished his girlfriend felt same way and turned back to the porn and Stroked his dick.. he tells me I should be naked since he was .. and I was surprised when he was looking at me as I stripped and saw my cock.. his eyes opened wide and stared for a few seconds and then went back to watching the porn..

As he was stroking his dick he mentions to me wh I never told him I was above average.. I told him he didn’t ask..he wanted to see it fully erect and I said the same about him.. .. so he stands up stepped about 6 inches from me .. showing me his erection very up close..

I removed my hands showing him mine..he reached a hand down ran a finger along my shaft to the head and down toward my balls.. he says I was the first guy to ever let him get this close to their dick..

I told him I wasn’t stopping him .. that he can touch it all he wanted to.he removed his hand said he better not.. it was then I told him for last few months he has gone from keeping me from seeing his dick and from seeing mine.. and I have seen him ejaculate couple times..

 

[GtB70]

There was this one guy.. I remember it so well.. he had made comments about his dick was average sized and it loves a lot of attention. He would talk about how he’d be screwing a woman and he do her in both holes.. pussy and ass..

We had watched straight porn.. I had gay porn.. but he said he was straight and was ok with me being gay..but over time he would go from jerking off to where I can’t see his dick or see him cumming..

One night I didn’t see his dick but when he came. He shot straight upwards and I saw it and I was like damn.. but I didn’t say a word to him that I saw that as I was afraid he’d get pissed at me for seeing it ..

Then one night few weeks later.. we were watching a porn .. and he stripped completely naked .. saw his ass for a few minutes but he made sure I didn’t see his penis at the time.. I wonder if he doesn’t realize that as a gay man I enjoy seeing that bare ass as much as I would love seeing his dick..

This was the time he kind of started being a jerk and a tease .. he’d cover his cock and raise his legs and ask me if his asshole was too hairy or just right .. I didn’t even look to much all I said looked at it few seconds was it looked perfect to me..


this also became the first time he lets me see his erection.. asked me if it was ok for being average.. I told him I never consider a person average or big.. I consider him perfect no matter what size is..

He said he wished his girlfriend felt same way and turned back to the porn and Stroked his dick.. he tells me I should be naked since he was .. and I was surprised when he was looking at me as I stripped and saw my cock.. his eyes opened wide and stared for a few seconds and then went back to watching the porn..

As he was stroking his dick he mentions to me wh I never told him I was above average.. I told him he didn’t ask..he wanted to see it fully erect and I said the same about him.. .. so he stands up stepped about 6 inches from me .. showing me his erection very up close..

I removed my hands showing him mine..he reached a hand down ran a finger along my shaft to the head and down toward my balls.. he says I was the first guy to ever let him get this close to their dick..

I told him I wasn’t stopping him .. that he can touch it all he wanted to.he removed his hand said he better not.. it was then I told him for last few months he has gone from keeping me from seeing his dick and from seeing mine.. and I have seen him ejaculate couple times..

How did y’all go about starting watching porn and jerking off together? Did you suggest it or did he?

 

[Jenkinssteve69]

There was this one guy.. I remember it so well.. he had made comments about his dick was average sized and it loves a lot of attention. He would talk about how he’d be screwing a woman and he do her in both holes.. pussy and ass..

We had watched straight porn.. I had gay porn.. but he said he was straight and was ok with me being gay..but over time he would go from jerking off to where I can’t see his dick or see him cumming..

One night I didn’t see his dick but when he came. He shot straight upwards and I saw it and I was like damn.. but I didn’t say a word to him that I saw that as I was afraid he’d get pissed at me for seeing it ..

Then one night few weeks later.. we were watching a porn .. and he stripped completely naked .. saw his ass for a few minutes but he made sure I didn’t see his penis at the time.. I wonder if he doesn’t realize that as a gay man I enjoy seeing that bare ass as much as I would love seeing his dick..

This was the time he kind of started being a jerk and a tease .. he’d cover his cock and raise his legs and ask me if his asshole was too hairy or just right .. I didn’t even look to much all I said looked at it few seconds was it looked perfect to me..


this also became the first time he lets me see his erection.. asked me if it was ok for being average.. I told him I never consider a person average or big.. I consider him perfect no matter what size is..

He said he wished his girlfriend felt same way and turned back to the porn and Stroked his dick.. he tells me I should be naked since he was .. and I was surprised when he was looking at me as I stripped and saw my cock.. his eyes opened wide and stared for a few seconds and then went back to watching the porn..

As he was stroking his dick he mentions to me wh I never told him I was above average.. I told him he didn’t ask..he wanted to see it fully erect and I said the same about him.. .. so he stands up stepped about 6 inches from me .. showing me his erection very up close..

I removed my hands showing him mine..he reached a hand down ran a finger along my shaft to the head and down toward my balls.. he says I was the first guy to ever let him get this close to their dick..

I told him I wasn’t stopping him .. that he can touch it all he wanted to.he removed his hand said he better not.. it was then I told him for last few months he has gone from keeping me from seeing his dick and from seeing mine.. and I have seen him ejaculate couple times..

Continued…

He standing there staring at my dick.. I didn’t know what was going through his mind.. but— it had to be something that was turning him on.. as he stood six inches from me .. dick hard .. the precum began oozing out of his dick .. so I figured he was standing there erect for a reason..so I put that reason to the test.. as I took it in my mouth began sucking it .. I looked up at his eyes to see his reaction.. .

