help.. should I hit on my piano teacher?

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  1. daveman

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    hey guys... My piano teacher is gay but much older then me... I feel kind of attracted to him and I dont know what to do... I would love to touch him and kiss him... he dont seem well hung but who knows..
    I mean when I sit at the piano he looks sometimes at my jeans looking in direction of my tool and the bump in my pants... but maybe I am just imagining.. what should I do...???
    thanks for some advice
     
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    I would say no. You just sound young and horny to me. I think it would be better to get to know some other gay people that you like and may have music in common with. It would even be better to get involved another older musician who is not a teacher.

    If you care about your teacher, and your own music, you have to understand that all could be lost if it goes wrong. My best friend (who was desperate for attention of any kind--it was before he met me!) was caught getting kissed by his piano teacher on the back of his neck. The teacher was fired from the school. My friend's father made a huge donation to the school to help keep everything quiet.

    The advantages of having a mentor/teacher to guide your musical development, who you like, and who wants to teach you, will stand you in good stead for many years. His reputation is at stake, and I am sure you wouldn't want to ruin that.

    All teachers have an ethical duty to only act in their student's best interests, he may drop you if you make it too hard for him. He may drop you if you are distracted or not focussed on your lessons. I would in that situation, if you couldn't understand these broader issues. Use the energy that happens between you to focus on your musical development, I have seen it work very well. It is important to respect the boudaries for many reasons. Fantasy is another thing altogether. It is a test that you can work through.

    I had advanced lessons with seven different music teachers (three different instruments and theory) before I studied at university with no issues. The openly gay teachers were extremely professional and highly regarded, good musicians, and excellent teachers.

    Academic music at school was a bit different, four teachers (each with a different area of specialisation). One of them was the most evil person, and took advantage of his students. He was actually a really lazy teacher, as well as a closest case (meaning an emotional wreck), and I reported him then went to a different school. Musically it was the best decision as well.
     
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    You addressed this to the guys, but I hope you don't mind my perspective... I would advise you with a "NO"!You have a professional relationship going, so I wouldn't mess with that. Besides, so many people in places of authority are subject to false accusations that I just wouldn't ever want anyone to put him in a situation where things could be misconstrued.
     
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    hey hypolimnas... thanks for your comment :)
    you seem to be a musicien.. really?
    but see my relationship with this teacher is on a private basis. I dont get lessons in the music school where he teaches but at my house.. I myself have graduated long ago from the musicschool where he teaches... I am almost sure that if I give him a little hug (or more..), he will like it.. of course I cant tell the consequences after wards.. except him giving me lessons for free?
    :)
     
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    I would be very careful with this. You must be 100% sure about this before acting on your desires. How sure are you that you know your teacher would be receptive of your advances? Yes, he might be "admiring" you, but is it because he lusts after you? He might be admiring you for some other reason (e.g., youth, talent, etc.). Think carefully before doing something you might regret later.
     
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    suck his cock! jp :tongue: 100% sure before anything
     
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    daveman*********************************************************
    Be attracted to the piano and the teaching purposes he gives.
    What ever he teaches you to play with next is up to you...but follow his led...he's the master teacher... gay or not Don't play him. Play the piano.
    Don't destroy or risk a good mutual relationship of respect for the talent(s)
    he's building in you which is the real tool...not the bump in your pant.
    Imagin This!:wink: :cool:
    Whopper-lee
    Be Safe, Be Careful, & Enjoy!:smile:
     
  8. chicagosam

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    Not a good idea. Find someone your own age. You will violate the teacher student relationship.
     
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    Just try it casual first...no need to have sex right away:) just go for a drink after your lesson or so...and talk some, not only about piano;s:
     
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    Nope -- don't do it. You attraction may be fleeting, but the music lasts a lifetime. I took piano lessons for 12 years as a child and only had 2 teachers, one of whom i had for 9 of those y ears. It's easy to become quite familiar with each other as you engage in music. There's the passion of the music itself, there's the intensity and the discipline... There's also the fact that, to work so closely together, you have to drop your defenses.

    I know several gay musicians and artists... just as with everyone else, there's a time when you have to suppress the hormones and just focus the art/music itself ...

    What would you do if you were in a gay quartet musical group? Ultimately, it wouldn't matter ... you would just focus on the music ...
     
  11. Mr. Snakey

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    If he is showing you the piano. There is no reason why you shouldn't show him the organ........:cool:
     
  12. JMeister

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    Take it up a notch and see if he responds. Perhaps an innuendo or two. Taking the lead from uncut you ask him if one knows how to play piano how hard is it to master the organ..
     
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    No. It doesn't matter if it's a private lesson, he's still your teacher, and it's a professional relationship.

    I feel sure he'll say "no".

    If you REALLY feel attracted to him as a person--and remember, it's easy to form a crush on someone you admire--you'll need to be prepared to terminate your profesional relationship, first.
     
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    yeah guys maybe you're right... so you're all agains it?
    I see him this friday.... but you get it he is like looking lots in direction to my pants.... (he is gay of course.. and only 18years older... lol)
     
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    As an individual who has in the past been hiton by older men and women, I would try to avoid any relationships with them. One person i Allowed tp khi on me, (a guy),, now wants to marry me . But if its what you really want go for it.
     
  16. earllogjam

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    What's better than red roses on a piano?

    Tulips on my organ.


    No - don't do it. He most likely is not interested in you. He could get a bad rap if he had sex with you anyways and that would be the end of his teaching days.
     
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