Help With Fap?

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hey guys, really need your help here. This is a serious question and i hope someone can relate and offer helpful, insightful feedback.

I have this daily need to FAP at least once a day in the morning, to clear my head and then go on being productive. the problem for me is, i like to have some kind of correspondence with real women on a dating site or lifestyle site to help me get going. In other words, i can't just dial up porn, take care of business and clear my mind 5 minutes later., and be on my way. I guess i need some kind of mental stimulation too with REAL women.

So as a result, i end up wasting HOURS online trying to get rid of this, trying to find a real women to correspond with online to talk to, flirt with. it's a HUGE waste of time. as a result i lose HOURS of productivity.

I wish i could just click on a hot porn vid and knock it out. but i can't. I guess if i were to self analyze, my criticism of porn is it's not real. I just see hot women getting paid to have sex. Women who just use their sexuality as a job to pay their rent. there's no emotion or reality to it.

I need help. I guess i need to find a way to move past it? or find some kind of hack to just knock it out in the morning, and go on about my day. Does that make sense? I guess at the end of the day, it's just an addiction i need to overcome?

can anyone offer advice, suggestions? thank you!
 

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i think you've just become desensitized to normal porn and now need "more" to get you off. it's pretty normal behavior for any type of addiction, to be honest. just like how alcoholics will eventually need more and more alcohol to get drunk; watching porn and fapping to it will eventually take its toll and then you'll need more (or at least something "new"). this is where the midget porn comes into play, lols (funny but true) or now it's time to transition from porn videos to porn chat to porn live stream to whatever...

the point is that you're getting worse and only you can decide where to draw the line. i can tell you that porn addiction, or any type of addiction, is our own way of dealing with something that is lacking in our own lives. i don't know what that is for you but you have to sort it out otherwise this rabbit hole that you are in will only get deeper.
 

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right. i don't disagree. although, i would argue that anybody with a modicum of intelligence would/should be bored with porn and how fake it is. (women getting paid to have sex) that all said, I don't disagree with you. this would be my closest behavior to addiction, so i am somewhat unfamiliar with its patterns.

although, i do wish there was someone out there who could relate? to my predicament?

i mean, before covid, it was manageable with structured hours of work. however now that i'm "working from home". it's a little bit tougher to crack the whip. with so much time on my hands (insert hand joke)

i think you've just become desensitized to normal porn and now need "more" to get you off. it's pretty normal behavior for any type of addiction, to be honest. just like how alcoholics will eventually need more and more alcohol to get drunk; watching porn and fapping to it will eventually take its toll and then you'll need more (or at least something "new"). this is where the midget porn comes into play, lols (funny but true) or now it's time to transition from porn videos to porn chat to porn live stream to whatever...

the point is that you're getting worse and only you can decide where to draw the line. i can tell you that porn addiction, or any type of addiction, is our own way of dealing with something that is lacking in our own lives. i don't know what that is for you but you have to sort it out otherwise this rabbit hole that you are in will only get deeper.
 

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Can I just say, with the near infinite categories and wide demographics of participants of porn online, you are either dangerously addicted and should seek immediate counselling, or you've painted yourself into a corner of preference that you alone have the power to escape, assuming your ego will allow your body to derive pleasure from the image of a woman you wouldn't get caught lusting after or pursuing in public.
How many countless rich and famous men have tired of their beautiful and willing wives to "slum" it with women(or men or transwomen) he would never appear in public with?
I'm going to give you this advice knowing full well you will not heed it; learn to evolve your libido. Learn to appreciate all the different shades and sizes women come in. Try to stay away from porn productions and studios altogether as they are literally formed upon the business model of providing a facsimile of pleasure. Stop lusting after actresses. If you can easily google her name or film history, it aint the porn for you. Maybe you need to see hairy, pimply, aged, and real people bumping uglies with stretch marks, unsteady camera work and poor lighting to start getting a glimpse of people getting and giving real pleasure as opposed to the scripted and directed mess that churns out the specific brand of "10" that no longer seems to get your mojo going.
 