He didn’t punch or or anything.. he just backs up sits down in his recliner he usually sits in.. but then he tells me to come over and finish what started .. so I got on my knees. And sucked his cock n balls…. I rubbed my nose in his sack and ran my tongue as fas as I can reach toward his hole and back to his balls..

He surprises me again .. spreading his legs a little and raised his legs and exposed his hole to me so I rimmed and fingered that hole for a long time as he never said stop at any time.. I went back to his cock.. moved up on my knees more and fingered his hole as I sucked him off and swallowed his cock as he began to cum.. and his dick was throbbing hard and shooting ..


Then he had me sit down and lean back.. mostly what he did was sucked the head of my dick some and jerked me off.. he commented several times .. not that he wished his penis was this big but was as hard as mine was .. then I told him I was about to cum .. he pointed it upwards a little away from him and I. Came up onto me stomach and chest ..


we cleaned up and got dressed ..

then when he left this would be the last time I’d see him for a good six months..I tried calling him and everything .. even went to his place ..

last time I called him I left a message if we can talk it out .. so he shows up at my place and we talked.. he said he got upset that I sucked on his dixk with out him saying it was ok… Then he lets me finish and said he loved it.. but didn’t come back over afraid it would happen again —-

I told him it won’t ..I won’t touch his penis again until he said I can.. so for several weeks we did the normal jerking off and then he tells me one night if we did this that more was going to happen and no one else can find out…

I said no problem … but I thought for a while there that I had lost a friend because I let my dixk do my thinking for me


The this about goofing off and goi g somewhat gay things doesn’t make him gay.. guys goof off and have fun Hoping nothing will come of it..

pot and drugs do tend to release certain things about a guys urges .. you just have to decide if want to cross that line and hope things are good afterward

 

[Jenkinssteve69]

How did we start? To be honest it was him visiting one day .. said he was horny .. asked if had any straight porn so can jerk off.. I said sure..

But he didn’t want to see my dick he didn’t want me to see his.. we just jerk off kind of together.. but separately .. so we did that for a while

 

[GtB70]

How would your friend feel if he knew that you were posting pics and vids of him here, exposing who he is, exposing what you both do together, and questioning his sexuality??

This has more potential to destroy your friendship than anything else.

Dude come on, regardless of if he'll find out or not, exposing him like that is a pretty gross thing to do. I don't know him but I'm sure this is a friendship ending offence.

As hot as the content is, it feels a little icky now that I know it's non consensual

I don't really see how you could claim to be developing feelings for someone and then turn around and subject them to what is effectively revenge po

Dude come on, regardless of if he'll find out or not, exposing him like that is a pretty gross thing to do. I don't know him but I'm sure this is a friendship ending offence.

As hot as the content is, it feels a little icky now that I know it's non consensual

I don't really see how you could claim to be developing feelings for someone and then turn around and subject them to what is effectively revenge porn.

I thought about it and while I’d say my intentions definitely weren’t to post “revenge porn” or try and expose him in any way you were right in me showing his face and stuff without his consent wasn’t right. I’m pretty sure I have managed to get all my posts of him removed. I really just wanted to show everyone the type of things we’ve done to give insight on my situation.

As always I appreciate y’all’s thoughts and feedback

 

[Screamaloud]

Dude come on, regardless of if he'll find out or not, exposing him like that is a pretty gross thing to do. I don't know him but I'm sure this is a friendship ending offence.


I thought about it and while I’d say my intentions definitely weren’t to post “revenge porn” or try and expose him in any way you were right in me showing his face and stuff without his consent wasn’t right. I’m pretty sure I have managed to get all my posts of him removed. I really just wanted to show everyone the type of things we’ve done to give insight on my situation.

As always I appreciate y’all’s thoughts and feedback

Well done. You’ve done the right thing and you’re a better man for doing it.

The stories of your escapades together are still worthy of publication, just without the revealing pics or videos.

 

[Slam91]

I’m M(23) still trying to figure out my sexuality. and my best friend is m(22) and claims to be 100% straight

This will probably be a pretty long backstory so take a seat lol.

We’re both in the military and became really good friends over deployment. We are very open and comfortable with each other and Do and talk about pretty much anything. He’s a very outspoken guy and doesn’t shy away from giving out tmi at times. I remember one of the first conversations we had together was him talking about how big of a dick he has and proceeded to show me a picture. We were always bored and frankly, horny on deployment cuz of obvious lack of women lol. And we would often talk about sex or jacking off. Often times he would bet me to get hard and walk around with a boner in public or make me jack off and cum in my hand on video and send it to him. Now I really don’t know if it was just him having fun or being extra horny but he even made me touch his dick and jack him off for a couple minutes when I lost a bet. We have taken shrooms together a couple times and both times he’s asked if I’d jerk him off because he was really horny but I said no as I was kind of uncomfortable and mostly didn’t want it to change or ruin our friendship. But over time I’ve come to realize I might have feelings a bit more than friendship for him. He recently broke up with his fiancé and is currently dating a new girl he talks about wanting to marry. There’s a lot more examples of things that make me question his sexuality but I wanted to see if anyone had any input on if you think he’s just a straight dude who likes to show off or maybe something more. Any feedback is appreciated

He's a little more fluid than he gives himself credit. But if you passed on the chance when he was actually offering to fool around because you didn't jeopardize the relationship, why do it now when he's with a girl that he's talking about marrying? I think your relationship could have survived some drunken fondling and a little grab-ass when you guys were in the military but not so much right now. You cannot force someone out of the closet. And please heed my advice, do not fall in love with a straight guy (or even one who identifies as 100% str8), it will lead to inevitable heartache and few friendships can survive that.