Help Me, I Think I'm Becoming A Compulsive Masturbator

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Hello,

Here I have a problem, I have the impression of becoming a pervert and an obsessive and that scares me. I want to clarify that everything is true

Already I would like to point out that I am 31 years old, I am gay, shy and still a virgin. As a result, I masturbate a lot and watch a lot of porn (hence my presence on this site). The problem is that over time, when I masturbate, I am no longer myself. When I masturbate I am neither sexy nor handsome and I am borderline pathetic.

Already, when I masturbate, I spend too much time there, between 2 or 3 or 4 hours. In addition, I got into the habit of ritualizing the act. I have special outfits (old t-shirt, socks and slippers). I always sit at my desk, I am in my world and I completely shut myself off from the rest of the world. So far nothing very extraordinary.

But the more I masturbate, the weirder I am. In everyday life, I am shy, introverted and kind. But when I masturbate, I'm obsessed, it's like I'm not myself anymore. It's like my penis has taken control. And what makes me most ashamed is that after a while I start drooling so much that I am not myself.

Usually I regain consciousness only when I have my orgasm at the end. And there I am ashamed. When I see myself full of lube and cum in the crotch and on the floor, my t-shirt drenched in drool and the smell of sweat and cum after several hours of masturbation, I start to cry. I'm very ashamed.


I would like to be normal and have normal sex with a nice guy, but I feel like my sexuality is destroyed and I am afraid to remain a pervert all my life. I'm really ashamed of what I'm telling you, but I don't know what to think. Please help me, can you give me your opinion and help me. Thanks

Sorry for my poor english, I'm french.
 
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Your English is pretty much perfect.

First of all, there is nothing wrong with you enjoying your magnificent penis in whatever way gives you pleasure. Have you compared your dick to an average one? Your's is great! You also have a nice slim body. Speaking for myself, I would probably be turned on if I saw you masturbating -theres nothing to be ashamed of in something that brings you pleasure and doesn't hurt anyone, in any case.

Seek out a sex therapist. No one on the internet is likely to give you good advice.
 

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Therapy helps you understand yourself - it was helpful for me. Its not about judgement - something I hear in your message. Masturbation can be about self-pleasure, avoidance or a thousand other things. Therapy an help you sort out the role of masturbation in your life. You deserve connection with others, be open to it, sometimes an opportunity is right in front of you. The challenge is to become aware. Best to you in your journey.
 
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There is nothing wrong with stroking your dick. It's good to pleasure yourself and clean out the pipes. But if it leaves you crying and upset , or if it has a negative impact on your life, speak to someone.

When I was younger I was very hypersexual, I engaged in a lot of promiscuity and risky unprotected sexual activity with girls that I hardly knew, and I would stroke my cock any chance that I got. After I went to therapy I got to the core of my sexual addiction and I am nowhere near as bad as I was years ago.

Good luck, and based on what another poster said above it sounds like you've been blessed with having big meat, who can blame you if you want to stroke it? I can't keep my hands off mine either lol
 
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Nothing wrong with you at all. Celebrate your sexual self. Guilt not needed. Plus, there is a pandemic going on. What else is there to do.
 
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There is nothing wrong with masturbating. And sometimes I can get caught up in it. But no, not to the degree where you check out and you drool on yourself. That might be something to talk to someone about. But since you're a virgin...how about trying to hook up with some guy and see how you are in that situation? 31yo isn't that old. You have a great body and a great looking big cock. See what happens with that.
 

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30 Years Old, Still A Virgin And "chronic Masturbator" ?

^^You told lpsg more about yourself in this thread that you posted June 29, 2020.

Did you heed my advice and do any of the things I suggested in my reply then?

