Help wife with giving head

[Forsaken_Challenge83]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

 

[hammer75]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

My wife says her jaw gets sore after a few minutes with mine, although it’s too small for her to feel for sex, so it depends on the persons physical traits I suppose but if a girl is really into that than she might be willing to go past some barriers for pleasure. Does she enjoy giving you head other than being uncomfortable physically speaking? You do have a big dick so that might just be a barrier but it could be something mental too.

 

[Forsaken_Challenge83]

I really don’t think she enjoys it. She’ll do it to make me happy, but it doesn’t make me happy, because I know she’s not enjoying it. Maybe there’s nothing that can be done? I can’t force her to enjoy something.

 

[Pinto Sykes]

Poor guy. Mine gets extremely wet sucking mine and gets very into it. Love finger banging her to orgasm while she blows me. Doesn’t enjoy 69 though which is weird, would rather me do her first then she goes to town on me. Meh.

 

[not_brand_x]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

I can relate to this, and look forward to seeing what people suggest.

 

[Coronahead]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

I have had the same issue with both my long term partner's, their jaw gets sore after a few minutes, it would be nice if could get deep throated or get head for more than a few minutes. Like you, l do not like to see my partner suffer or not enjoy herself, so I just enjoy what she is able to do comfortably, also I find women are afraid of hurting my cock with their teeth, as long as it's not biting, teeth rubbing over my cock feel fine , if it's gentle. So you may find she is worried about hurting you, so you may want to discuss that. I just enjoy other parts of sex like intercourse and I know that she enjoys it a lot too.

 

[bosceltic]

Tricky one here man. The women I've been with that don't like giving blowjobs never really changed much in that regard. Look for another alternative route for pleasure

 

[Flexxx]

What about her licking the outside? It's not the same but it wouldn't give her a sore jaw

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with
oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

Maybe she's lying about the soreness because she doesn't like oral sex, and figures you'll accept the sort of compliment in return for no head.

Maybe she's honest about the discomfort but still doesn't like oral sex, and isn't willing to get used to her mouth being opened too far (assuming that can even happen)...it's just not a good return on investment for her.

Regardless of her reasons, it is unlikely you'll change much without making her feel obligated and quite possibly resentful. Put yourself in her shoes. Let's say she was really into watching you get pounded in the ass with huge dildo's, but you weren't into it and it was painful. Would you have much motivation to "get used to it", other than a desire to make her happy?

I would only suggest having a frank discussion with her about it, not immediately before or after sex, and definitely not during....

 

[Forsaken_Challenge83]

I see what you’re saying, but we have had an open an honest discussion. Her reasons were stated above and she has no reason to lie to me. We are the type that laugh at weird sex noises we make and talk about porn and last time we masturbated. We have a very good sex life and aren’t afraid to share any of our secrets. She’s 100% honest about her mouth hurting. I know she would do it otherwise, because she, like myself, is a people pleaser. I am obviously not going to make her do it. I was just trying to see if anyone had any experience with making the situation pain free.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I see what you’re saying, but we have had an open an honest discussion. Her reasons were stated above and she has no reason to lie to me. We are the type that laugh at weird sex noises we make and talk about porn and last time we masturbated. We have a very good sex life and aren’t afraid to share any of our secrets. She’s 100% honest about her mouth hurting. I know she would do it otherwise, because she, like myself, is a people pleaser. I am obviously not going to make her do it. I was just trying to see if anyone had any experience with making the situation pain free.

Cool, your first post had " dick is too big" in parenthesis as if perhaps you weren't buying it. Thanks for clarifying. Regarding jaw pain, she could condition herself to being more comfortable by doing it more...it's a matter of stretching muscles. But this has to be balanced with the FACT that this (forcing her jaw wider than it normally is comfortable) can absolutely cause jaw problems. I had a wisdom tooth extracted many years ago, and just that few minutes of having my mouth forced wider than normal caused me to have problems for years. So if she tries doing it more, you both need to be patient and take it slowly.

And @Flexxx gave a good suggestion, as good head is far more than just jamming a cock in and out. I'm above average girth, and not only used to having teeth scraping, but happen to enjoy having my wife bite and rub her teeth on it...and she happens to have a bit of a fetish for this, so it is a happy coincidence! Hell, she can just hold my cock next to her face and turn her head coyly, looking me directly in the eyes (for me it's "the look") and make me cum like there's no tomorrow. It's giving me a chub just thinking about it as I wrote this....

Talk more. Figure it out. Let us know your progress!

 

[hammer75]

I really don’t think she enjoys it. She’ll do it to make me happy, but it doesn’t make me happy, because I know she’s not enjoying it. Maybe there’s nothing that can be done? I can’t force her to enjoy something.

. I much rather her be happy then get what i want. I am very hesitant to even let my wife try to give me head because of the negative way i view my penis but i believe that sex with someone isnt about self gratification its about pleasing your partner. I happen to find my gratification through pleasing my partner but i know people can be different in their likes and dislikes. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship so you need to open that can of worms with her. Do it gently and respectfully and in love. That way it wont seem like you are blaming her or demeaning her into some sex object. Let us know how it goes.

 

[Infernal]

I find that you either enjoy sucking cock and have a passion for it, or you don't. If you don't, then it's more like a chore, instead of something you look forward to.

You might try a toy that she can use on you where she can just lick the head. Maybe your reaction will entice her to try a little more. If she can see how much pleasure you actually get from it, maybe the thought of that will help her.

 

[deleted1168963]

So, my wife and I have very open communication and I discussed with her reciprocating oral pleasure more often. I love going down on her and never see it as “something I have to do”. She, on the other hand, tries to skirt around giving head.

She says it’s because her mouth hurts, because my “dick is too big” for her mouth. I know I’m not the thickest, but she has a relatively small mouth.

Anyone have any experience with helping someone get better with oral? Is it impossible and her mouth will just never be able to accommodate my size?

Either they have the ability to open their wide enough or not. Two gals of mine had the ability to open their mouth wide enough to take my girth in their mouth. One of them could deepthroat me the other got it down far enough to see the throat bulge. My gal now can take two inches and that’s it. Not easy being girthy.

 

[693987]

I've unfortunately never found anything that made giving oral more comfortable. I enjoy giving oral, so I do it anyway, but the jaw/joint pain is not like learning to control my gag reflex or how to time breathing while deep throating. I am hyper mobile with a lot of my joints, so I think that may be part of my jaw problems. There is only so long that I can have a dick deeply in my mouth before it's too uncomfortable or flat out becomes painful. It may be the same for your wife