Help me not fuck on the first date!

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  1. SouthernGirl

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    Well, I already had the first date and he was a PERFECT GENTLEMAN! Matter of fact....he is PERFECT! Educated, employed, independent, mobile, VERY attractive, affectionate, and my x-ray LPSG penor sensors indicate that he does have sufficient penis tissue (wide legged walk, + imprint through jeans on thigh 4 to 5 inches). Plus his IQ is higher than mine! Do yall not know how rare that is! He is a religious, big super nerd, does LOADS of volunteer work. He is a perfect soul! I so want to initiate sex but Im afraid if I set that pussy out it might run him away (he's younger than me)! It is also hard for me to give it to him because he spends all his free time playing W.O.W!!! How do I proceed and maintain self control! Should I just let him take his time? I don't want to seem like a easy slut.
     
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    There is still a double standard in this world as far as a woman being to sexual, so I would let him initiate.
     
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    Straight men love sex. You don't have to rip off his clothes, but if he can tell you are interested, I doubt he will be scared. Kiss him and see what happens. Just put your attraction out there and let him lead.
    What is WOW???
     
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    UGH! Im trying to maintain, I will talk to him tonight to see if we r doing anything this weekend.
     
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    Are you two definitely exclusive yet? If not, fuck someone else to keep your mind clear, but do not have sex with him. He seems like the type that would secretly hold it against you if he got into your pants "too soon".
     
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    Wow=world of warcraft We did kiss, all night. He initiated the kissing then I went in for more. He didn't even try to cop a feel! Keep his hands above the collarbone. When he took me home we kissed some more....then he starte kissing my neck & ears!!!! I was about cum! Im sure he heard the moaning and felt the gyrating. I feel bad about not giving him head but I really want him to be the one and my friends advised me against head on the first date.
     
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    Not yet, we have known each other for 3 weeks. He said he is not entertaining any other women, im not entertaining any other men (I don't want to).
     
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    make him want you.. dont give it up easily.
     
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    Why don't you just fuck his brains out? Then he will forget all about playing WOW...

    Forget the double standards - if you want him, just take him...
     
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    QFT! WoW is just a game, after all. :tongue:

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    [He just texted me! Will update!]
     
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    Congrats, sounds like your guy has some good qualities so I hope all goes well... thought you were describing me there for a second, right down to WoW hehe :tongue:
     
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    Ok alphamale, would you dismiss a female who initiated sex within a couple of weeks?
     
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    the important thing here sthrngrl is how high is your IQ
     
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    Me personally, nope not at all! :smile:

    I wouldn't necessarily "fuck on the first date" per se (unless you see he really wants to and you also really want to then don't turn him down hehe), but I feel like if people aren't that strongly physically attracted either initially or very quickly after meeting then it's not really going to happen like they want it to in the long run.

    The people that can "easily wait it out" are just faking it imo, sorry if that offends anyone. :tongue:
     
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    Run.

    Run as fast as you can.

    For the love of all that's holy, RUN.
     
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    See, everyone else is telling me to run because of the WOW issue. But the thing is I too have a RPG addiction so I understand the seriousness of being a real gamer (I take vacation time in order to play, 20+ hours a day no food no bathe).
     
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    (runs, as fast as he can, away from this thread)
     
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    I can relate, I've done the same before... well aside from the no food and bathe part, but I know what you mean hehe :tongue:
     
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    Sure sounds like someone who is a keeper.

    Back in the 70's I was friends with a couple and the guy was a super person and not very experienced with women. His wife told me that after she got to really know him and his qualities, she took him to bed one night to make sure he was going to want her. They were great together.
     
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