30 Years Old, Still A Virgin And "chronic Masturbator" ?

Quote dreamer20 July 1, 2020:

"You want someone to love, but you have a very negative image of yourself frenshy52. Stop putting yourself down. Don't be ashamed of being a virgin, having sexual fantasties and masturbating. Don't label yourself a "pervert" - those latter things are simply normal parts of one's sex life. Overcome your fears and take the plunge. Your body is attractive and you possess the additional admirable traits of being kind, sociable and funny. Exercising at the gym would serve as a healthy alternative to excessive porn watching and you could befriend others there too. As you are sociable it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try in order to find the relationship you desire. When you do find a love interest let him know about your lack of experience with sex. You can learn from his experience and make sure to communicate with each other before and during sex."

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30 Years Old, Still A Virgin And "chronic Masturbator" ?

^^You told lpsg more about yourself in this thread that you posted June 29, 2020.

Did you heed my advice and do any of the things I suggested in my reply then?

30 Years Old, Still A Virgin And "chronic Masturbator" ?

Quote dreamer20 July 1, 2020:

"You want someone to love, but you have a very negative image of yourself frenshy52. Stop putting yourself down. Don't be ashamed of being a virgin, having sexual fantasties and masturbating. Don't label yourself a "pervert" - those latter things are simply normal parts of one's sex life. Overcome your fears and take the plunge. Your body is attractive and you possess the additional admirable traits of being kind, sociable and funny. Exercising at the gym would serve as a healthy alternative to excessive porn watching and you could befriend others there too. As you are sociable it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try in order to find the relationship you desire. When you do find a love interest let him know about your lack of experience with sex. You can learn from his experience and make sure to communicate with each other before and during sex."

Dating site links:
The 5 Best Dating Sites in France (What I Learned) | Visa Hunter

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Hi everyone, already I thank all those who answered me.

First, I want to clarify that I am not ashamed to masturbate, I know it is something natural. I agree with you on that. But the way I do it seems so abnormal to me. I've never heard of guys who masturbate for hours in a row, drool over themselves and masturbate so hard that their penis hurts. Therefore, I wonder.

Regarding my virginity, I will explain. The four things that got me stuck are:
- my shyness
- my complexes
- fear of catching diseases
- and until a year ago, my homosexuality was not assumed.

I came out in 2019, and since then I have assumed my homosexuality now. At the start of 2020, I thought it would be a great year and I could find a nice guy. But the coronavirus has arrived. I don't know how the epidemic is handled in the United States, but in France we have had two lockouts, curfews and some restrictions (well, the subject is not COVID-19 so will pass). Suddenly, the year I thought I would lose my virginity became a lonely year. It's like the universe doesn't want my penis to be used by someone else.

Thank you again for your answers and do not hesitate to continue to give your opinion.
 

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Hi everyone, already I thank all those who answered me.

First, I want to clarify that I am not ashamed to masturbate, I know it is something natural. I agree with you on that. But the way I do it seems so abnormal to me. I've never heard of guys who masturbate for hours in a row, drool over themselves and masturbate so hard that their penis hurts. Therefore, I wonder.

Regarding my virginity, I will explain. The four things that got me stuck are:
- my shyness
- my complexes
- fear of catching diseases
- and until a year ago, my homosexuality was not assumed.

I came out in 2019, and since then I have assumed my homosexuality now. At the start of 2020, I thought it would be a great year and I could find a nice guy. But the coronavirus has arrived. I don't know how the epidemic is handled in the United States, but in France we have had two lockouts, curfews and some restrictions (well, the subject is not COVID-19 so will pass). Suddenly, the year I thought I would lose my virginity became a lonely year. It's like the universe doesn't want my penis to be used by someone else.

Thank you again for your answers and do not hesitate to continue to give your opinion.
Hey so masturbating for hours until drooling... I've heard that as "Gooning". It isn't something that's mainstream but not really something of concern. I also like to masturbate for hours, edging. I never get into a trance like state and drool but nothing wrong with it if you are still being productive and getting things done.

I also had many problems accepting my homosexuality. I had been a virgin until 29. Along with being morbidly obese I was positive I would never find anyone to like me. But I did, there's always someone out there for you. You will find them. Believe me, there's nothing wrong with how you look. But if you keep calling yourself "virgin nerd/geek" or whatever, that energy will come of as negative, seep into your subconscious and repulse potential partners.

