help...please

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  1. iMaDR

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    im a very embarrassed and desperate 19 year old who needs your help.i need mostly gay men and some womens help. and of course, if any straight men out there have any expertise is this genre of sex please be my guest and lend your advise.

    so, to get to the point, all i want to know is: how the do you have anal sex?

    if you need the whole story, i have no problem explaining it to you here on this thread, but all im looking for is just some simple advice, rules, guidelines, just something to help me understand what went wrong.
     
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    oh man...the rules and guidelines of anal sex?

    This will be an interesting thread. :)
     
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    indeed, all i need some humane guidelines of what is to be expected in the first time of experimenting with anal sex.

    i mean, they dont teach you these kinds of things in sex-ED.
     
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    Oh God, I already feel bad for you and I don't even know what happend.
    :redface: It would help if you could tell us if you were giving or receiving the anal sex so that we can give advice accordingly. Also if you were with a man or a woman.

    I hate to sound like a pervy voyeur, but once you say you need help with something sexual and that you have already attempted it and it went wrong.:confused: You are pretty much duty bound to explain.

     
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    well, to answer your question, it was with a man and it was for the first time for the both of us. i was the bottom and of course he was the top.

    it all started earlier tonight. i went to his dorm and we watched a movie. now, we have done things before in the past but never anal sex. tonight was our first time trying it (i hope thats an important part). after two bottles of red whine, one thing led to a next and we tried it.

    (here comes the embarrassing part). im guessing about 5-10 minutes into it, i told him to pull out because it hurt. another couple minutes later, we agreed to try again. it still didnt feel "right" but it did feel good at the same time. anyway, i let him continue till he came. at the end, when he pulled out, there was (this is trully hard to admit, and it is very embarrassing. but just because i care about him and he about me, i will admit it.) when he pulled out there was "you know" on the condom.

    when he saw it, he made no hasty expression, he just stared. once i saw, i was so embarrassed, i clothed myself and left the room without saying a word.
     
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    Dare I say"Shit happens"!
     
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    iMaDR, Now I understand! :smile::redface: Perfectly natural and normal question.

    I'm a girl but I love anal sex. I always clean out prior to such an experience, a few hours before. You wanna get yourself either an enema like Fleet or an anal douche. Empty the solution out of the fleet and refill with warm water. Do this then release in the toilet. Do this 2-3 times.

    I hope you aren't too freaked to give it another go. It really can be quite wonderful. :wink:



     
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    tis funny, but neither dose it help the situation (or in your case shituation) nor me to that matter.

    sorry IF you were trying to be serous and those who are taking this seriously. but when push come to shove or just when i feel uncomfortable about a situation i like to take it easy and turn it into a joke, thus the parentheses.
     
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    I'v had loads of anal sex and it's never once been in any way 'messy' but I don't think an enema is necessary, just a bit of common sense, make sure you've been to the toilet recently and had a good wash round after, if you've recently been to the toilet and emptied your bowels properly (eat lots of fibre) your rectum itself should be free of poo.

    I've seen other people mention crap on condoms and although I haven't experienced this I would imagine it's fairly common and best treated as a possible but natural downside of anal.
     
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    thank you, njqt466, for your advice. maybe i will try that. and no, like i said, it did feel good. i was incredibly aroused and i did come (i think i forgot to mention that.) so, no, i am not afraid to try it again. i just hope he isn't. i mean, i did walk out on him without saying a word. i also didn't answer both of his calls.
     
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    i tried to follow the hear-say. i did empty the bowls and i did wash myself completely before going over there (and trust me, i was clean). maybe it was just my nerves?
     
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    Ok, first of all, there is honestly nothing to be embarrassed about. This situation has happened to me, while I was “topping” a guy. That hole is naturally an exit anyway, so it is to be expected, at least on occasion.

    I do have to say that the advice “njqt466” gave you was great. But man, I guarantee you and this other guy are still cool, no matter what. If he really likes you, you have nothing to worry about.

    Good luck in your future “adventures”. Have a great day!!!

    --CuriousBoi69 :wink:
     
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    Oh, and "SpoiledPrincess" is right also, both are good suggestions... You said, "I went to his dorm", so I guess I can assume you are a college student... Taking a Food and nutrition class has suprisingly widened my view of the human body... You might want to think about that also

    --CuriousBoi69
     
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    to tell the truth, i feel like an asshole. i havent said a word to him since and he's called me twice. i just hope when i call him tomorrow, he'll pick up.

    anyway, so, what happened to me was natural? if thats so, when (on average) will it become natural not to do what happened to me?
     
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    Just follow the advice from "SpoiledPrincess" and "njqt466" and everything will be fine. First try, to cleanse yourself by going to the rest room and emptying your bowels before you go see this guy, or any guy for that matter. If after you do this and it happens again, go for the anal douche. Follow all this advice and you should have no problems at all.

    Good luck buddy!
    --CuriousBoi69
     
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    It's happened to me too several times-- once with a woman, twice when I topped a guy and once when I was the unexpected bottom.

    "NJQT446" is the best advice. I was going to suggest the same thing.

    Most of all, don't sweat it. Unlike porn films, sex is not always squeaky clean. If your buddy has tried to call you twice, it sounds like he's a cool guy and is probably concerned about how you're feeling about the situation.

    So just take it in stride. Consider it your rites of passage. Go shit, shower, shave and climb on that horse-cock again. Ride 'em cowboy!
     
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    Try to use a lube thats not irritating to the colon, baby lotion and hand lotion make poor lubes . Absolutely don't use soap. KY gel or petroleum jelly usually work fine. when these lubes irritate you the cause water to be introduced into the intestines which can cause accidents. I am sure that many porn stars prep extensively prior to making a video to avoid such disasters.

    I clothed myself, what east coast are you from.?
     
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    Hold up there - OP stated he was using condoms. Can't use petrolium jelly with condoms. KY is fine, or any water based. Read the label!

    And to the OP - 'vacate', clean, prep, enjoy - and most importantly don't sweat it. If he didn't react badly at the time then he was OK with it. Good luck calling him.
     
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