Help me not fuck on the first date!
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You have to be RPG compatible too, you know. Can you stand to be in the same house with somebody playing WOW when you are playing something else???
But seriously, try to find out what his birthdate is and do some astrology synastry charts for yourself and him before you declare him 'the one'. I wish very much I had done so before giving in to animal magnetism, at least a few times. Some kinds of sexual attraction fade quickly despite being very strong, and some are more diffuse but enduring without being aggravating. You are new to this guy, less than a month's acquaintance. It's not a matter of being easy, but of thinking with your hormones instead of your heart and brain.
But seriously, try to find out what his birthdate is and do some astrology synastry charts for yourself and him before you declare him 'the one'. I wish very much I had done so before giving in to animal magnetism, at least a few times. Some kinds of sexual attraction fade quickly despite being very strong, and some are more diffuse but enduring without being aggravating. You are new to this guy, less than a month's acquaintance. It's not a matter of being easy, but of thinking with your hormones instead of your heart and brain.
Cougar does have one point, it is good to see if you guys are compatible without the sex, and if you want it to last and be meaningful, then waiting for sex can be good. Too many people don't build anything but the sexual because they fuck too fast and then wonder why their relationship crumbled.
And Pit's got a good message too, if you are too aloof, he will go elsewhere. Unless holding off sex for religious or other reasons is something you agree on, then make him work for it, but only because you want him to know you 100% inside and out, not because you want to be cruel and play the sexual power play some people like to do and get a high out of it.
Then let him enjoy you and explore every bit of you. Inside and out :smile:
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You are now not aloud to ever write a post for the rest of your sad and ignorant little life you pathetic little person you.
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I'm afraid that I am in the camp that finds adults obsessed with games rather bizarre, but I do think that you are right not to stampede in with your cooch on heat. Men can be far more complex sexually than some people think. Far better to feel your way in than to blow it by doing something that is a do not pass go for him.
one date and you're thinking of giving in? i think the minimum number of dates should be at least 5... and that's pushing it already... IMHO..
if he is as great a guy as you describe, you would probably want a relationship with him, no?
if you want a relationship, then hold out and make him chase you, not give it up.
neways, is it just me, or do i find neck kissing on the first date too much? :S
if he is as great a guy as you describe, you would probably want a relationship with him, no?
if you want a relationship, then hold out and make him chase you, not give it up.
neways, is it just me, or do i find neck kissing on the first date too much? :S
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I remember back when I was a kid (50's) that us guys were scared and wondering if the girl I am with will let me kiss her. I heard from girls back then that they thought this was funny because while we were wondering about kissing them, they were deciding if they wanted to fuck. Funny how women are always ahead of us. 
molotovmuffin
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this....
I actually do that when I'm seriously contemplating a potential relationship.
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Third date is pretty much the classic for giving it up. Don't worry about it so much, and push things a little further if he won't initiate. If he doesn't respond, you'll just tease him enough to make him bolder the next time out.
For reference though, I hate games and will bail on people who date prude because I feel like they are trying to manipulate me.
For reference though, I hate games and will bail on people who date prude because I feel like they are trying to manipulate me.
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Back in the 70's a friend was divorced and started dating several women. One night we found out that he had a date with our pediatrician. Seems that it went well and they went out again. On their 3rd date my wife wonders if they have tried it out yet. Guess they did and liked it, because they got married about 6 months later. Guess the 3rd date is a good gauge.
As a side note. Before they got married, they threw a pool party at his house and we had a good time, including my getting a good view underwater that his future bride had a nice bush, judging from all the hair hanging from the crotch of her swimsuit. Sorry, just had to look
As a side note. Before they got married, they threw a pool party at his house and we had a good time, including my getting a good view underwater that his future bride had a nice bush, judging from all the hair hanging from the crotch of her swimsuit. Sorry, just had to look
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Ok, I won't initiate, but I won't stop him if he decides to make the first move. Last nite I did get to talk to him on the phone (most of the time he just likes to text). He asked me when was I off and what I was doing for superbowl sunday. I told him I didn't have any plans so ill see what is up tonight. He normally texts me when he gets off work.
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OMG!this....
I actually do that when I'm seriously contemplating a potential relationship.
I used to do that . . . when in my early 20's. :tongue: :lmao:I don't get it, why 5 dates? That's just as random as 3 but it makes you seem less a slut.
At what point does the "We are exclusive" talk come in? Because I'm not fucking a man who is also fucking other women or men. I figure if you aren't comfortable with that talk as well as the condom and testing talk then no sex should happen. But then again I tend to be very pragmatic.I'm not good at playing those kinds of games. I think it's bull shit. Then again I didn't date in hs so I just don't get the who;e game thing anyway.
Who made up that dumb ass rule?
I mean seriously, It's so random and stupid. Depending on the man situation, etc. by the 3rd date I'm still trying to find out how much we have in common; and if he is worth shaving my legs past the knee for. 
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I know a woman who is a man eater, a slut, a ho, loose woman ... however, I told her that although she's being labeled by those label types for the same behavior as men exhibit, to go for it, if a man can do it so can a woman. You've known him for 3 weeks already so if you're ready to make a move, do it, and see what his reaction is, if he's a gentleman as you say, he might decline politely for whatever reason like 'keeping it til marriage' then again, he might like to be dominated by a she cat looking to lift her tail. No harm in that.
maybe i'm just a little bit more conservative.... despite what we tell ourselves, i think men actually judge women no matter what they say.
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