This year has been rough one just about EVERYONE. Also, try not to put so much focus on losing your virginity. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. There are many more out there than you think. Unfortunately, MANY young guys lie out of shame and makes others feel even more alone and "weird" for being a virgin.

Trust me man, you got this and you will be okay. If you truly feel your masturbation habits are getting a bit out of control, you admitting it is the first step and seeking therapy is another step that can be taken if necessary. But I think all the down time from the lockdowns and such has caused everyone to be a bit more... intimate with themselves, out of boredom/frustration/convenience/whatever. And there's nothing wrong with that.
 
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Hello,

Here I have a problem, I have the impression of becoming a pervert and an obsessive and that scares me. I want to clarify that everything is true

Already I would like to point out that I am 31 years old, I am gay, shy and still a virgin. As a result, I masturbate a lot and watch a lot of porn (hence my presence on this site). The problem is that over time, when I masturbate, I am no longer myself. When I masturbate I am neither sexy nor handsome and I am borderline pathetic.

Already, when I masturbate, I spend too much time there, between 2 or 3 or 4 hours. In addition, I got into the habit of ritualizing the act. I have special outfits (old t-shirt, socks and slippers). I always sit at my desk, I am in my world and I completely shut myself off from the rest of the world. So far nothing very extraordinary.

But the more I masturbate, the weirder I am. In everyday life, I am shy, introverted and kind. But when I masturbate, I'm obsessed, it's like I'm not myself anymore. It's like my penis has taken control. And what makes me most ashamed is that after a while I start drooling so much that I am not myself.

Usually I regain consciousness only when I have my orgasm at the end. And there I am ashamed. When I see myself full of lube and cum in the crotch and on the floor, my t-shirt drenched in drool and the smell of sweat and cum after several hours of masturbation, I start to cry. I'm very ashamed.


I would like to be normal and have normal sex with a nice guy, but I feel like my sexuality is destroyed and I am afraid to remain a pervert all my life. I'm really ashamed of what I'm telling you, but I don't know what to think. Please help me, can you give me your opinion and help me. Thanks

Sorry for my poor english, I'm french.
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Please help me, can you give me your opinion and help me. Thanks
I don't know if you need help. Judging by your post history, you seem to be into humiliation and self degradation. So, you are well into your fetish.

Nothing wrong with that.

But..being disingenuous about asking for help, when you are here to feed your fetish is quite another thing. Looks like you got some people to play along with you though.

For actual help, I'd consider joining a fetish community that will indulge you to the extent that you seem to need.

Here is a discussion on it, and a site where fetishes are explored.
 

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I don't know if you need help. Judging by your post history, you seem to be into humiliation and self degradation. So, you are well into your fetish.

Nothing wrong with that.

But..being disingenuous about asking for help, when you are here to feed your fetish is quite another thing. Looks like you got some people to play along with you though.

For actual help, I'd consider joining a fetish community that will indulge you to the extent that you seem to need.

Here is a discussion on it, and a site where fetishes are explored.

I feel a little offended by your comment. It's not a fetish for me. For months, I have mastered myself and I change my habits, I slowly come back to normal sexuality even if it remains lonely.

I am not a liar, and my request was honest. Porn and masturbation have destroyed my sexuality, I'm slowly rebuilding myself and making great progress. Of course I still check out porn sites and masturbate, but I managed to get rid of almost everything that made me ashamed.

Like what I was right to be ashamed and to be afraid of being judged ..... Thank you for your comment.
 
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It seems like you are doing well working on yourself with regards to your masturbation etc.
Shame can be a terrible emotion which stops us enjoying some activities.
Keep working on yourself and having great masturbation sessions too.
 
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you have to be daring, take the first step .. you have a nice big cock you will inevitably find a nice guy who will take care of it carefully .. i want to help you <3
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