help serious problem

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  1. Longa Schlonga

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    hey guys, look this might be the wrong place but as it's called the "HEALTHY penis" i figured it might be suitable.

    I have a great life, great friends, ok mind, ok body, life should be pretty good. But it isnt. i'm suffering serious depression. my parents ignore me, they say it's just mood swings, and all the specialists i've been to see need parents consent. help plz, i nearly killed myself the other day, and i dont want to.


    if u have any idea's PLEASE post them, otherwise this may be my last post.

    thanks

    john

    P.S. froggie so sorry i didnt tell u about this, just didnt seem suitable.

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  2. Imported

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    carolinacurious: "and all the specialists i've been to see need parents consent."

    need parent' consent for what? drugs?

    what do the specialists say to your parents?

    who is paying for you to see these specialists?

    while medication can help it is not a miracle, there is a lot to be said for plain old therapy and talking (with a specialist), talking with your friends can help but when you have a real problem it's frequently like pissing in the ocean.

    the fact that you know that there is something wrong puts you in a much better position than someone with similar problems who is in complete denial of their problems.
     
  3. headbang8

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    Don't worry about whether this is the wrong place. We're glad you spoke.

    Parents who don't listen to their kids? Don't get me started...

    I can't give you any professional advice. But as one who has suffered depression and managed it, let me tell you that you can get through this episode. Take your suicidal thoughts seriously, but don't panic over them. These thoughts are obsessive right now, but you clearly say you don't want to end your life, and I ask you to trust yourself that this is true. The fact that you wrote this message shows it.

    The good thing about depression is that you can address it in a systematic way. You may not be able to see a specialist, but school/college guidance counsellors are another resource. Use them.

    There are many great books written on the subject--and even more bad ones. One resource I have found comforting and restorative is wingofmadness.com. Very truthful...people share their experiences openly and with great wisdom and insight.

    Please don't hesitate to post/write/PM/whatever. Keep talking to people about it. It's hard, but it helps.

    hb8
     
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    gamma_phi: Not sure of your age, but if you're still in school, there should be counselors available to you (if not, ask for one). If you're in college, there should definitely be a department specifically for that need and is free. If you're not in either, try finding your local health department (not hospital, the health department) like clinics and stuff like that. They MIGHT have someone on staff there with clinical psych backgrounds, but you'd be lucky if they did. If not, they may able to help you find a specialist willing and able to see you w/out parents consent. It may cost a few bucks or none at all, depends on the doc and other factors. Hope this helps. good luck.
     
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    For what it is worth ask yourself what would doing yourself in resolve because that might help you figure out what it is that is so disturbing when so much seems good.
    Get to a professional whatever it takes but keep posting so others here can provide some support
     
  6. Mr.Stout

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    This IS a very serious issue, one for which I can say I understand atleast from my perspective. I grew up in a split home. I was ignored by my Father and his new wife and my mother my my new Dad were too troubled and selfish to ever notice anyreal problems I had. They were/ are good people but as far as parents go they need as much help as I did.
    Anyway, I do understand and have faced this same decision on a few occasions. While I was reading your post I remembered the words to a new country song written and sung by a very new artist, Blaine Larson, who is only now 19 I think. The song is called "How do you get that lonely" and at first I the title makes you think but when you actually here it, its not really about the fact that how could a person really get lonely enough to take their own life as much as it is about how could a person get that lonely and nobody notice it!
    As people we are generaly very consumed by our own selves and our own problems. The thing that got me through, as well as something pointed out in the song, which is another reason I like it, was that I though to myself "how could not having a life at all be any better then the life I am going through now?" Since then I have tride to remember that it is up to me to make my life the way I want it to be. My happiness, my joy, my sadness, my love, my hate, my sorrow, my pain, my grief, my experiences, my EVERYTHING is up to me! my choice! and I know that it isn't always this easy but you can choose to be happy, sad, or what ever.
    What makes one man who is permanantly deformed and disabled so much so that he can't even move go on to become the foremost mind in Astrophysics, and another man to give up on himself ini the same situation and take his own life? CHOICES!

    You can chose not to be pained by what ever is troubling you, and by doing such it will help you get through it what ever it truely is.
    I hope this helps in some way
     
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    There's some great advice here, and I hope that some of it really hits home for you and helps you find some options for help. There are plenty of people here on the LPSG who don't really "know" you but who sincerely care, and I'm sure there are people in your life who do as well. It may just be hard to get them to "hear" you. :)

    Listen, just as the other guys have said, I would really recommend talking to a school counselor. There are people out there who are trained to assist you in finding your way through these tough spots. I spent a long time tonight talking with someone who is digging his way out of a bad place emotionally, and he did so with the help of a trained professional.