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Sounds like you have an addiction. Just food for thought, you could visualize in your own mind what it is that gets you going.

I very rarely if ever use porn as a means to get myself off. It's far more easier for me to grab my cock, stroke one out and bada bing, bada boom, I'm done.

You have admitted you are wasting hours of productivity by trying to find something that turns you on. You may just want to try and get back to the basics of self pleasure. Masterbation 101, the objective is to cum and get on with the day. It's your dick, you'r body. Take the bull by the horn leave the porn alone and take matters into your own hand. Stroke one out and move on.

It's a matter of mind over matter. What do you have tp lose?
 

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interesting. what do you "use" porn for then?

Sounds like you have an addiction. Just food for thought, you could visualize in your own mind what it is that gets you going.

I very rarely if ever use porn as a means to get myself off. It's far more easier for me to grab my cock, stroke one out and bada bing, bada boom, I'm done.

You have admitted you are wasting hours of productivity by trying to find something that turns you on. You may just want to try and get back to the basics of self pleasure. Masterbation 101, the objective is to cum and get on with the day. It's your dick, you'r body. Take the bull by the horn leave the porn alone and take matters into your own hand. Stroke one out and move on.

It's a matter of mind over matter. What do you have tp lose?
 

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I don't use porn. Maybe once our twice a year. I know porn is just a bunch of paid naked actors. Not anything to do with real life.

It's supply and demand. Like chocolate if they waited on me to buy chocolate they'd go out business. Same with porn, if they waited on me to watch it they'd be waiting a long long time. It simply doesn't intrest me. I can visualize with my mind any fantasy I care to dream up.

I take care of my dick so it will take care of me. Meaning I keep everything in working order by keeping my pipe cleaned.
 
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Normal porn isn't what it used to be for me too. I mean... Ofc I can jerk off to it, but now I also see how fake it is. I can see - and I am happy about it now - through lie. I just look for amateur porn if I feel the urge to aliviate some stress.

But I am trying to stop with daily masturbation too. I deleted all my porn - not an easy thing to do - and I am trying to focus my thoughts in other things. In the end, after some abstinence, I got some pleasant surprises: my sexual appetite is bigger, my orgasms are stronger and I focus on the important things during the day.

Well, masturbation does help you with you stress, but I hope we can overcome this addiction. I am half way through it and I hope you can find strength to fight this addiction.
 
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i totally agree. I feel the same way. this is where i'm at too. I'm a little confused by some of these posts. they make it sound like they are members of LPSG for the news and intellectual insight. i have no interest in porn other than the quick release.

Normal porn isn't what it used to be for me too. I mean... Ofc I can jerk off to it, but now I also see how fake it is. I can see - and I am happy about it now - through lie. I just look for amateur porn if I feel the urge to aliviate some stress.

But I am trying to stop with daily masturbation too. I deleted all my porn - not an easy thing to do - and I am trying to focus my thoughts in other things. In the end, after some abstinence, I got some pleasant surprises: my sexual appetite is bigger, my orgasms are stronger and I focus on the important things during the day.

Well, masturbation does help you with you stress, but I hope we can overcome this addiction. I am half way through it and I hope you can find strength to fight this addiction.
 

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I get that OP is looking for a quick fix.... What I don't get is why anyone expects a quick fix for, "my penis doesn't work unless it is legitimized by female interaction."
Its only because of the fakeness that seems to turn you off to porn currently that I suggest a broadening of your viewpoint to reconcile that need and free you for quick orgasms not dependant upon someone else.
 

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well, to clarify, i don't expect anything. i think therein lies your confusion. I merely am wondering about a self observation and how i can improve upon it.

I get that OP is looking for a quick fix.... What I don't get is why anyone expects a quick fix for, "my penis doesn't work unless it is legitimized by female interaction."
Its only because of the fakeness that seems to turn you off to porn currently that I suggest a broadening of your viewpoint to reconcile that need and free you for quick orgasms not dependant upon someone else.