Help needed please

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  1. Putzo

    Putzo New Member

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    Ok, I am having some issues with cumming a tad to early during intercourse. As I am still using a condom with my current partner, I have thought about using an anesthetic cream to make it numb so that I won't cum so quickly. It's just that due to the fact that we just got it going recently, I can't manage to hol it back no matter what I do (I can hold it back up to 20-30 minutes with someone I am used to)

    can anyone reccomend any products?
     
  2. DC_DEEP

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    I have no products to recommend. My best advice would be go ahead and cum, wait a short while, then go for Round 2.
     
  3. karmen

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    DC_DEEP:

    Yeah for round 2 and 3 and 4 and . . . ? As RuPaul said, "You better work!". :wink:

    Hugs and Kisses,

    Karmen
     
  4. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    How 'bout going for round 2?
     
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    Yah,

    Everyone has said have a quick round one, adn then go for round two.

    When I was younger, I found it easy to cum fast. As a result, I got the gf's to Blow me first, as that would cause me to cum. Once the pesky first orgasm was out of the way, I could focus on giving her oral, until I was ready to have sex.

    Now that I am older, I have found that the trick is to just enjoy the sex, and when you are getting too close... slow down the fucking senstation... or bury yourself deep inside her, and then stop/start kissing her passionately, while you gain composure.

    If you do it right, they rarely notice.:rolleyes:
     
  6. Putzo

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    Cool, thanks for the advice guys. Never had a problem with round 2/3 but round 1 is a disaster!
     
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    Nah, just change the way you look at it... consider round 1 as the 'starter' rather than the be-all-and-end-all... a mere 'taster' (perhaps literally :wink:) of the stuff that's to follow.

    Seeing it as a disaster is like saying you went out for a three-course meal, but didn't enjoy the starter because there was more substance to the main course. One doesn't cancel the other out; they're just different things. Enjoy both on their own merits.
     
  8. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    I think you could try that desensitizing cream, Putzo. No harm in that.
    Also, SSRI antidepressants have been found to help in cases of premature ejaculation. (They have side-effects, however, so you might not want to go that route ... but you might discuss it with a specialist.)
    And then therapists have developed certain physical techniques to reduce your excitation when climax is knocking at the door. They're supposed to be quite effective, and might be your best bet.
    The point about not worrying about the first go, just accepting it as part of a trajectory that builds to a more satisfactory second round, is hard to fault. However, it's especially persuasive when your problem is otherwise intractable. But it's not clear to me you're in that situation, Putzo.
    And it's no fun opening with what must seem, if you can forgive the pun, an anticlimax.
    Maybe you should start by speaking with your doctor.
     
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