Help, Situationship? Relationship? Delusion?

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So there's going to be a lot to this story, but I need help.
One of my closest friends and I in the last few months have hooked up, it wasn't weird afterwards he just said that he's not ready for people to know that side of him, which I can totally empathise with, but our relationship only continued to grow from there, he'll message me when he first wakes to when he goes to sleep, about anything and everything, we go out together alone and he's cuddly and affectionate until someone else walks in the room, I understand he's in the closet, but its almost like he doubles down on the straight part of himself the morning after and will mention stuff about a girl he's "kinda seeing" but "not really"
time goes on and this continues, like I stay at his house but there's a fake mattress on the floor he pulls out so if his housemates see it looks like we didn't share a bed, again until he makes a move on me again, tells me he has feelings for me, I say I have feelings for him and this goes back and forth, usually with the same kind of "I love you, I just don't know how to navigate this", at this point I've fallen in love with him. I don't know a way to move forward without having to lose him completely, because he says he can't live without me, but I can't live in this limbo. Does he like me? Or does he like that I like him. This is a very TLDR version of what's happened, but I think I've covered the main points.
 
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I am a firm believer a person should come out when he is ready to. Don’t force him..if you love him and he loves you and you know he is just with you and not screwing other guys behind your back.. by all means be patient with him..

People think just because they came out that everyone should.
And we all know that’s a huge step to take .. not knowing how family or friends will react ..

As for myself I never considered myself in the closet.. I think my parents did right by not telling me about the gay world and straight world.. it’s something we shouldn’t be forced to hear every day.. don’t be a queer people will hate you … blah blah blah ..

so I’d love each other then bare with him
 
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You don’t mention how long this has been going on for. I’m all for giving him time but I don’t think it would be fair for you to wait forever either.

If I were you, I would ask many questions as to his insecurities and start making my own conclusions.
 

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A couple of months is not a lot of time. Finding someone you’re compatible with, have feelings for and returns your affection is rare. Unless he categorically refuses to come out in the future, I would stick with him.
 

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So there's going to be a lot to this story, but I need help.
One of my closest friends and I in the last few months have hooked up, it wasn't weird afterwards he just said that he's not ready for people to know that side of him, which I can totally empathise with, but our relationship only continued to grow from there, he'll message me when he first wakes to when he goes to sleep, about anything and everything, we go out together alone and he's cuddly and affectionate until someone else walks in the room, I understand he's in the closet, but its almost like he doubles down on the straight part of himself the morning after and will mention stuff about a girl he's "kinda seeing" but "not really"
time goes on and this continues, like I stay at his house but there's a fake mattress on the floor he pulls out so if his housemates see it looks like we didn't share a bed, again until he makes a move on me again, tells me he has feelings for me, I say I have feelings for him and this goes back and forth, usually with the same kind of "I love you, I just don't know how to navigate this", at this point I've fallen in love with him. I don't know a way to move forward without having to lose him completely, because he says he can't live without me, but I can't live in this limbo. Does he like me? Or does he like that I like him. This is a very TLDR version of what's happened, but I think I've covered the main points.
Whether the relationship is homosexual or heterosexual, it's still the same dynamic. After the bit you related, if he's not already committing to you, he likely will never commit to you. One can speculate until doomsday why he will not commit in the manner you wish, but that speculation will not change the inevitable. Put time and distance between you and him. Doing so will serve the dual purpose of removing him from the pedestal on which you've placed him and free you to find other, more promising, relationships.