Help, Need Ladies Advice

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  1. D_Amyntas Lillydong

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    Well I know I am stepping away from porn. I met a woman who I was able to express my true inner feelings. We were able to discuss things naturally and she made me feel what really goes into a healthy relationship. It is too bad that she didn't reciprocate my feelings. She is moving away and I want to stay in touch, but I sometimes wonder if it will be worth it or she may be blocking me from someone else coming into my life. Any opinions would be helpful, especially from other women's point of view.
     
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    If you already know that she doesn't return your feelings then fixating on her will be an obstacle to you finding a real relationship with another woman.

    If you can keep the hope for more out of it then maintaining communication isn't a bad thing at all.
     
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    I think a little more info is needed. So far what I am getting from what you have posted is that you have met someone you would like to keep in touch with but are afraid that if you do it will keep you from seeking out another woman to share your life with.

    If this be the case, I have to ask why you feel this way. Are you dating this gal and do you plan to keep a long distance relationship with her. I have male freinds that are JUST FRIENDS. That shouldn't stop you have seeking someone closer to home to spend your time with.

    If you have learn what it takes for a healthy relationship and want it. Then by all means seek out that person who can give that to you. From what I get from your post this gal isn't doing that for you.
     
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    I will admit that I am fixating on her. I am also trying to see her as a friend which it will most likely always be. It is how it started out, but unexpectedly I grew so much emotionally because of her. Am I answering my own question? I will miss seeing her in person.
     
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    I will give the whole story. We were co-workers. She wanted a guy friend (no sex involved) to lean on. She is living in a state she doesn't like for her career. So she wanted someone to be able to share her problems with. Sure I'm a good listener. Well she would call me and lets do this and that. It was a slow time for me this past winter. Maybe the winter blues. I was trying to be a friend, then one day I realized I was more into her as a friend than I realized. We have admitted a lot of personal feelings and things about ourselves to each other. She is leaving because she cannot be with a married man she would settle down with here. Another co-worker which went no further. Lucky her she is going back to her home state to a great place to work and childhood friends. But then she tells me it is only a career choice knowing what she cannot have here relationship wise. So she confesses it is not her ideal move and she will still be alone.
     
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    It sounds like denial to me. On both ends. If it's mean't to be you can deny it all you wish with or without a distance real love endures both time and distance.
     
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    Denial that we have feelings for each other?
     
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