    There's help available--professionals who have the skills, tools, and experience to help you get moving in the other direction. Please try to take that first step and ask for help from someone who can. Do you have any options like that?

    Why not post again in this thread and let us know how you feel about the advice and what you're thinking for your next step, OK?
     
  8. Altairion

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    A lot of these guys have posted great advice for you, so I hope you've had the time to read through it. Just remember that if you don't feel that you have anyone to talk to, there are several of here at LPSG that are glad to step up and help you through this.
     
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    Many churches have trained professional counselors. Some pastors have extensive training, some have none. But you might find a church that has a certified counselor that can help. And you may not need parents' consent.

    And some churches have staff that aren't certified, but can help as well. Though you need to watch that. I have worked 30 years in church I am not certified but I have a lot of training. But some church staFf have no experience nor training so check it out first.

    Certainly you can pm or e-mail me. I will be gone the next two days, but I will be glad to listen and offer advice.

    The first advice about suicide is "always tomorrow, never today." Find a way to get through today. Worry about tomorrow when tomorrow gets here. Right now jist get through this day.

    I have been suicidal before. In both cases it was a chemical imbalance that caused the depression that made me suicidal.

    If you can get to a medical doctor, especialy one in family medicene who can take inventory of your health. A doctor might find a physical problem for what you are experiencing. And he might can find the right kind of counselor that you need if there is no physical problem. And in some states you may can get it free.


    Even a calcium reading too high or too low can cause severe depression. There are so many causes. There is a reason for yours. We need to find it. Then we can deal with it.

    Please exhaust all your options before you really take steps to end your life. I know how hard it was for me to make just one more day there for a while. You may need a medication. If so, take it. If it gives you good mental health then you need it.

    E-mail me every day if you need to. Can't say I can do a lot, but I do care. And I will listen.

    Keep us posted. Together we can make it. The folks here are the greatest and we will gather around you and support you.

    We care.

    Freddie

     
  10. Pappy

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    Very good advice has been offered. The only thing I would add is to tell your parents, Guidance Counselor, minister, best friend Or somebody that you have had thoughts of ending it all. I can most certainly guarentee that one of them will listen to you. If you find yourself needing someone to listen, there are very many of us here that will do just that. We might not have all the answers but we can listen and try to help you work through your issues. Depression CAN be beat, I know for fact. It's taking two different meds a day, but I'm beating it one day at a time. Don't give up, there are plenty of folks here that can help in almost any situation you can throw at them.
     
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    If you are 18, you don't need you parent's consent to see a social worker/psychologist/psychiatrist.

    If you are under 18, level with your family. Tell them you need to see a doctor. The closer you are to 18 (17, for example) the more you are able to tell the specialist that you don't want them sharing what you discuss with you parents. In fact, as you apprach and exceed 18, the only time your confidentiality can be broken is if you are a danger to yourself or others. If you are in school--begin by going to your guidance counselor. Tell him or her EVERYTHING--this is not the time to hold back. They can help get you further supprt as needed.


    I work in Special Education and have taught a number of severely depressed students.
    PLEASE do something about this.
     
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    Ok, from the mood disorder camp.....I had a similiar situation when I was in my teens. My counselors begged and pleaded with my sister to sign the papers to get me help. My grades plunged, my girl left, my life went in the crapper. The next few years til my diagnosis were nothing short of my own personal hell.

    I've said that to say this. Go talk to a professional...now...not later...now. If you need your parents consent, do what you have to get them to understand. If not them, have another relative do it for you. You do not want this to get any worse and we'd be very upset if something bad happened to you.

    Take it from someone who's been there....definitely get help bro.
     
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    Ok, from the mood disorder camp.....I had a similiar situation when I was in my teens. My counselors begged and pleaded with my sister to sign the papers to get me help. My grades plunged, my girl left, my life went in the crapper. The next few years til my diagnosis were nothing short of my own personal hell.

    I've said that to say this. Go talk to a professional...now...not later...now. If you need your parents consent, do what you have to get them to understand. If not them, have another relative do it for you. You do not want this to get any worse and we'd be very upset if something bad happened to you.

    Take it from someone who's been there....definitely get help bro.
     
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