aceofhearts: I have been a lurker here a long time but just registered. Mainly because I thought I could get some advice. So here goes... I have been married for 4 years. I love my wife but we do have arguments now and then, which is normal. But there is one facet of her personality that is really a problem and I don't know what to do. She gives gifts not for the recipient but to make herself feel good (at least the way I see it). For instance, she came home today with food for me from a restaurant (not leftovers). However, she knows I'm very picky about where I eat. As a matter of fact, I now go online and check Food Inspection Records before going to any restaurant. So she brought me home this food and I went to the computer to look up the info on the restaurant. Well, they failed inspection and were cited for uncleanliess and signs of rats and mice. So naturally, this was a no-brainer for me. I could not eat the food. My wife then started to cry and said that she was only trying to do something nice for me. I thanked her for the food, but explained I cannot eat it. She always gets overly melodramatic. What am I supposed to do? How can I deal with this? It keeps repeating and does interfere in the relationship. A lot of the time I cannot say what I really feel, just so she doesn't start crying.