Perhaps some of you can give me ideas as to what was motivating the actions of my exFB. We met in a bar in 2008. I was with some friends but he and I started speaking with one another. Then he and I moved on to another bar. I had had far too many rounds and so he helped me home and stayed as well. Well, that was new to me and I was sure I would never hear from him anymore. Two weeks later he called to say he was going to be in town, could we see each other that night? I already had plans so turned him down. He said he would be back in town in 2 weeks on Friday. He called me the Wednesday of that week and we met up. We met for a drink and chatted and then had sex in the hotel where he was staying. The sex was great. While he would have to leave early for work, he didnt mind my staying on. I would usually leave around 9:30. Things happened like this a couple of times. But there were also a few times he would call as late as 8 or 9 on a Friday night. As I was already out, I would respond a day or a couple days later with the same message either by call or text: Nice, to hear from you but it would be nicer to have advance notice to get together. Admittedly, twice I agreed to see him when he called me on Friday afternoon. So we got together about 5 times in 2008. I didnt hear from him for a few months, then he started calling me again. Always on Friday night to see each other Friday night. I would not respond. One time he called me around 3am. During daylight hours the next day, I texted him what was that about? He called me immediately after that to apologise. In 2009, we saw each other twice but he was much later than he promised he would be. Ok, the sex was good, but I knew this was reaching a low that I didnt want. So I didnt hear from him in a year. But once again, around 8pm on Friday. I thought about it and wondered if he might have changed. But of course, I certainly hadnt . I texted him the second time he did that in this go round with the same message: Advance notice necessary! He called me immediately after that, it was Saturday. He wanted to know if I was free that night. I said I had plans. He said that he would be back next week and we would get together. So by Wednesday this week, I thought I would help him along. I texted him with the message Looking forward to seeing you on Friday what time? I didnt hear from him until Thursday. Turns out he was in town then and wanted to know if we could get together. Now, I might have aid yes to Thursday, but not on Thursday. I asked about Friday and he said that he would have to let me know. That was for me the final straw. We he called me around 5:30 on Friday to say that yes we could get together and I have a few hours I simply responded by text: You and I are not compatible. Please dont contact me again. I noticed that he left two voicemails after that. One which accused me of standing him up. Now heres the question. For otherwise no strings attached (NSA) sex, why on earth would a man make it difficult to access by continuing to do what the supplier of this NSA sex has expressly asked him not to do? Ive thought of two possibilities here: 1. The thrill of new pussy was such that he would take his chances with me until 8 or 9 at night. 2. He couldnt bear the thought of a woman telling him what to do. But maybe you fellow community members can help me with possibilities. Perhaps you men can tell me what goes on inside your head when dealing with an FB and expressly going against the most minimal of requests no matter how reasonable. And perhaps you women who have also been party to an FB arrangement can apprise me as to any revelations youve made when engaging in this type of relationship. The benefit of your experiences are welcome. there's no need though to tell me that I am better off without him. I already know that.