Jimbo: Frog:
Why do you think you can bring yourself off so quickly??? You have obviously learned just the right combination of areas to touch, how much pressure to use, how slow/fast to manipulate yourself, etc. to bring yourself to a climax.
A common complaint on this board is that the PARTNER can't bring them off whether via genital intercourse, or manual or oral sessions. One of the main reasons for this is a LACK OF OPEN COMMUNICATIONS. We EXPECT our partner to be able to READ OUR BODIES in the same manner that we do and then create the right combination of stimulation that results in orgasm. However, the fact of the matter is that this can often be a hit or miss event depending on how well your partner knows your body.
This has nothing to do with how much someone LOVES you or their range of prior experiences. If partners that you or she has had BEFORE you got together just happen to COINCIDENTALLY react sexually to the same techniques you/her learned with them, then you have success. If either of you requires a different "style", then without proper communication, failure, frustration and anger can result.
Sometimes the communication needed can be subtle depending on how close "in the ballpark" the sensations generated by your partner are bringing you to eventual orgasm. When you or she does something that feels good to the other, all that is needed might be expressed just in a moan of pleasure, a phrase or a facial expression. However, sometimes the communication level has to go further than that.
This is where egos can get in the way and couples sometimes part because depending on how it is approached, the partner that can't satisfy the other starts to feel "inadequate" or or the partner that is not getting satisified starts to think it is because the other person is just a "lousy lay" and continued association with them will just result in sexual frustration over the long term.
So what is the solution? TEACH HER! The key is NOT to be degrading, but do it in an encouraging, supportive manner. There are several ways to do this:
1. You can mastubate while she watches as Sammygirly has suggested (This can be INCREDIBLY hot for the both of you, especially if you watch HER get off via masturbation while you watch).
2. While she is performing a hand job or blow job, tell her or PLACE her hands/mouth on the areas that are your most responsive. You can use your hands to move hers, if needed. Give her FEEDBACK when it feels good, if not, then DON"T respond in an indifferent or frustated manner, but rather tell her how to modify that "move" to make you feel good.
3. Rent some porn showing/specializing in blow jobs/hand jobs. This can work, especially if you are maybe a little "shy" about suggestion 1
After a short time, she will become a "pro" at giving you manual/oral pleasure. However, make sure you RECIPROCATE and let her know that you want her to teach YOU about what really gets HER off.
Most of all RELAX. Once the tension of having to "make this happen or else" is removed from your learning sessions, then it will happen naturally.