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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by tug_, Nov 16, 2011.

  1. tug_

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    Im reaching out to the lpsg community for alittle support/insight. Within probably two weeks i hope to be having my first lone bi/gay experience. Probably no anal play, but definiately some oral and hand play. Want to know what to expect as far as meeting for the first time, how not to make it awkward?, what we can do to make things so smooth, some ideas to break the ice. weve been talking over the phone(text) and internet(email) and are keeping it from our wives. them finding out might be bad, but we are both curious and being curious isnt bad is it? We both understand that we can walk away at anytime and want to be really safe about it. Any insight would be helpful. thanks and cant wait to hear from you guys.

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    Dunno how you could make cheating on your wife not awkward unless you either
    1. Are working with an experienced cheater

    or

    2. Develop a legitimate relationship that makes it seem normal
     
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    Thanks for your input
     
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    Just have fun, but play safe!
    Nature has a great way of working things out.
    Be smart and enjoy the spontaneity.
     
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    WFT.

    And keep in mind that I'm very, very sex-positive. I'm also extremely consensually-driven (consent is one of my two principal limits, though it's a large umbrella). I'm just concerned that you'll end up with some sort of gloomy Brokeback scenario; as I recall, that ended poorly.

    I'm *all* into open relationships provided both partners are apprised of the situation and have equal freedoms as well as responsibilities. Does your wife have the same prerogatives of exploration that you've deemed worthy of your consideration?
     
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    whoa, I missed that part about your wives. Tell them what you desire and deal with the consequences - challenging or not. It's liberating to be honest and open to those we "love" or at least care about.
    but still, play safe
     
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    Cheating is cheating, and you are both about to do it. That is no fair.

    Why would it 'be bad' to be honest?

    Think with the brain in your head and weigh up the consequences of your keeping this sort of secrets.
     
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    I don't condone cheating but you gotta know that once you experiment for the first time, you'll want to go back for more and eventually find yourself entwined in a full blown affair. Not gonna lie to you, it will probably be one of the hottest sexual experiences you'll ever have, guilt aside. You gotta ask yourself before you get into this venture, "Do I trust myself to stop after the first time, even if I really enjoy it?"

    As far as what to do... my first gay experience was unforgettable. I met a friend at his house, we both knew why we were meeting...i don't think either of us saw ourselves as actually going through with the deed though. He popped a porno dvd onto his tv...we started rubbing our crotches through our pants...eventually he whipped out his dick and following his lead I did too....then he reached over and started slowly jerking my cock....hottest feeling ever....in minutes he was on his knees and I was creaming in his mouth....I returned the favor...and that was it. If you see him hesitant, just lead like my friend did and he will follow you.

    If it's your first time you will remember it forever. It will be hot but you have to think of the repercussions. Will you be able to fuck your wife again without thinking about him? Will you never entertain the idea of getting together with him again?
     
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    Cheating is only so if some sort of agreement was made and well we know the rest. The problem with many, MANY, relationships - people assume. They assume monogamy for their partner. Monogamy is a choice and cannot be assumed or forced on another person. If it is, it will rarely last. And here you are proving my point.
    Guilt has no healthy place in love or sex.
    I stand by my second opinion - talk with or to or at your partner and deal with your needs and wants. It's your life and its f*cking short. Enjoy the time you have together.
     
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