Help with First Time Love

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by blankagus, Jun 25, 2011.

  1. blankagus

    blankagus Member

    Joined:
    Aug 31, 2007
    Messages:
    60
    Likes Received:
    18
    Gender:
    Male
    Ok, I know I don't really post here too often but I do lurk around here pretty frequently. I feel even weird to talk about my problem but I do kinda need help in this since I'm kind of a virgin in all aspects of relationships.

    I'm not out at all and I'm just starting to fully accept my life and actually seeing a future as being gay. So recently I met this guy at some sort of event, but I have always seen him around my high school (he was a senior when I was a freshman and I always had a slight crush on him) and sometimes we may end up at random parties together. Right now, we're both in our early 20s. But this time, he came up to me and actually introduced himself to me and we actually had a long conversation; he met my whole family there too. We somehow ended up exchanging numbers and 'friending' each other on Facebook :rolleyes:

    I didn't think anything would happen but fast forward a couple days, he texted me to go out with him to eat (never specified it was a date or not). However, I declined and told him next time definitely because: 1. I had pink eye, 2. I had to study for a big test the next day.

    And since then we occasionally text each other all the time but that "next time" never came. There's so many signals that he keeps sending me through texts like complimenting my new hairstyle in such a way that NO straight man would ever say. And even calling my sister to check up on me. Whenever I'm in his part of town, I always text him and once even had the balls to ask him to hang out (which didn't happen due to my own time constraints). Lately though, we don't text each other as often as we did when this whole thing first started a couple months ago. But sometimes he can surprise me.

    Sorry for this whole wall of text but I tried to make it easier on the eyes :smile:. I just want help because I've always had this thing for him and God gave me the chance to finally do something about it. And I told myself that I don't want to let this chance go without at least trying something for it instead of relying on faith. So please give me some advice. Thanks a lot!
     
  2. Astiran402

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Oct 28, 2008
    Messages:
    13
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Verified:
    Photo
    He seems like he's into you. Maybe he's thinking the exact same thing as you are - worrying if you like him back too. If he wasn't interested in you then he would not even have bothered doing all those things. You should initiate the relationship and ask him out, you have nothing to lose so just go for it!!
     
  3. monel

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 23, 2007
    Messages:
    1,687
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    You need to ask him out for lunch.
     
  4. helgaleena

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2006
    Messages:
    5,663
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Wisconsin USA
    Or coffee!
     
  5. umami_tsunami

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 25, 2011
    Messages:
    393
    Albums:
    7
    Likes Received:
    37
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Philadelphia
    Verified:
    Photo
    Fortune favors the bold. If you don't risk some rejection, you will always feel regret. Rejection sucks, but regret is worse.
     
  6. yhtang

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 10, 2006
    Messages:
    1,565
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    170
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    South East Asia
    Very true. I think your friend is also wondering if you are interested.

    Faint heart never won a fair lady - or man. Give it ago, give him a call. If it turns out it is not to be, at least you have closure, and can go seek fun in other pastures.

    Best of luck to you, and keep us updated. I am rooting for you!
     
  7. lafever

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 14, 2007
    Messages:
    3,179
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    82
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    U.S.
    Sounds like you're both in love, take the chance, go for it.
     
    #7 lafever, Jun 26, 2011
    Last edited: Jun 26, 2011
  8. phoenixdown117

    Joined:
    May 23, 2007
    Messages:
    51
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    California
    Adorable post. You definitely should ask him out! Text him out, since that seems to be your guys' thing. :)
     
  9. SprinkleMe69

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 26, 2010
    Messages:
    7,882
    Likes Received:
    171
    Verified:
    Photo
    Go for it!
     
  10. blankagus

    blankagus Member

    Joined:
    Aug 31, 2007
    Messages:
    60
    Likes Received:
    18
    Gender:
    Male
    Sorry for such a late reply. Thanks so much for the compliments and advice. But funny how the day after I posted this, I saw him the next day and actually hung out with him the whole day today. He's really nice and he seems to be a touchy feely person. I don't know what else is gonna happen after this because once again it was never specified as anything lol. But I shall keep you guys updated!
     
Draft saved Draft deleted