Help! need to learn to take a big one

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Hi there, I am gay and began seeing this guy. He is a bit above average in length but its really thick!! I am very tight back there and been practicing with toys but I feel like I am still too tense... Is there anything else I can do other than just bite the bullet or pillow and take it?

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Hi,
excercise, excercise, excercise.

Get a couple high quality silicone buttplugs in different sizes. Starting from very small.
Get a very good water based lube and use plenty of it.
Play with yourself. Daily.
Learn how to relaxe and open up.

You will notice, after a few days, that it will be easier to relax.

Talk to your partner, say that you are tight, and then let him open you up with the toys.
 

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Come see me. J/K

Just relax. Take a little bit at a time. Have him pull all the way out and put back in. Have him to do that repeatedly. After a while you will relax.

This 20 y.o told was afraid at first but he told me "it feels so good!" I moved a way he never got a chance to feel that again.
 
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Like all the others mentioned, practice with your Dildo. One problem could be that your stressing over your ability to take him. Which can cause you to tense up...practice some deep breathing. This will help your relax.
 
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Hi,
excercise, excercise, excercise.

Get a couple high quality silicone buttplugs in different sizes. Starting from very small.
Get a very good water based lube and use plenty of it.
Play with yourself. Daily.
Learn how to relaxe and open up.

You will notice, after a few days, that it will be easier to relax.

Talk to your partner, say that you are tight, and then let him open you up with the toys.

Leidenschaft has it correct.... it is learning to relax the muscle, a bit tricky to explain, I like to just let myself go when being mounted. Doing Kegels helps, after drawing in the Kegel, then slowly releasing the Kegel and letting the anus relax. At that point insert a toy or a buds cock, and it just slides in. I like it to slide in and do nothing but relish the feeling of being entered. This will help you to expand the experience, understand your muscles and how they can amp up your pleasure. Good luck and practice brings more pleasure.
 

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When I was younger and didn’t know whereorchlwcto get a dildo I would find the larges carrot, wash it and I used that. Plus a carrot comes to a nice point. Helps open you up.