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Hey, i'm a bisexual guy here , so where do i start ? i'm 20 , in university , so since the year started I had an immediate crush on this guy , he's already popular and everyone wants to be his girlfriend/wants to be his friend , so he's like a little taller than me , very broad shoulders and a muscular body , nice tan skin , brown hair , hooot eyes... you see where i'm going with this ? hehe , so we didn't talk from september til november , i was once harassed by two guys in my class and i was super mad/sad , i'm like the good boy in class , good grades not rebellious or anything , so I was sad and he came to me and asked how i'm doing and everything , and he started giving me advice... it was so cool .
After about 4 days or so I gave him a car ride (he lives next to my house) and I invited him over , and we had the greatest chemistry ( friends wise of course , he's straight) and we bonded , and he was sooo nice .
so the problem here is that we are til now very good friends and he tells me secrets and everything and he stays over at my house many times , and I have gone to his house also .
Also another problem is that I try to dislike him but he's so hot and nice to me , for example If i'm talking to someone he comes behind me and lifts me up , just to be playful , he's kinda like that , he defends me whenever someone tries to harass me or anything...
So what should I do ? we're really good friends now , like brothers , how do i get rid of the crush i had on him ? it's kinda weird because I wanna be his friend because we have a really good bond but at the same time I'm so lost in his eyes...
 

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Hey, i'm a bisexual guy here , so where do i start ? i'm 20 , in university , so since the year started I had an immediate crush on this guy , he's already popular and everyone wants to be his girlfriend/wants to be his friend , so he's like a little taller than me , very broad shoulders and a muscular body , nice tan skin , brown hair , hooot eyes... you see where i'm going with this ? hehe , so we didn't talk from september til november , i was once harassed by two guys in my class and i was super mad/sad , i'm like the good boy in class , good grades not rebellious or anything , so I was sad and he came to me and asked how i'm doing and everything , and he started giving me advice... it was so cool .
After about 4 days or so I gave him a car ride (he lives next to my house) and I invited him over , and we had the greatest chemistry ( friends wise of course , he's straight) and we bonded , and he was sooo nice .
so the problem here is that we are til now very good friends and he tells me secrets and everything and he stays over at my house many times , and I have gone to his house also .
Also another problem is that I try to dislike him but he's so hot and nice to me , for example If i'm talking to someone he comes behind me and lifts me up , just to be playful , he's kinda like that , he defends me whenever someone tries to harass me or anything...
So what should I do ? we're really good friends now , like brothers , how do i get rid of the crush i had on him ? it's kinda weird because I wanna be his friend because we have a really good bond but at the same time I'm so lost in his eyes...
Wow! Cute story . I understand what you are saying but it is a bit vague . I wouldn't be so sure about his sexuality until you get to know each other a bit longer . He might not be telling you all of his secrets . What do you two do when you are alone together? What do you talk about etc....Being bi yourself i bet it is really confusing because so far you only can talk about a part of yourself . Time will tell where this will go . I think if you want to pursue this further, you need to be totally honest . You are young. Life is just beginning for you . Maybe a little risk here may shape potential relationships in the future . You have to be all of you . Life is to short if you know what i mean.
 

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Wow! Cute story . I understand what you are saying but it is a bit vague . I wouldn't be so sure about his sexuality until you get to know each other a bit longer . He might not be telling you all of his secrets . What do you two do when you are alone together? What do you talk about etc....Being bi yourself i bet it is really confusing because so far you only can talk about a part of yourself . Time will tell where this will go . I think if you want to pursue this further, you need to be totally honest . You are young. Life is just beginning for you . Maybe a little risk here may shape potential relationships in the future . You have to be all of you . Life is to short if you know what i mean.
but he has a girlfriend , he even tells me about the sex they have together , and I usually have a really good gaydar and i can tell he's completely straight.
 
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This is uncomplicated but exceedingly difficult: you either stay great friends and deal with your crush day-by-day, or you leave the friendship entirely. "Easier said than done" is an understatement, but I'll offer this: great friends are far harder to find than great lays.
 

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It’s not a cute story, it’s an old story. Unrequited crushes, unrequited love, gay or straight, is one of the oldest stories told. It sure hurts, though, doesn’t it.

Get some distance and perspective. It feels intense. I know it does. But try not to spend so much time with him. Like @AlteredEgo says, look for someone actually available to you. Focus on crushing on someone new and available to you. That will be incredible, to find the joy of being with someone who doesn’t torture you, whose touch isn’t meant to tease, but to invite.

This guy kind of sounds douchey to me. He might even sense you’re bisexual and he loves the attention. He’s a collector. He doesn’t care who he collects as long as he’s got everybody in love with him. You say everybody wants to be his friend - of course, he works at it. Don’t be everyone. Be an individual. Find the someone who only wants you, not the admiration of the entire campus. There is someone you don’t have to compete for, and someone who will make you tingle. It’s not this guy.
 

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The only one that can really help you, is "you".

You have to serious evaluate the value of your friendship with him. My best friend growing up (actually still is) was very hot. I could have easily crushed on him. Probably did. It's been over 30 years, so don't really recall. However, our friendship was so good, that I soon realized that it was more important than any sexual fantasy that I may have. There was no way I was going to jeopardize it.

Did I wish he would have been open to it? At the time, yes, but same as your friend, I knew he was straight. To this day, I am very thankful that I did not risk his trust in me. My partner and I spend time with him and his wife every chance we get.

If he's that important to you, it's up to you to change the way you look at him.

Good Luck