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Thanks guys for your advice but i really dont think i could ever tell my parents im gay or straight (im really confussed at the moment) especially my father he is so homophobic he put a gay man in hospital, For looking at him.
I really dont know what to do we had sex again but we used a condom this time, He didnt want to but i insisted he did,It was starting to hurt when we were doing it but he said it was normal, He said he loved being with me and that i made him feel great, he said hes never been with another guy before, I really think im falling for him It's weid the feelings i have.I dnt know what i am gay or straight.
There's no one in my family i could confidently tell that wouldnt tell my parents.None of my friends knows about me and steve, To them im straight, i play football and basketball im a ordinary straight guy.
Id like to know How you'd go about getting tested, What do they do and how old do you have to be.
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I think you are going to get a lot of advice here, so I hope you don't mind my two cents. I live in Germany, and over here 16 year olds are old enough to legally have sex with other men or women who are 16 or older. I am saying this so you know I don't think you are doing anything wrong.
Where to get tested? Ok, you can find that out by calling the health centre at any university close to you. Call them on a pay phone and don't worry about giving a name - if they ask, just say "Joe Smith". Ask where you can have an "anonymous HIV test". There is no minimum age for a test.
If that doesn't work, try planned parenthood.
No luck? Ok, look up the address of the Public Health Office for your state. Call them (pay phone?) and tell them you need a test, where can you get it?
If all that doesn't help, let us know - somebody here is bound to have more ideas.
Ok, that was a direct answer to your question. Do you mind if I tell you my opinon? Just read on or log me out as you like.
Like I said above, I think you have done nothing wrong. It's ok to be confused about sex and sexuallity (gay/straight) at your age. I still get confused about how to make my microwave timer work and I'm way older than you. I know that love is possible between a 16 year old and an older man. If he really does love you, than he will have no problem your telling him you want to cool things down for awhile. Just say your dad has been a little curious, that will probably do it. I am sorry to say, I don't really think he is acting the way someone who loves you should.
I think the strong reactions of folks here are pretty clear, they are worried about you. Me, too. But I don't want to scare you so much by talking about other things. So let's just stick to the facts. As I see it:
1) Aids test - see above. Again, no luck, let us know.
2) Since your folks aren't maybe the first people to talk to here, let's see. Who else might be a good listener.
How about your doctor? If you tell him this is private, he has to keep it private. No? Ok, how about Planned Parenthood again? These folks are good at listening and can give you some good advice. No Planned Parenthood around? Hmm, try the Metropolitan Community Church. Or the Unitarian Church. Or the Rabbi at a Jewish Synagogue. These folks will keep things quiet if you ask, they are usually very good listeners.
Still nobody close you can call? I promise, I'll keep looking and I bet someone who is reading this and lives in the US has some better ideas.
Please, take this one step at a time. It is not your fault, it is not your guilt.
To everybody else, yeah - I feel the same way, but our freakin' ain't helpin' things.